So am I the only vet that’s feels out of place??? I’ve got what feels like several hundred apps in across multiple job “helping” sites and apps and not so much as a call back, a thank you but we’ve gone a different way NOTHIN! I served 13 years and I’m fuckin lost! I’ve got an amazing wife, and four kiddos to support, what do I need to do? I feel like I’m failing my family…..sorry for the long post.

Breakup etiquette- we broke up and I was supposed to go to his relatives’s wedding in a couple of weeks. I know the couple, not super well, but have hung out and texted individually as well. Should I let them know I won’t be attending and wish them well or don’t reach out to them?

Dating my bf for about 6 months and he’s best friends with his mom and tells her everything. He even told his mom about the one time I tried a drug, before I met him. I thought I told him in confidence and now I found out he told her. How would you feel?

How do you deal with trying to live and establish a life of your own but also making sure to grateful and aware of the sacrifices your family has made to get you to where you are now?

Any book recommendations to gift my cousin sister? She studied (masters) psychology and is a trained classical dancer.

Been seeing a guy for a few months now and I can’t stop myself from getting in my head. I’ve never been in a solid relationship before like this and I’m afraid I’m going to mess it up. We’re together most nights and some nights I need a night off or some space, but when I don’t hear from him I get paranoid that I did something.
I don’t know how to just let things be and feel we’re as good as I know we are.

My partner hates my long working hours.

It is really hard to do well in this business without sacrifice and my partner doesn't like it. To be fair that sacrifice is her... Most nights,over the weekend, and during every meal. She deserves better but I either sacrifice time or sacrifice earning potential.

I don't know how to solve this problem.

Married to a crazy rich girlfriend and it's the worst experience of my life. She can afford anything, flying first class everywhere, wears all branded stuff and she doesnt have to work for life. I am working very hard to provide for family and I am still not able to add any value to her life and she's been distancing herself. We havent had any meaningful interaction in the past 1 year too, been sleeping separately, no touch/kiss/sex or anything like that. We might be divorcing soon...

My brother-in-law (age 30) told us recently that he is transgender. How can we support him? (‘Him’ as we haven’t discussed pronouns yet). It was a surprise to us!

I find it hard to keep it together at school. I was in an abusive relationship that finally lead me to emptiness and emotional trying times. I keep things bottled up about school and home.

I low key miss fridays in the office because I don’t know how to make new friends as a 26 year old

Been with my GF since college and we recently hit the 4 year mark. 1-2 years into our relationship I found out she had instances of micro-cheating (flirting with guys, talking to ex’s etc - but nothing physical) and we addressed it. To her credit and my knowledge, she’s been apologetic and great at respecting boundaries since, but I still feel the pain from her actions years ago (and have talked to her about it). Feeling lost about whether to just leave or to try and work things out

My SO and I are contemplating pursuing MBAs simultaneously; is it advisable? Any personal experiences to share?

I and my boyfriend have been dating over a year now. Our relationship in general is pretty smooth and sweet. The only problem is he has not come out to his parents yet. It was not an issue before the pandemic thing since we were just living in the city, being in our own bubble. But Covid happened and he moved back to stay with his dad. Since he is not out, he can’t pick up the phone call whenever I call him, he can’t tell his parents he is dating someone in the city. Cont.

Any thoughts on open relationships? Has anyone tried one? I’m curious. Kinda wanna explore that but unsure.

GF is 32 and I’m 28. She wants kids within 2 years, understandably. I never envisioned having kids that early (more like late 30s), but I like her a lot. Anyone else gone through something similar?

I’m with a guy I’m 100% confident is deeply in love with me, would never lie/cheat/betray, respects me/listens to me, and tries to help me live my best life.
(A Kokoum, if you will.)
I love him very much, but I’m not “head over heels”.
Afraid that if I break it off because our relationship is cozy instead of the deep love I think it’s supposed to be for life partnership/marriage, I’ll be making the biggest mistake of my life

Have you walked away from somebody you loved? And why?

This bowl has been quiet and I see partners commenting on odd posts around fishbowl so I figure you need more fodder: partners, did any of you have parents that travelled as much as you do?

Perspective: monogamy is anti-human nature; in this era where each parent could raise a kid independently, marriage tends to be a shackle on many aspects of life. We live once, why does society expect us to live with 1 person for 60+ years? No wonder divorce rates are through the roof!

Dyslexia! After having our kindergartener son tested (privately) related to ADHD, we were told he may have dyslexia too (which would explain why he struggles so much with phonics but is amazing at sight words). He has a very high IQ. As a voracious reader, I am finding myself unexpectedly distraught that something that I have loved so much will be such a struggle for him, and worrying that it will affect his motivation and may steer him away from things he may otherwise love.
Tips/Commiseration?

