What examples of passive aggressive behavior have you seen on this job?

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Someone acting like they understand the situation then hitting you with a but. For example, I know you’re not feeling well today, but, I need these completed. Bottomline, they need it completed and really don’t care how you’re feeling.

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Internal pushback from associate whenever you assign them a task that the associate does not want to perform, and said associate asks why, and to satiate the bottomless curiosity and eager to learn I would have to incur lost time in performing metawork to explain why, though, alas the associate will agree in the end that the work is necessary.

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Apologies, I was referring to #2 in Deloitte 2’s example. The tone within “a task that the associate does not want to perform,” was direct, while the “bottomless curiosity and eagerness to learn” was sarcastic. Understandably the tone switch could cause unintended confusion, and thus an explanatory tickmark is needed:

Anyhow, the passive aggression example I provided does not apply to all associates, however I did notice one that did constantly push back upon receiving additional work (there was never any curiosity when the work was decreased); associate’s first reaction and focus is on work avoidance rather than referring to guidance and applying professional judgment to determine what should be done, and since I knew that was the intention behind every future pushback, I consider the explanations simply metawork that ties up both people’s time and does not actually achieve audit objectives, yet I do it anyway out of formality, despite having to deal with both internal as well as external pushback.

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I’m surprised nobody said budgeting so far. Tell you not to eat your time but mgmt set an unrealistic budget.
2. Tell you they support employee training but pull your out in the middle of it to do testing.

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Not sure if it’s passive aggressive or just aggressive, but I was told that “I probably get more sleep than anyone on the team” when I was leaving at 11pm. (I live less than a half mile from the client site and walk to work). Not my fault where you choose to live

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That is so gd petty

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Heavy sighs from the senior every time I get up to do something non-work related

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Constantly rolling eyes, shrugging shoulders, and saying whatever when you try to explain things in detail

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I guess I assumed too highly of you as a first year

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Every email? “As you may be aware”...

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Acting one way in front of you and talking behind your back. That’s the main reason I left ey. Can’t trust many people

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A lot of team are like this, but not all. It only takes a couple of bad apples to ruin the culture in the office.

At the start of almost every meeting, partner asking you how much is left in the budget before talking about anything else and having the WIP to display everyone’s hours (again right when you walk in the room). Mind you this team has never had budget issues but for some reason we have to deal with this before even having pleasantries exchanged. Why do I still work here you may ask? Good fucking question! I guess I like the pay and I’m smart enough to navigate these toxic people and can emotionally cope with the abuse that happens everyday

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EY 4 that sounds aggressive aggressive

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Does calling me a cunt count when no one is around?

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Per the below email...

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Or how about saying “I’ll make you cry”

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Or how about “be careful what you say, I write your reviews”

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Ffs

I don’t think people know what passive aggressive means

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Someone 3 months in scheduling a meeting to discuss their “not at level” assessment then coming in with examples that have nothing to do with the development points telling you that so and so changed their assessment based on them. 👀

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Literally every day

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So many of these are amateur hour or just plain aggressive, I must assume you do not work with many midwesterners.

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My manager doesn't interact much with us. I consider myself as some one who has worked hard for project and other intiatives. Should I ask my manager to consider me and if yes how should I initiate it.
Part of MC team.

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