trying hard to hookup in a bar but no success ๐Ÿ˜ž๐Ÿ˜ž. Ladies any tips ?? 34M Chicago

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Change your looks, social skills, pickup lines, height and weight. All else is fine. You'll have great success

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The best way to fix this is to change the "goal" in your mind to trying to meet interesting women and not I need to get her back to my place. It helps take off the pressure and by showing interest in what she is saying it helps her become interested. It'll feel weird at first but after a drink and a couple conversations you'll be ๐Ÿ”ฅ. Once you start talking and start vibing it's okay to go talk to other people, again lowers pressure by affirming your new goal. You don't have to start with the girl you find the most attractive, just try to talk to a lot of women. Good Luck!

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It's kinda like getting into business school. They say it's not all about your GMAT, but it is. Girls say it's not all about looks, but it is.

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Definitely get new shoes. That'll fix everything.

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Also, if you wanna look good but not like you're trying to hard, wear a suit to the bars rather than a full tux.

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Op- is bar really the place to find your long term SO?

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^For the approach, sure, but once you've opened the convo, the focus should just be on having an engaging conversation. If you're too obviously just tryna, it won't happen.

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charming, interested in learning about the lady--good.

desperate, sleazy, or sloppy drunk--bad

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He's probably going after 22 year old college grads and they think he's a weirdo

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Don't be a dick. But be a little bit of a dick. Ya know?

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Women like guys who make them laugh. Unfortunately they only find handsome guys funny

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Well if you are just looking for a hook up it is. If you'd like to actually know me, try showing some interest in me!

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Also, go to Stanley's on Sunday night

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34 is a bit old for the regular bar scene. Make an effort to look dignified, don't try to act or look younger. Also, the viagra triangle has something for everyone.

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Fresh haircuts.

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Point out something funny

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I'm 34, I wouldn't want to meet a guy from a bar

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Pick up lines are a big hoax.. just say Hi..and start a genuine conversation

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Start with the 6's to build confidence and get your flow going. Learn how to dance and let your feet and body spit game on the dance floor especially if you aren't the best talker. Sometimes just talk to a chick and get her number and after talking for a while tell her lets meet over dinner and go back to hanging with your friends... that's basically a lock the next time you meet

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