One of my siblings has a substance abuse problem since their teen years. It’s impacted me and traumatized me deeply. I keep in touch with them regularly because they have small children that I don’t want to be isolated from them in case of a relapse. My sibling thinks I want to have a relationship with them and it triggers me when they say they want to hang out more than what I have boundaries for. I don’t really want a relationship, I just want to stay close to keep an eye on their sobriety.

One of my good friends is not very cautious with her approach to COVID and it's made me pretty uncomfortable, so I recently decided I don't want to risk seeing her in person anymore. I thought I could just decline invites to meet up, but she's getting persistent. Is there a polite way to tell her the truth without coming off as judgmental? She can certainly make her own decisions; I just don't want to put myself at risk by meeting up.

I’m excited to marry my SO in a few months but I have severe stage fright and do not like being the center of attention. Any advice on how to reduce the anxiety and just enjoy the day?

Any moms on here that absolutely love their company and feel 100% supported?

Any other strategists have their spouse, lover, partner tell you “you just like to argue” ?

My view is while I like to debate I don’t like to argue (the later being infused with negative emotion/pain)

Ya’ll have similar struggles?

Is it considered mental abuse if your partner is depressed and instead of getting help or addressing the issue, they let their emotions out on you and expect you to change and be their therapist? Causing you to have severe mental health issues and lowering your own mental health?

On the topic of intimacy with partners… I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years and the past year his libido has dropped to zero. Mostly due to work stress (he says). Whenever I try to initiate, he always shuts me down and says he’s not in the mood. I even touch him and he gets hard but stops me as soon as I try to unzip him. We went from once a week to maybe once a quarter.

I’ve talked to him about it and he says I should take care of myself. So frustrated. 😭😭

Getting over heartbreak and having a full time job is torture lol. My boyfriend and I just broke up after almost a year of being together. It was such a beautiful relationship but ultimately he just didn’t love me. I love him so much. My mind knows that I deserve reciprocal love and I’m worthy, but I feel physically ill. My body hurts, my stomach is in knots, my head hurts. How is it that I have to mend a broken heart but also meet my billable hours lmao

A long post: seeking some perspective. My husband of 2 years that I’ve been in a relationship with for more than 8 years just woke up one day and told me that he’s unhappy in our relationship. I’m devastated because he’s never expressed anything like this in the 8 years. He’s been super supportive and loving, even when we were in a long distance relationship. He supported my career and dreams and this just doesn’t make sense. We have gotten a counselor but things aren’t getting better. Comment>

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

Been with my GF since college and we recently hit the 4 year mark. 1-2 years into our relationship I found out she had instances of micro-cheating (flirting with guys, talking to ex’s etc - but nothing physical) and we addressed it. To her credit and my knowledge, she’s been apologetic and great at respecting boundaries since, but I still feel the pain from her actions years ago (and have talked to her about it). Feeling lost about whether to just leave or to try and work things out

My wife reads nearly an entire book per day just in her spare time after work, no exaggeration. I’m amazed by her and wondering what ideas are out there to monetize her skill? Book editing maybe?

Confession: The only in-law that I had a great relationship with passed away unexpectedly. The two remaining in-laws were on thin ice with me prior due to years of drama, nagging, and disgusting display of wealth. I believe their demand of money and general assholish behavior drove in law to his death. I love my S.O. but I can’t deal with the drama anymore.

I want to have a family and a future that is drama-free and full of love and don’t want to surround myself with negativity.

Anyone marry their law school sweetheart?

I’m (early30s) about 8 months into a relationship with a 40m. Things are wonderful in every aspect, but he is absolutely atrocious with his finances. I felt it becoming an issue about two months ago. He forgets about auto payments and just generally doesn’t care. I sat down with him and looked at everything and even after talking it out he still continues to stress and it’s now causing me stress. I had a final discussion with him today about it and he went on abt how love isn’t enough for me…

Is getting back together with an ex always a bad idea?

My ex and I have trouble remaining broken up. We’ve broken up over 9 times (9 times!). It’s dysfunctional, but we generally love being around each other and it feels comfortable. What to do? (Cont)

I’ve been in a relationship now for two years. We are living together. We talk about the future etc. I could easily see myself marrying her. However, I have an issue… cont

Opinions on career clerkships? Especially with a two year old and wanting another child eventually.

My relationship just ended yesterday because he wanted to “focus on myself and figure things out.” My relationship before that ended (~2 years ago) because he wanted to focus on himself. I can’t help but feel like it’s because something is wrong with me. What am I doing wrong?

Perhaps not directly relevant, but I have a difficult family background. Never known my dad, my mom had serious drug/mental health issues. Grew up with grandparents and aunt & uncle. Somehow I miraculously did well in school and ended up in big law. For Christmas I plan on faking quarantine to explain why I’ll be alone, though I want to be more upfront with colleagues, friends and potential partners, but I’m afraid my story will appear off-putting to them. Or will it reflect positively on me?

