What's been the hardest part of being married for you so far? What's been the easiest?

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Hardest: How marriage has been a consistent mirror; exposing all of my insecurities, childhood trauma, triggers, unhealed parts of myself, etc. It really has challenged me to grow, heal, and do the work on myself to become a more whole, peaceful person and emotionally mature adult.

Easiest: Living with my husband has really been a breeze. He and I have pretty similar mindsets about how we want our home to run. Both tidy and neat, it’s been easy staying organized. He’s considerate so we’ve never argued about toilet seats, laundry, or dishes.

I agree with Associate Attorney, marriage is the best thing ever. Totally upgraded my life. My husband is my person fr. It feels amazing choosing someone and knowing they feel they exact same way

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Hardest:

Accepting the wife’s weight gain. Which predates the kids. And resulting loss of physical interest. And yes, go ahead, tell me I am the problem. We still have a good relationship it’s just not what it could have been on that particular level.

Easiest:

Almost everything else

Hardest: The knowledge that I could out-live my husband. The thought of losing him is inconceivable to me.

Easiest: Having another adult to lean on and knowing I don’t have to do everything and decide everything myself is huge. When I’m overwhelmed with work or in a funk having someone there to decide what to have for dinner or run errands for me is the best.

I love being married. 10/10 wouldn’t change a thing. My husband is my best friend.

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