Where do those of you over 50 shop for clothes? I don’t need to wear suits as stylish business casual will do. Cardigans make me feel and look old. I need to cover some ankle tattoos when it comes to pants/dresses…. My fellow c-suite colleagues are not as tattoo welcoming as I have been

I have a crush on my counsellor at work. She's much older but still really gracious and beautiful. Should I go for it or is this a bad idea?

At my law firm, only senior associates and partners go to court and take depositions. Is this normal for a big/vault law firm?

My manager scheduled a feedback conversation and I know it's bc I've made some noticeable mistakes lately due to moving too fast, not being able to focus, racing thoughts, etc. I'm seeing a therapist about whether I have ADHD and if so, what tx looks like; we started the intake process which will be continued in my 2nd appointment, which is after the feedback convo meeting. Is it worth telling my mgr something eg I recognize the careless mistakes and I'm in the process of seeing tx to help?

My manager micro manages everything I do, and I’m losing my mind. Wanted to see how any of you have handled a manager like this, and get some advice on how to tell them to literally stop.

My partner refuses to flatulate during waking hours around me. I feel this lack of intimacy is cause for alarm. I calmly mentioned my concerns and she doesn't feel comfortable speaking about the subject. Any suggestions?

Hi Nadia thank you for doing this workshop my question is: how do you deal with raging systemic bias and not get victimised by your line manager who is also a group head ?

I’m starting to work in the IB division in NYC soon. Was wondering what’s the dress code in the office. Would Business casual be fine?

Could I pull off asking my manager from J1 for approval of freelancing on the side? It’s quite common anyway for designers I think. And then my j2 can be “freelance” even though it’s full time?

how do you deal with work when you’re having a flare up?

how much do you tell your co workers/managers?

I work part time for a startup for equity and am attending an event on behalf of the startup. I’ve only been here a few months and asked multiple times to have a prep meeting with my boss. He instead sent me a 15 page document outlining 40 questions I should be able to answer the day before the event.
I’m so incredibly stressed as I don’t want to show up unprepared and make myself look bad. Idk how to make light of this situation at this point

Females, how much of your personal life do you disclose to the men in your team? I.e. Lovers, relationships, ONS etc

Someone tell me why a partner just took me to lunch as a "Thanksgiving treat" and he took me to Taco Bell

What’s the best way to deal with a partner that prefers working solo? For context, this writer I work with conceptualizes by himself, emails the Account team, gives deep input, and makes decisions for us without consulting with me (his “partner”) most of the time. While I appreciate his proactiveness, I feel excluded, limited, and without much room to co-lead the work with him. I don’t know how to bring this up without sounding like I’m b*tching about it.

I'm moving to the East Coast from L.A. in a few months. Not seeing patients due to covid and using my spare time to plan. Any advice on culture at work, dress codes, etc.?

I keep fighting with the product managers on my team, who keep assigning me new features to build without checking first if I had the bandwidth for it. How do I communicate this politely?

Hi everyone, have a noob question here. When did you share the pregnancy news with your employer? Not sure when it’s optimal to do that. :)

What are some creative ways that I can reward my team? They've been working really hard lately and I want to show my appreciation

Working with a Junior AD who’s too opinionated & doesn’t respond to my feedback well. He’ll just show ideas that I’ve already debunked/scripts that aren’t very good, which makes me look bad. Advice?

Should I take this role?
Pros: 50k bump, company is full remote, no time tracking software, unlimited PTO, 10k in quarterly bonuses, vertical move in responsibility and title, will set me up for future roles in different companies with the title I am looking for (so strategic move)

Cons: Its a startup, the solution they offer is adjacent to my desired industry, its a very small team so I wouldn’t grow my network as much, tech stipend for new laptop (but they don’t provide a work one)

How are people managing visa stamping outside of the US ?

UK market is open only for niche skillsets ( Data engineer + analytics). Firms aren't interested in sponsoring rest all skill sets, as they can be filled internally. They have limited quota every year, and are very choosy when it comes to allocation. Preference is first given to EU nationals and then Asians during shortlist stage.

Referral works, but the person who is referring you should have enough clout in the organization to present your profile!

Anyone else here looking to make a switch into healthcare (physician, nurse, etc)?

