What’s the best book to learn how to manage your ADHD? I struggle with interrupting and tangential conversations

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Scattered Minds by Gabor Mate

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When I feel like interrupting I write down what’s on my mind while they’re speaking instead of speaking. I always have a notebook handy during meetings, more often for parking my thoughts than for actual meeting notes. I have to actively tell myself “just let them talk and listen”.

It takes practice, and on occasion when on a non video call I literally cover my mouth at times. I often feel like I’m three steps ahead of the speaker but I know the importance to them of feeling heard

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I keep a small pebble in my pocket. I turn it between my fingers and it seems to keep me present. More recently I bring it out of the pocket and just hold it to help occupy the bit of my movement brain that’s desperate to move, analyse,
Pick things apart.

The other thing that helps is breath work. Quite often when I want to interrupt I’m almost holding my breath. So I try and breathe through those moments instead.

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I enjoy his videos and insights.

Fun fact: I went on a retreat once with Gabor’s daughter. She’s wonderful.

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Everyone recommends Driven to Distraction. I bought it! Haven’t read it yet… 😬

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Huberman lab podcast has some episodes with some good info. Including one on working memory from about a month ago

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