How do you deal with the guilt of moving out of your single parent’s house when you know they have a lot on their plate? (taking care of grandparents, their own job, bills, debt, etc)

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You remind yourself that they were young once, too and probably understand that it’s time for you to start your own life. And if that’s not the case, you remind yourself that your parent is an adult and can take care of themselves. You’re a young adult (I’m assuming) and you’re allowed to start building a life outside of your parent’s home.

If you’re moving nearby, you can offer to help with certain things. If you’re not moving nearby, that’s okay, too.

My mom is alone and I’ve suffered with this guilt for yeeeeears. But she is perfectly happy and capable of taking care of herself. She does wish I lived closer to her (and frequently reminds me of that) but she never lived close to her parents after college so she gets it.

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I'm sure he/she wants you to move out and start living as an independent adult at some point. Have you talked to your parent about it, even theoretically?

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My dad likes to pretend he’s so glad when im not home (I come home to visit relatively often) but he always calls to say hi when I’m not home and I can tell when I get back home he’s glad to have me there. It makes it hard to leave and I feel sad about it sometimes but I try to remind myself I feel best / most product and happy in my life when I’m out on my own

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