My sister was a consulting manager at for a mid sized consulting firm and got fired. She got fired about 6-8 months ago, and has since been very depressed. Recently, I found out that she has been ...

I just want to say that I feel really grateful for all the kind words/tips I got from this group , I hope I can help those who have the same issues to the extent possible. You are loved, don’t give up

I see a lot of people who have crippling anxiety here work out to feel better. My crippling anxiety kind of paralysis my legs (or at least feels like it to the point that I can’t even walk). Does anyone have similar symptoms and solution for it?
I am in therapy right now but just wanted to hear from someone who is also going through it

This is an emotional dump rn. It may be lack of social interaction but I'm really frustrated lately. I feel like I lost last 2.5 years of my life with ongoing lockdowns and job instability in the first half of the pandemic. I was 28 turing 31. I get good dates but -ve self talk
Inflation is high & coming from a low income family where you're supposed to help your parents is driving me nuts. Although I make a good salary, after rent, car insurance, there isn't much left (unfav currency exchange)

So really the only exercise I can tolerate is boxing, and those exercises around it. Any thoughts on replicating what I can find at my local boxing gym while on the road?

I’m on an estrogen patch and I feel like it’s making me really sad. Has this happened to anyone else?

Retrieval done, 26 eggs later! :) Good luck to all of you with retrievals coming up or are somewhere in the process! Fingers crossed for strong embryos!

Received my first prenatal massage at 19 weeks today and the therapist was trained and did a bit of myofascial stretching techniques. Never touched my stomach. Just lower back, arms, legs and feet. I have had cramps in my abdominal area since a few hours after the massage. Not sure if it’s cramps or stretching pains. Drinking a ton of water to flush out toxins, but is this pain normal?

I’m a first year associate and perpetually concerned I’m going to get fired bc I feel like my work product isn’t at the level it should be. Does anyone have an idea of how easy/ hard it is to get fired?

Who was around in 2008/2009 at big 4? Specifically in advisory? How were those practices affected during the layoffs? Any insight to ease some of the worry/unknown would be greatly appreciated.

With this crazy sickness going around what medication is everyone taking? It’s been a month since the cold and cough entered my house and it’s still here.

Losing hair really badly!!! :( I dont know if its the thyroid meds or just pregnancy. I'm currently 13 weeks. Any recommendations? I'm doing the hair oil stuff but that will take time.

Do we need a covid test for travel to India from US and back?

I just learned I was parentified severely, especially emotionally. The discovery came from outside of therapy, but having a place every week to sit down, slow down & reflect def led to it. Being enmeshed with my parents like this was a cause for my anxiety, low self esteem and workaholic, people pleasing tendencies. I'm working on extricating myself and finding my identity again in a way that will be easy on my conscience and values..so I'm learning! Please dont hesitate to go to therapy!...

Suppose your work for employer A. You get a job with employer B who files you H1-B transfer and you get fired by employer A before the transfer is approved. Does that have any effect on transfer?

We are all sleep walkers (specifically in Europe) walking towards the second wave of corona virus cases and potential lock-downs even though we should all know better.
Change my mind!

Got so comfortable with being on my own that I really think I will die alone.

Salam. 23M here - all my life I’ve had my back on our faith - never really prayed but had imaan (I guess). After bouts of depression from girl problems (🙄), issues within immediate family, being disappointed expectations I had for myself, etc. I’ve been working on bettering my situation over the years. Faith is the only area where I think I need more guidance. Having trouble relating to friends or family about this. Anyone else been thru something similar? How have you connected back to Islam?

With so much uncertainty in the economy and waves of layoffs that have hit tech especially hard... do we think there's really such a thing as a recession-proof job anymore if you're not an "essential worker"?

Hi Guys
Any suggession for last email. Jaate jaate dhamaka karna h EY m 🤣

Hi,
Is python+microservices+ gcp is good techstack to grow?

Hi Fishes,

l interviewed for Deloitte (India not USI) in January, and accepted an offer letter with DOJ of 25th April, later HR asked me to join on 11th April for which I agreed. Now I haven't received the revised offer letter or any links other than BGV and Pre-Hire form from Deloitte and now the HR is not even picking my calls or responding to emails.

Any advice on what to do?

Random, but valid/persistent thought.

After 2 years of a pandemic and working independently for many years, I am not feeling interviews AT ALL. There are points in the interview where I want to just say "Look! Either hire me or don't".

How can I get over this feeling? I'm over the whole "stand in the line of fire to prove how good I am" bs. Any recommendations for getting over this or possible industries to pivot into to avoid bs interview processes and ghosting?

Pranam Fieshes ,

How to declare tax on joining bonus? First time got joining bonus , how to mention it in tax declaration . Please help

Your lovingly,
Fish

Hi Fishes,

Any idea about Group lead salary in PAS ?

Partners: where do your clients come from? Do you spend more time acquiring new clients or using your network from past projects/peers?

Internship Program Help: Hi Everyone! I’ve never worked for a company with any type of internship program at all, let alone a really successful one. My new company thrives off our internship program, with many of our managers/directors having started as one themselves. I’d like to create more of a structure to this program but not even really sure where to begin. Also don’t want to bite off more than I can chew, but would love to hear some tips or even better, maybe have a quick chat if willing?