What's the best 529plan? Heard Vanguard Nevada plan is popular due to low fee, or NY state one gives tax benefits upto $10k (but not sure if it matters for NJ residents working in NYC). What's the criteria for deciding 529?

TCS people .. is the rumour true ? Is anybody getting leaves deducted or being forced to resign .. if you don't go to office after multiple warnings ?

YOE : 6 yrs
CCTC: 17.62 lpa fixed
How much PWC AC can give to me?
Holding an offer of 23 lpa..
Please help guys...

Any tips on how to transition to entertainment law? Like skills to build? CLEs to take? How to become more appealing to entertainment firms and companies?
For context, I'm currently working in plaintiff side employment.

The Beatles aren’t that great

Any thoughts on clear eyeglass frames for men? Stylish or too casual?

What is business process architect?how much to quote?

Hi Fishers,

What is the best time of the year to be in the notice period?

I mean what is the time of the year where requirements in most of the companies are at pick?

Like in Dec and March you will see less requirement due to Christmas and financial year ending. Similar what is the best period?

Because in my previous switch, 15 days were wasted due to Christmas and in March lot of requirements went on hold due to financial year ending.

Thanks

Can we all collectively come together to help IBM find a true match?

@IBM. What are you looking for? What has worked and what has not worked in the past? And please provide any other information you believe would be relevant and helpful for all of us to know.

Is Barclay's a good bank to work for? I'm looking for all feedback - the good, the bad, and the ugly

When are Pune offices reopening?

Anyone use Freedom Boat Club or another boat membership in Chicago? How much is it and any pros/cons?

Suggestions on where one may locate reasonably priced board games in Dubai? Somewhat random but I assume consultants play board games too

Hi Folks. Recently moved to Toronto. Would you have recommendations for dentists in the downtown area ? or a way to find recommendations/reviews for dentists around me? Looking to do a routine checkup/cleaning..

What’s the point of doing a sequel for the Ikea lamp ad if no consumer really gives a shit about it? I feel it is more for the advertising people...

What is happening? Projects having budget problems and then cancelling the projects, teams moving to bench because of that

Has anyone been fired? How’d you bounce back? How did you approach it when applying for new jobs? I’m legitimately worried I’ll be fired and could use some advice.

What value do TPMs provide? In my company all they seem to do is tell other people to work on things they’re already working on, and incessantly nag people on slack for status updates and timelines which you’ve already provided.

My advice: Concentrate on yourself above anything else, follow orders but also know how those orders affect you, serve your country but never forget you are serving yourself first. The objective is not to die honorably but to survive dutifully. What else would you add?

Do you guys think that our country is being heavily militarized?

I feel like this was my destiny, like being part of the military was written for me. Does anyone else feel the same?

What is the most realistically portrayed military story in a movie you’ve seen?

If you had to choose between the army and the navy, which one would you choose and why?

In many ways, I feel the same as before I enrolled. I don't understand how because I've lived so many things since then, but at the core, I feel like it hasn't affected me. It's weird. Am I missing something?

If you were to choose a career different from the military, which one would you choose?

How different are the physical requirements for men vs women? I'm thinking of the Navy specifically but would welcome insights from any branch of the military, thanks

Does anyone else feel like they have become too utilitarian and objective?

Take victories and defeats as equals! Nothing will teach young soldiers more than making mistakes in the heat of battle that almost cost you your life. If you're still breathing, there's something to learn. Listen to it.

Getting disability rated…I retire next year and seeing the doc for all my issues. They’re listed in Genesis under my active issues. Does that automatically count for when I retire or do I need to get appointments addressing these issues again after meeting with the VA?

In the heat of combat, there's no second to waste. I've never felt more focused in my life than when I'm holding a rifle, it is like the rest of the world disappears, and it's just me and the instinct to survive.

Which branch of the military is the best?

If given the choice, would you join the miltary again?

Why aren't there any vegan options in the military besides a salad? I wish there was a way to improve this. I find myself having to settle on vegetarianism when serving.

How do you quiet your mind? I find my mind still races at night and I have trouble sleeping

Am I the only one who fears a third world war is among us? I've been studying the circumstances that led to WW1 and WW2, and let me tell you, we're not as far as they were. I hope the better judgment of people avoids such a catastrophic outcome.

If anyone here is wondering how to best use their GI Bill... I HIGHLY recommend using the GI Bill comparison tool. Has anyone else here used it??

What makes a good soldier in your opinion?

Are there a lot of openly gay male soldiers?