People who live far from family…..how do you handle it? Due to many circumstances I live far away but feel so homesick and miss my family a lot. I ask myself how I ended up so far away. Anyone else have this issue? How do you deal?

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My family live in another country. I often ask myself the same question. How the heck I ended up in another country. I am lucky If i can see my family every second year. Given their age and the frequency of my visits, I believe I will see them 7 to 10 more times and that's it. 10 more times! I have definitely made some bad decisions in my life and it is too late to go back. But to my last day, I will ask the same question, "was it worth it?"

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Similar story. I came for university and found the one and got married. I am super happy with my life but there is always something missing. Now I have a child and things are even trickier. I am now experiencing first hand that how much effort that goes into raising a child and I can't imagine my child to live in another country. It must be so hard on my family. They tried for years to convince me to go back but eventually gave up.

I video call my parents twice a week at least but it is not the same.

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I fly to see them, they come to see me. I generally get home 2x a year, and my parents come at least once. I try to get to see my siblings separately at least once a year as well.

I also talk to my parents 4-5x a week. It might seem like a lot, but most days we only chat for 10-15 min, just to catch up. I talk to my siblings once or twice a month, and we FaceTime/Zoom with the whole fam a few times a year.

I’m also quite lucky to have a close group of friends where I am. Even though I’m half way across the country from my home town, some of my childhood best friends live close by. I have friends that have become family as well.

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My family is 1200 miles away. I usually drive to see them 4 times a year and spend about a week or two each time. I drive because it is cheaper (me and 2 kids) and I have more control over travel (flight delays). The military brought me to where I’m at now and I decided to stay here because lower cost of living and better opportunities. If I were back home I would not do as good as I am doing now. There are times where I wish I was closer to my family for support and because I love them. We FaceTime a lot and I call my mom every other day. My father and I talk about once a week. I may move back in a few years when my oldest son finishes high school but I haven’t decided yet.

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To me, nothing is worth living away from family. I would rather make less money and see less of the world than miss out on spending time with them.

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Don’t let COVID get in the way of it. Are you vaccinated? If not, do it. Wear a mask and go. It’s worth the benefit of seeing your family.

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The pandemic really changed the deal. My country has closed their borders and until consulates open up for visa services, if I leave to visit home I can’t return. The only stability I have right now is financial/career, so I try to be grateful for that.

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I'm in the US, 6000miles away from my parents and grandparents I grew up with. Been going home two times a year to visit but due to medical and then later covid reasons, I haven't been home for three years now and I often wonder why we just don't go back

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I had this problem. I couldn’t deal with missing them, so I moved closer to them. Before that though, I FaceTimed them all the time.

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I resonate with this!! I had many good reasons for moving away, but since COVID hit, I can hardly stand how much I miss them and how lonely I feel. I struggle everyday not to quit my job and move back home :'( I find that this is a good opportunity to really examine whether I want to stay where I am long-term, or if I should move back.

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I see my folks maybe once a year in person. Facetime with them every week or two. I could honestly do with even less contact than that.

My wife’s family is pretty scattered, but everyone assembles in one place once a year, and we try to see each other in smaller groups when we can. Seeing more of them would be awesome.

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My family is overseas. Since the last time my parents visited me, I started a job, got a car, got a house. And they still have yet to see these. But I'm just hoping covid will get better in a few years and I can see them more. Just video chat more, no big deal

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Unfort video chat isn’t the same as being in person. In my case I feel such a big difference btwn the two

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I’ve had some family problems since the pandemic. I won’t go into the details, but it has made going home a non starter. I’ve made it a point to call/talk to my family members (who are willing to talk) on a near daily basis. Even if it’s when we are both working towards the end of the day. It doesn’t do it complete justice, but it’s kept me happy

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Fly to see them

Yes though covid has gotten in the way of that. Even when I can fly it’s best 3x a year :(

I call my parents almost every day - even though I only see them a couple times a year I don’t miss them too much cuz we’re always chatting 🙂

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