What is on job security for senior engineer in HTC global services if you are new joiner and on bench since 2 months ?

Hi Fishes,
I recently got shortlisted for a Product Manager position at Tracxn. There’s also an IPO coming up which is the reason I had applied.
But I have read some horrifying reviews about the company on Glassdoor, indeed and other forums.

I’m wondering whether it’s worth going through the interview process and I’d also like to hear opinions from anyone who has worked with the company or is aware of the company culture.

Thanks.

How long does it take for PwC to send out rejection email? I interviewed with the team like a month ago, the recruiter called me the next day and told me that congrats, everyone likes me and told that they were working on my official offer. 3 weeks later, nothing. I followed up 3 times already and got the answer that I should expect to hear by the end of the week. My last follow up email, no response lol. Should I just move on now?

What are the major differences between being a tax associate at a firm vs big four? Currently a state tax court clerk deciding what to apply to for next year.

I have worked as data engineer in service based companies and mostly worked on informatica and IBM datastage , SQL, Teradata currently doing trainings on python and GCP. I need guidance on how/where to prepare for typical data engineering profile to crack interviews in Faang/Maang or other good product based companies.
Main problem is I can learn many things but due to lack of hands on experience in the Cloud technologies
Yoe: 7 years
Skills : ETL, DWH and sql (need to master) , unix , teradata

Anyone know what a salary from a mid level creative should be or pushed for?

How do you quit your job at an agency?

I just want to say that I feel really grateful for all the kind words/tips I got from this group , I hope I can help those who have the same issues to the extent possible. You are loved, don’t give up

I see a lot of people who have crippling anxiety here work out to feel better. My crippling anxiety kind of paralysis my legs (or at least feels like it to the point that I can’t even walk). Does anyone have similar symptoms and solution for it?
I am in therapy right now but just wanted to hear from someone who is also going through it

Sharing some positive vibes! After getting a massage and a haircut, I felt so much better !!! Making small changes everyday!

How have you combated your fear of rejection? I fixate on such small things as when my friends, for example, reject plans I have made. This definitely makes me more averse to putting myself out there and makes me ruminate on past perceived failures, which are clearly not good for personal growth

I just learned I was parentified severely, especially emotionally. The discovery came from outside of therapy, but having a place every week to sit down, slow down & reflect def led to it. Being enmeshed with my parents like this was a cause for my anxiety, low self esteem and workaholic, people pleasing tendencies. I'm working on extricating myself and finding my identity again in a way that will be easy on my conscience and values..so I'm learning! Please dont hesitate to go to therapy!...

I’ve been depressed for years now and this past week I lost a dog I’ve had for 15 years; he was one of the only bright spots in my life and I’ve just found it so hard to focus or motivate myself on anything after this. I genuinely feel like I’m at rock bottom, Idk if I’m crazy to feel that way bc of a dog but I used to be able to control this and put up a front but now my depression and anxiety are starting to leak into my work conversations completely unintentionally, I wish this would stop :(

Anyone else have bipolar disorder? I really have a hard time when my boss says I didn’t do something entirely correctly I can just completely spiral out of control if I’m in the wrong mood cont.

I can’t anymore I can’t 😭

I’m feeling anxiety about Coronavirus. Does anyone else think that the virus is being used by the government for population control? I don’t know if I’m paranoid.

What are some good websites to find PhD psychologists in Southern California?

Have you ever not eaten for a really long time but just can’t? I’m tired and hungry but there’s some sort of...wall. I can’t get myself to do it. Not anorexic, I’m chubby, but...anxiety.

Well, my turn to feel like crap. Silently crying in the back of the Uber taking me home, where more hours of work await. Yeaaaah. That kind of day

Is anyone utterly confused about what they want to do long-term?

Any recommendations for a female psychologist in the Alexandria,VA area?

How do you detach your self worth from your job? I have a lot of good things in my life and generally like myself as a person, but if I feel like I’m under performing, everything else feels bad

Opinions on AbleTo?

Up antidepressant dosage or quit?
Relatively new position at a coveted firm as their Marketing and BD manager. Have suffered burnout and depressive episodes previously: can feel the symptoms raising it’s head. Most importantly, struggling to tolerate how directors speak to me, whereas previously I wouldn’t take it personally and get on with it. Actively looking for a different position as I’ve come to discover this company exploits EME employees, but want to attempt to end on a “high note”.

Just started Zoloft. Can I drink? I know it’s I’ll advised, but will it destroy my liver or just add to the depression?

Took my first ever sick day today on account of my very poor and worsening mental health. Just could not bring myself to put in another 14 hour day with back to back meetings and constant activity. Felt very guilty but I honestly wish I could be more honest and actually share with my manager about why I took a day off.

For those also going through this, any tips on how you manage yourself day to day? What self talk tends to help?

Struggling with separating what's for real and what my anxiety is making me believe. Like when I am stressing about something, I don't know if things are going south and I should be doing something...