Went for dinner today and the waiter started calling me a faggot because I do not drink. He stated I am a communist and was making jokes all night and making me uncomfortable. Also, he asked me repeatedly how can I cope with such a miserable life as I do not drink or eat shellfish (allergy). I’m 5 months sober and life has never been better but I still get very upset and insecure with these sorts of situations. Any advice for dealing with this stuff, imagining it will not be the last it happens?

Anyone file for divorce without a lawyer if both parties are consenting? How does it work when you don’t have any joint assets (separate bank accounts, no house) and no kids? Married <5 years

I’m posting this here instead of my usual Big Law bowl because I’m guessing there are people here who will understand. I just need to vent. I am married to a wonderful man who has a young son. My husband is the kindest, most patient and supportive man I’ve ever met other than my dear late grandfather. He is saintly. But the chaos that surrounds him hurts me. I am the primary breadwinner and far out earn my husband and my stepson’s bio mom. I have always put pressure on myself to succeed (Cont.)

My girlfriend is willing to break off our entire relationship because she found out my mom doesn't approve of her. We have no issues between each other but she said she can't be with someone who's family doesn't like her.

I used to be so devoted to my academics that I kind of forgot to make some close friends. How do you reignite your social life after college?

Any moms on here that absolutely love their company and feel 100% supported?

I went through my gf’s phone and found out she had a crush on my best friend when we first started dating (over a year ago). I suspected this at first but it hurts to have it confirmed and see her telling her friends about him. I’m not sure how I should feel since I went out of line to look through her phone.

Moved to the DC area about two years ago and have yet to establish myself friendwise. I usually tag along with my partner to all of his events as I’m traveling 5 days a week and have no forum. Any...

I feel like I lost most of my friends over the last couple of years. Everyone’s doing their own thing and now I see my closest friends a handful of times each year. Can anyone else relate?

I don't have any friends in banglore. It is hard for me to find friends cause i am always that aloof kid who in addition is not straight so can't even bond with my teammates. How do people live like this. Even my flatmates don't talk . : (

I really love my boyfriend but I think I’ve started to lose the sexual attraction (find myself avoiding wanting to do anything sexually). Anyone have advice or go through something similar? Is it done

I've been so lucky to have tons of friends giving me hand me downs but it seems like it might be too much if I accept everything. What are the absolute necessaries that I should accept multiples of and what can I pass on?

How do you know if you have outgrown someone? Known my boyfriend for 2 years but have dated seriously only for 6 months. Confused as why i’m feeling this way.

Been having trouble moving on since girlfriend ended relationship 3 weeks ago after 2+ years of dating. Before ending it she came over 3 weeks prior to basically give me a chance to work things out and we had a good discussion but then I went back into our routine and didn’t really fight for it or have serious follow up convos that we needed. Now I just have so many regrets that I let her go. I know we still love each other and left on “good” terms but can’t forgive myself for my lack of action.

At court during the child support docket for non payment: Judge to defendant: Mr. X I see you have 7 open support cases. You, know what your problem is? You need to stop making babies.

Anyone here 40s never married, no kids?

How to become good friend of manager?

it’s been 3 years in this city and I really need to hang out with someone other than my boyfriend. But I’m terrible at “networking"

Spent the pandemic working on myself, got sober, focused on working out, left the music industry and started a career where I can make money and have a steady work schedule. Maybe this isn’t everyone’s version of “growing up” but that’s what this was for me. Now that I’m vaxed and seeing my friends, it’s clear we have little left in common, and honestly a lot of the things they do straight up embarrasses me. I don’t want to lose these long term friends. Has anyone else been in this situation?

I have seen my parents fight every since I was 8 and I’m 27 now and nothing has changed. I discovered at 17 that my dad is gay who had multiple relationships with other men. We were devastated but....

My bf has asked me to help him quit the ecigs and told me he’ll probably hide them from me but he wants me to take them. So I have for the past week. He really only keeps them in his pocket, 1 drawer

Thinking of moving out of Google, which companies do Xooglers move to in Dublin?
(L5 GBO Dublin)

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How difficult is it to move from the UK to US without having studied there and just applying to a big tech directly (not a transfer)? NB: have previously worked in a big tech as a PM in the UK as well as time at McK

What is the average incentive given to a Consultant in Cognizant with a 4/5 YEA rating?

Male Chicago 🐠, any winter jacket recommendations for Chicago winters?