ACCENTURE is HIRING..!!!

Hello Fisher's,

Those who is looking for job change and have min 2.5 YOE and more then you can DM me for referral.

I’ve heard electric cars aren’t actually as clean as they make them out to be since the electricity they use is still being produced by coal-powered plants. To what extent is this true? Is the reduced environmental impact worth the investment at this point in their development?

How are appraisals at Wissen Technology ? Wissen Technology Wissen InfoBeans

Hi fishes,
Does anyone know how is SAP Fioneer as a company?
I mean, has anyone heard anything negative about it? Because in my research it looked good only, but just wanted to know if anyone has any contradictory opinions.
Thanks

Is 16LPA low for 5Exp. Devops background

Walmart hr collected all the documents from me but she hasn't come up with an offer from the last one month...., Will Walmart give me an offer or not??
@walmart

is there any AML KYC or Financial crime or Fraud investigation roles open for Team Lead level in JPMC? can someone refer me with one? issue is if they are accepting Team Lead experience without it being on papers..

Jr AD trying to find his footing

So I know this will sound crazy ... but I've never really had to have a portfolio, in the conventional sense, but a current offer is asking for one. What's the best way to build one out? Thanks!

So who wants to continue WFH forever?! Think that’ll be an option? Curious how this will play out in a few months.

Hi all,

I'm currently working at Infosys as MSBI developer and looking for opportunity in any of Big 4. I noticed there is a job vacancy for the role I fit in PWC in Linkedin and here to check if anyone could help me with referral.

TIA.

Hi fishes. I am trying to get into PWC in a legal sector (contract management services). I carry 5.5 years of experience. Did upload my resumes to their website but seems they do not review it from there lol. I am unable to get in touch with consultants too. Can somebody please refer me for the same, i hv been trying hard but no fruits. Thanks in advance!

Anyone joining PwC AC Banglore on 6th September?
Have you got any mail for a laptop or any onboarding details?

Anyone that can give a referral for a content operations role in Hotstar?

Newport Starbucks closed again 😢

Fine line is great in the summer, just watch for the birds

What is DD like?

Hi all. I was recently diagnosed with bipolar disorder type 2 and it’s been hard to heal with the ups and downs of a very competitive sales position in the current market. Before taking FMLA for 12 weeks I was a top performer. Any advice from those that also live with bipolar disorder, or advice on a potentially a less stressful position to ease out of sales? I have 7 years healthcare sales and 1.5 years as a MLO.

What do you think about Retention Bonuses? Is it a good or a bad thing? Love to hear your thoughts on this.

How does one ever differentiate love and sex? How did you get sure you’re partner loved you and wasn’t just considering you an easy sex couple of times every night?

Been seeing this guy for 1 year now. I just became an American citizen so have been getting more into politics. I lean left but the guy I’m seeing leans more conservative. He treats me so well and we get along great. Yes we disagree about topics but have respectful conversations and have both become more open minded. He doesn’t think it’s an issue. I feel like the media and the judgement of dating someone on the right is getting to me & making me have negative sabotaging thoughts. Any advice?

I probably had COVID this week. Fever Mon-Wed. Slight cough Thursday. Back to normal today. It still sucked a lot, please don’t downplay this.

I really ruined things with the most beautiful girl that’s ever liked me before. I still very much like her but she doesn’t anymore. She said I was asking too much of her during the talking stage (after 1 month, I wanted to talk to her more besides only our weekends - she never texted/called).
Do I try again and give her more space or do I move on? I think she might open up more but just takes time which I didn’t give her

I listened to Motorsport 4 times this morning.

Trying so hard to study after years. How do people do this 😫
I’m really struggling to get into that mindset.

Hypothetical Q: If a house has two half baths and three full baths, how are they counted? 4 Baths, or 3.5 baths +.5 baths?

It's true, tis is my confession.
I shower 6 times a day. AMA

Gents - What perfume/cologne brand do you wear?

Probably the least racy confession on here but I really liked Windows 8 and I'm sad there's nothing like it anymore

I put up Halloween decorations this weekend 🎃🍁🍂

Pic thread! Pic thread!! Pic thread damn it!!! Come on everyone!!!!!

I just tested positive for covid…

Suggestions to change name of a company? My current employer is a Series A startup. Their name is weird and corny, and just not very techy. Wondering if there’s a way to bring this up to the founders so they would consider the name before we grow bigger and become stuck with the bad name

Forget about Uber.

Thoughts on those credit card machines that ask for tips?

I’m standing there stressing out with people behind me and all the person did was push a button to get me black coffee!