What does self love mean? Does anyone else struggle with self love vs feeling selfish/guilty

Regular fantasize about swinging lifestyle, swapping partners, having orgies, open relationship, etc but don’t know how to tell my partner it’s something I want to try with them.. any tips out there?

Girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me right before we were supposed to leave the state and move in together. We broke up about 4 months ago. I couldn’t demonize her, so I’m still struggling with processing it and idk what to do. I’ve been looking into therapy, but I can only do online which leaves me hesitant. Any advice would be appreciated.

After nearly a year WFH and being with my family 24/7, I’m not entirely sure we actually like each other. Or maybe they don’t like me being at home. Or they don’t like me. Probably the latter 😞

People who live with housemates / have a garden. Does it get noisy / do you find people in the garden earlier than (we) finish, that distract you from your work?

Also, living how is living next to a secondary school? Noise / traffic etc?

Thanks

Why are relationships so difficult!!!

Completely off topic
I don't have any friends.. sometimes i feel very lonely.. i don't have anyone to share my thoughts or feeling.. there is this void.. trying to pickup things to distract myself but it's not helping much... Seeking your inputs!! Sorry for this off topic question.

I hope my father dies before my mom. Otherwise he’d consider it my duty to drop my life & move home to cook & clean for him, like my mother does. My mom works full time but is expected to take care of all things in the house, as well as do the accounting for my father’s business. He’s helpless without her, & is a sexist asshole. (IE my mom sprained her wrist and has carpel tunnel but she’s still expected to wash his dishes and he refuses to just buy a dishwasher). Please God, let him die first.

Why do we always tell people “Be the best version of yourself before starting a relationship?”
I feel this is wrong…first, if you’re someone who constantly wants to be better, this doesn’t work. Also, what happens when you’re going through things and you’re not the best version? What happens is…the going gets tough and then one person leaves the other.

Midlife career change into teaching, because I love language and really get a lot from seeing teens grow into themselves... but I just don't know if I can keep up.

51 yo/ 3kids/ 5a-11p

I am generally uncomfortable when I’m around my mother-in-law’s husband.

While he is overall a decent guy, his anger issues, yelling at his wife for the slightest issue, and insulting nature makes me uncomfortable and triggers my own anger due to his blatant disrespect for just about everyone around him.

My mother-in-law says he’s worked on things, but it’s been 10 years of this and I’m not sure I want such behavior around my wife and our kids since we’re trying to conceive soon (cont).

Anyone raising desi kids in the US? What are are some of your fears?

I know the general answer to this, but I want to know others response.
If by your 30’s you’re mostly established in life, why is it then harder to establish a long lasting relationship with someone ?

It’s been asked before whether it’s worth it to pay (~$150) to upgrade a 3 hr flight. I generally agree it is not. But what if your two tweenagers bicker nonstop and are complete and total jerks to you all the time and your spouse chooses the “they’ll grow out of it” approach to things so basically you just want 3 hours of alone time. Then is it worth it?

(Note, in this scenario, they are all entirely too naive to realize it isn’t a system comped upgrade.)

She doesn't know the real reason why I'm lukewarm about kids: I don't think she's matured enough. I'm trying to plan for retirement and a house, but all she wants is her next overseas vacation

My family/friends ask me for store discounts all the time. It's really uncomfortable to say no, but I have to. Any tips on how to handle these conversations?

Today I have officially made the decision to stop taking any and all cases that involve children. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted!! I just had to share with other professionals that understand. Yes, this will be a financial blow, but I’m fine with it.

How do you deal with the guilt of moving out of your single parent’s house when you know they have a lot on their plate? (taking care of grandparents, their own job, bills, debt, etc)

Does anyone here work for Axiom or know someone who does and, if so, how difficult is it to stay fully engaged?

Anyone here want to be a friend can ping me..

🐠 Fam, I need your words of encouragement. Had to break off a toxic friendship and just found out my 🐶 has organ failure. I’m in the red with PTO and can’t take time off to deal. I am devastated. 😔

can anyone recommend recruiters that work with agency production jobs?

Openings currently at Goldman Sachs within Corporate Loan Operations.

Please DM me if interested.


#openings #referrals #operations

Is anyone going Mindspace, Hyderabad office? Need help in collecting the ID badge.

Need some help, send a dm.

Hi Fishes,

Need your suggestion.
Wanted to decline an offer (which I had accepted earlier) stating location contraint, but now they have given location of my choice.Still I don't want to join.

How should I deal with company in this scenario.

I'm a Data scientist with 5 years of experience (all experience is in data science). How much CTC can I expect ?

I miss you, airport. I hope I can see you again soon.