(Please no Canada goose)

Looking to move to the Dallas Fort Worth area close to June I’m here to network and see it all would welcome me and help me out during my transition

Hi fishes, I got 5+ years of work ex of which 2 years was in domain non IT job. While joining Accenture I was offered level 11 (As SAP functional CONSULTANT) while I believe I should be at level 10. What can I do? Is it that just your IT work ex they consider? Suggest things I could do. Completed 8 months in Accenture now as SAP Functional consultant.

Does anyone have a good psychologist/counselor recommendation in NYC? One that accepts United and doesn’t charge $130 “for the first six sessions”? I just want someone I can pay $35 weekly.

Anyone have a realtor they can recommend that would kick back a portion of their commission on a > $1.5M purchase. Please DM. Thanks!

Is Toronto as boring and quiet as this bowl ?

How do you get used to someone looking over your shoulder and watch you design? It makes me so nervous

I want to put together a XD file with a whole bunch of helpful web and app components for other designers to just drag and drop. 1. Is this a waste of time due to the market being saturated? 2. Where do I sell it? 3. Is there anything I need to know first?

Very interested in t0 ico but cannot find the white paper of more info on the terms. Can anyone help?

Help! I’m keen to make the pivot to FAANG + Microsoft in a Product Manager capacity. Any key resources folks suggest? (Particularly as it relates to online courses and Discord’s/groups where folks practice mock interviews?)

Will IBM pune match the counter offer for 9 YOE??

Wrapping up 2021...

Do you have any reflections on this year? Biggest takeaways? How will you close it out?

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1 week sober! Over the last 12 years (I’m early 30s) I’ve reached this point just a handful of times. Alcohol is deeply intertwined into my social life much like everyone’s is I imagine. Feeling clear minded and energized. Want to stay clean for my own mental and physical health and for the benefit of my wife and children. Just starting this journey so thank you in advance to this community as I’m ready to learn from you all and be a part. Let’s go!

Social media! I find myself mindless scrolling through LinkedIn and responding to random shit. I put the phone down and pick it up again without thinking.

I told myself I wasn’t going to do it. Re-assured myself I wasn’t going to do it. Told myself you’d know what would happen and still ended up gambling away a bunch of money I know I couldn’t blow. I don’t understand.

I buy things I don’t need and don’t know how to fix it. I always blamed it on “drunk buying” but I’ve been sober for 355 days and it persists. I know I buy things in an effort to fill a void and try to feel something so I buy “things” but it doesn’t help and I know it. Any thoughts or suggestions?

I started working for a bank and am going through the background check. They found an arrest which was dismissed and the file was sealed a few days after the check. They’re requesting the police report on top of the court order to seal. The police report is BAD. During the arrest (DUI) they wrote the report to make me seem like a complete lunatic. Embellished on several elements of the case. I am worried that giving them this report will cause me to be let go.

My SO is an alcohol abuser but has said he knows it’s a problem and would like to cut back or quit. Any suggestions or advice in how to help and cope with this. He becomes a different person when he drinks. I want to support him but don’t know how or where to start.

Some good advice from my sponsor as I go into this stressful week:

- Invite your Higher Power into the meetings with you
- Be your authentic self
- Be there to help others

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I know everyone will have different answers for this but how did you know it was time to get sober? I think it might be time for me to find a new job and pursue sobriety, but I don't feel like I'm a rock bottom which is the only time I've ever seen people really commit to it (my father). Apathy isn't the right word but I just kind of feel numb about everything and I think being sober would maybe help.

Just taking the opportunity to get current. Sober 3 years and 10 months. This past couple weeks have been stressful and my mind slipped into fantasizing about my drug of choice. Last week I flipped out at some of my wife's family. I did an amends and I think time will heal this one. It's all up to HP. Although I have neglected my morning practice this week, I'm practicing self compassion with positive self talk.

About to go on in person retreat and have struggled with my sobriety a lot. It’s better but not perfect and part of the reason I stay sober is the support of my partner. Would it be viewed as unacceptable if I brought my family with me?

Any meditation stories on recovery anyone willing to share? Did you have break through moments during meditation?

Has anyone ever messed up at a company party because of alcohol?

Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

Any recommendations for group therapists in NYC??

Has anyone tried using Kratom to help with an addiction to opiates? Does Kratom itself get addictive if you start using it for a while?