Normal to feel like you essentially have no life when your kids are young? Between my work, and my wife’s grad school, just isn’t much time at all for hobbies/social life. And baby 2 on way now also.

Hi fishes,
How is the wlb in Amex?

Went from a big firm to work for a smaller firm. The people in the smaller firm are protective of their work and are good by their work too. I no longer feel chaos or stress. I am treated with respect and my schedule is more normal. I am even working more billable hours than before, but it feels like a seamless experience. I don’t work then past 5pm or anything out of the ordinary for this time of the year. I am so grateful!

Guys ,
I have offer from Volkswagen It services .How's this company for wlb, growth and hike perspective.

Working remotely for a tech co and still can't get over how much more time I get to spend with my kids. To be honest, this alone is worth so much more than money can buy. For those who plan well, I really think exiting can be worth it if family is a priority. It's really helped my marriage also, I'm a lot kinder to my wife with way less stress.

Trying to get a 45 y/o sibling in to consulting (was an entrepreneur prior in the restaurant industry). No college degree but willing to bust his but to learn. Books/online courses recommended pls

House flip question

Hey all newbie here. My husband and I are living that Double Income No Kid life wanting to (Financial Independence) Retire Early.

Both in tech in the Bay Area. I’m in Arizona visiting family and am thinking of an investment property. Does anyone have a book/course/video that they personally have used and recommend for flipping houses? I want to do some research there’s a lot of content out there.
Thanks a bunch!

Would anyone be interested in participating in a research study? The only requirements are to be a school district employee and have a child in the district with special needs. Please help!!!

A question from a youngster. Is working at a big big company with slightly low pay better or working at a much smaller company with higher pay better?

In the future, after a few years, let’s say I’m at a small company and want to switch to big big company, will the “small names” hurt my chance to get into the big doors?

I mean big big company is like 10x bigger than the small one if this was a factor. Assume everything else the same, WLB, commute, teams, etc.

I joined KPMG a while ago from federal consulting. Federal consulting had super good work life balance but I’ve been working at KPMG strategy for a while now. The hours are wild, my managers expect perfection, and I feel like it’s all meaningless. Does anyone else feel like this, how have you dealt with it, and is it like this once you go into industry?

Planning on leaving after this busy season. Finding it hard to have motivation, while also having to work more hours than ever before. Advice?

Had an FET transfer and just got the news that the pregnancy test is negative. Feeling very defeated about it. All my labs are good (AMH 3.1) and the embryos were PGA tested. Have only two left now, and this was the best quality one. The irony is I did feel pregnant couple days after transfer but then I stopped feeling pregnant. I read that some women don’t really “feel” pregnant until 6-7 weeks… but i did “feel” then stopped. It just sucks. If you have any advice for coping, I’d appreciate it.

Can a relationship survive with two tops/bottoms? I met a guy I really liked but we are… on the same side

How have you combated your fear of rejection? I fixate on such small things as when my friends, for example, reject plans I have made. This definitely makes me more averse to putting myself out there and makes me ruminate on past perceived failures, which are clearly not good for personal growth

Thinking of pivoting from insurance defense to something more meaningful and (dare I say it) with more work life balance. Currently in my 7th year of practice and am just tired of ID. Anyone make the transition? Any advice?

Any book recommendations for grieving the death of an estranged parent?

Hello my desai colleagues! I'm a proper ABCD, I have lived in India for all of 3 years. When I go to visit, I have a hard time connecting with the family members there. Most of my family is in Chennai

Has anyone else told their religious parents that they were moving in with an SO before marriage? I did, it didn’t go super well- they disapprove of it (cont)

My gf and me call each other everytime we have free time. However lately she seems disinterested in phone time. She never initiates calls anymore and she tells me she wants to hang up in the middle of the day and not right before bedtime. We live a 4 hour drive apart. And I told her this is like living together from a distance, because I put her on the house speakers. What can I do to keep her engaged?

What do you do about your house plants if both you and your SO are out of the house for an extended period? I could move some of the smaller ones to friends, but there are planters that are attached to balcony and patio. Any ideas 🐠?

At what point during an interview process do you mention upcoming paternity leave (2-3 months after potential start date)

Creative recruiters. When looking at candidates, how much does the resume matter vs. the portfolio? Do you even look at the resume? Thanks

You can slap anyone in the world right now with zero consequences, Purge style. Who do you slap? I'll go first: my landlady that increased my rent by 120%, while I still have no hot water.

Hi everyone,
I joined nagarro in July,22 and my first salary credited in aug,after that i was able to declare flexi and tax components ,then my second salary credited for sep month and it was very less ,bcoz of flexi declaration.but when i calculate declared flexi amount is ~25k ,as per nagarro it is tax saving component which you can claim later.but I am still not understanding why my executive allowance is very less this time from which ,i got in august 112000 and in sep it is ~21k in payslp

Hello fishes

Could you please provide feedback on below companies and their work culture for a Java Developer

UST Global
T System
Yoe: 5.5 years


UST global offering 2.5 lakh more than T system

Hi All,


I have 3 offer letter in my hand Ericsson 12 lpa,PWC 14 lpa and Comm-IT 18 lpa.

So please suggest me which company is better and why.

Can I go with best salary or go with brand.

I have 7 year experience in java development

I have observed that people on testing domain or frontend are getting better pay than other new tech domains like blockchain, cyber security, data sci etc(4-11yr exp) .
For less than 4 years experience new tech job gettig good pay but others getting very less.

In dev job Java, spring r etc getting better pay. Also some SAP consultant are also get paid high.
Is exp people in testing/frontend dev are less due to which they getting better pay than others with experience.
Based on fish posts*

VENT: I feel completely demotivated after our new FOW announcement and it gave me whiplash. Working here has been a dream, so it feels weirdly hurtful to be publicly celebrated as part of the “expanded talent pool” in announcements, but be told privately that my return to the office will be accompanied by a massive pay cut because of where I live. I didn’t choose to live here/move, the company chose ME where I’m at. I feel like I don’t belong because everyone else seems happy with this.

Hi everyone

My current CTC is 4.1L

My skills: Manual, API, Performance testing

Yoe: 3

Thinking of joining another company, How much should I expect in my next package jump?

Kindly help me with your suggestions!

I work at an agency and I'm about to be promoted from senior to lead designer. What do you think would be a fair % of salary raise?

I’m a defense attorney looking to make the switch to the plaintiff side. I’m in Los Angeles and I’m wondering what a reasonable compensation package would be. What percentage should I be making off of the cases?

I just accepted a new position last week and am scheduled to start mid-July. I have a couple of concerts this summer (1 on a Saturday and 1 on a Thursday evening). I also have a wedding to attend the weekend of Labor Day weekend and a week trip planned in February. Should I alert them to all of this now? Or wait until I sign the paperwork?

Those of you in industry post consulting, when you get a new internal job are signing bonuses a thing, or have you seen any version of this?

Is it possible or even allowed to take a leave of absence to focus on getting the CPA exams done?

Why do guys don't ask girls on dates anymore? I know this guy likes me, he already told me friends so but hasn't acted or done anything in respect to us hanging out alone, such as get food

Is anyone in the Boston area hiring? (non-public, but I have 3 years of public experience in Internal Audit).