Help: good place to take a call in midtown near Bryant Park area? Left office keys at home, and am already on my way there 😰

Hi All,
Anyone have more information on the role AM PPM. For HRST.requesting support if possible.Thanka in advance

Any advice on broaching the subject of working on Sundays as a committed Christian?

Openings at Accenture. Microsoft Azure.
Min 2.5 years of experience.
Microsoft Azure Paas,
Microsoft Azure DevOps,
Microsoft Azure Logic Apps,
Microsoft Azure Architecture,
Microsoft Azure Data Services,
Microsoft Azure IoT Services,
Microsoft Azure Kubernetes Services,
Microsoft Azure Analytics Services,
Microsoft Azure Active Directory

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Welcome to the HR Equity and Inclusion Bowl, let’s come together to discuss ways we can change organization culture, so that all staff feel a sense of belonging.

Do you ever feel like someone is gaslighting you? + 10 if you've seen the movie 🎥 👍🏼

Trying to laterally move to another in house position. At my current company, Counsel is a Manager level position while Senior Counsel is a Director level and General Counsel is Senior Director. Would like to find if Counsel is a Director role at other companies.

Would it be bad if I change my start date? I proposed to my employer a start date 2 weeks after I quit my job, but now that I think about it, I feel like I need a week to recharge before starting a new job.

Anybody on Trintellix? Thoughts ?

Tips for recovering from a bad interview at an awesome company? 😣 I already got the news that they’re not moving forward, yet can’t stop obsessing over the mistakes that most likely cost me an offer.

Who is bipolar and/or has major depression and/or has anxiety and/or is/has anything else? Who has been in a mental hospital? Who has been to rehab? Who sees a therapist? Who sees a psychiatrist? ...

My mental health has suffered tremendously over the past month. I have a therapist that I probably should see more of but I’m jobless and need to save. I am an aspiring entrepreneur with an inspiring business idea (to me lol) but my anxiety and depression is hindering me severely… fuck my brain. Any other founders here? It’s f‘ing tough.

How do you deal with a boss that wants you to quit and is becoming increasingly more abusive. But you haven’t found a job yet and need this job financially.

Exhausted by entitled clients that are just plain nasty. Is it just me or are clients everywhere getting more demanding and treating their agencies worse?

Any advice on dealing with an eating disorder in the workplace? Mine is taking over and my work is crumbling. I often can’t focus or remember anything from meetings or conversations because I havent..

This is the only bowl I can think to post in, but I'm really feeling it today. Has anyone lost their best friend (i.e. through time/growing up) and feel like none of their current friends could live up to the fun/connection you used to have with your high school BFF? I feel like I put too much focus on that one friend and also my boyfriend and just never actually made time for anyone else. I fucked myself over.

Your secret weapon to deal with stress at the office?

Anyone else dealing with anxiety around the uncertainty of continued remote work? We were so dysfunctional and unproductive in the office, the thought of going back is giving me nightmares.

Getting bullied by people way above my pay grade. Ended up working under a boss from an old shop who didn't like me then either. I have a gut feeling they trying to fire me or ruin me. What do I do?

I'm unemployed and my lease is up soon and I have no idea what to do. I don't live near family and my dog has behavioral issues and I've never been so stressed before in my life.

Two weeks ago I attended an interview in person and they promised to let me know whether or not I’d be hired for the position. Later, I learned through LinkedIn that a friend of mine got the job. The agency never contacted me to let me know anything. Should I be mad?

My last therapist keeps coming up in my mind. I left her when I moved to a new area before COVID dug in and frankly it felt like leaving a girlfriend. She also disclosed in the final session that she was a member of AA and knew several of the people I occasionally discussed from the rooms. Her knowledge of the program certainly built trust with me early on, but it has been two years. I discussed it with my current therapist but she’s still in there. Any advice?

Struggling with ADHD, anxiety and depression and my therapist suggested I might benefit from medication. Anyone with Blue Cross Blue Shield in nyc recommend their psychiatrist?

Does anyone have a good psychologist/counselor recommendation in NYC? One that accepts United and doesn’t charge $130 “for the first six sessions”? I just want someone I can pay $35 weekly.

I started a new job recently and then had my PTSD seriously triggered, plus a panic attack. Felt so on edge and low on emotional resources for over a week that I wasn’t myself and apparently really rubbed a few people the wrong way so I was called in for a talking to 😣. I let people know there were some personal things going on, but didn’t mention the PTSD—very unsure if that’s something to share, or if I’d be judged for it or... I don’t even know. Has anyone else dealt with PTSD and had it impact them at work, and how did you handle it?

I’m sick of living in NYC but can’t go anywhere.