Recently started working out of UG & moved to a new city for work. I have no friends and seems like the in-office activities are still long off despite vaccinations. It’s frustrating that people keep saying to just show up to zoom events, do coffee chats, etc. That doesn’t build relationships, let alone friendships, and it seems like a disconnect that older people think it is. Wondering if any new hires are feeling this or just me.

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No one thinks zooms, coffee chats, etc are a suitable replacement. But, it’s people trying to make the best of a bad situation.

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I’d rather admission that it sucks than be blamed that it’s my fault for not going to enough Zoom events, which is the messaging I’ve personally received

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Definitely feel this - depending on your comfort level and how things are in your area, would recommend reaching out to the people in your start class to see if people want to meet up in person! In my city a lot of people are starting to be vaccinated and feeling more comfortable doing things with groups, even if just outdoors, and it’s made a huge difference to my mental health to be able to see people again. I’m sure your fellow new hires are feeling the same, and given the company will be slow to move back in person for legal reasons, you can’t wait for them to do this for you

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OP how you going to meet any friends if you won’t even tell MCK1 what city you’re in? Maybe MCK1 was trying to be friends.

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What city are you in? Seems like some are slowly opening up?

Are there any other analysts in your office? Not the worst idea to see if any want to do something on a weekend.

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OP I am in a new city too - moved here during the pandemic and it’s been tough. Events with my start class have helped me survive! And I go on walks in parks-helps with mental health

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Where in Texas? Texas has been open lmao

OP — presumably you’re young. Just suggest to others in your cohort to meet up live. It’s fine. You’ll all be fine.

I felt like this even before the pandemic haha :/ but first of all try not to compare yourself with anyone else’s experience. Second take this time to cultivate your self - your hobbies ( maybe new things), your health etc! Are you a girl? Bc for me bumble BFF has been a good way to meet new people. I would also reach out to your friends and see if they know anyone in your city most of my friends here are friends of friends. Also reach out to your cohort and ask if anyone wants to meet for drinks or something more people are in the same boat as you and probably waiting for someone to reach out

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