Hi there, wanted to know about promotion policy in UST. Tried to find about it, but not many have idea i believe. About to complete a year, but no news on same. Please reply if any idea. Thanks!

Hi,

I got 2 offers one from HCL and another from LTIMindtree. I want to join HCL but they are yet to release offer letter but has given confirmation over mail.

For LTIMindtree I have received the offer letter and yet to accept the same, but they are soon staring background verification for onboarding as soon as I accept the offer letter.

In this case what to do pls suggest.

About to get an offer from Accenture Federal Services as an Associate Manager. What is the realistic expectation for salary and sign-on bonus? I have a master's and 4 years of experience at Deloitte.

Hello fishes,
I am actively looking for a change. please let me know if there is any opportunity for me.
Thanks
Tech Stack: node js, git, angular, javascript, sql, mongodb
YOE : 2.7 years
Last working day: 26 th August

Anyone analyze QoEs before? Need to come up with questions for due diligence call and looking for some guidance

Has anyone passed the 2021 Oracle Receivables certification exam?

It's an exhausting time to be working in this industry, to say the least. How do you prevent taking your work home with you?

I have tried absolutely everything I can think of to limit distractions during the work day and none of it has worked. Working from home has only made it 100 times worse because now I know there are other more interesting things to be distracted by all around me. What do you do to hold focus during working hours? What will get me to be able to work for longer than 35 minutes without getting distracted?

I've been gardening more to relieve stress and have some time to my self. Full endorsement!

Qualified Dividends: I’m expecting $650-$750 qualified dividend in 2021. Salary and base about $250 total. Questions: what tax rate will the qualified dividend be taxed at? The 15% or 20%? Also, since it’s technically a long term gain, do I have to pay an state and local on the income? Been reading for a bit and I can’t seem to find a clear answer. Thanks fishies!

What do you do to fight burnout? Got a raise yesterday and will get another in September, for dealing with a lot of stuff, but I can't shake the burnout.

How do you integrate mindfulness in your classroom? Have you ever experienced a negative reaction from parents or administration?

Anyone ever switch because of the comp despite how much they love their firm? It’s only been a year for me! I love my firm, but the offer I just received is tempting.
Has been working as consultant for 1 year now (job out of grad school)
Has been interviewing around to keep up with industry and check my technical skill
Recently got two offers that are about 30%-40% than my current base. What did you consider before making the decision? FYI - I love my firm and the culture and my leadership!

Reishi mushroom by Host Defense, just google Paul Stamet. My hot flashes are now just warm and far and few between.

Once we get a few more members I had the following ideas for speakers:
1. OBGYN specializing in menopause/HRT from Duke University
2. Nutrition Counselor
3. Anxiety Coach
Does anyone have other ideas? Please let me know!!

Hi Ladies, just found this group. I'm 59 and post menopausal. Read through some of the threads and can relate to all. Glad to know I'm not alone.

I’m curious how long people were in the peri menopause phase? I’ve read it’s an average of 4 years but I’m curious what people’s experiences are. I believe I am late stage peri menopausal and my periods have been very irregular for the past 9 months ranging 13-60 days between periods. If anyone has any studies you could point me to, I’d love to see those as well! I’m 40 and my mom entered menopause at 41.

Our bowl has 200 members!! Yay!! 🎉
Let’s bring this back to life!!
Who do you want to hear from future speaker wise??
Thanks all for the wonderful support!!

I figure if anyone can understand this, it’s you all. I feel like I’m losing my damn mind. I have always loved communications, and I’m really good at it. But lately I’m so tired of politics and toxicity that I it’s sent me into a depression tailspin, on top of a pretty severe mid-life crisis. Two and a half weeks ago, I quit my job with nothing lined up. Not the smartest thing I’ve ever done, but I kind of feel like self-preservation was at work here. I want to do work that makes a difference. ☹️

It’s 3 in the morning and I’ve been awake for an hour. Good times.

I’ve never been pregnant but I can say that menopause cravings are REAL! Anyone else feel the urge to keep eating all the time?!?

I am 52 I have been feeling so tired and when I was in my 40’s. I had a lot more energy. Now I am so tired after work - but I have 4 girls ages, 16-15-13-9. I am going through menopause and my Osteoarthritis hurts somedays and that doesn’t work. Any advice how to keep up with my four girls while feeling crummy?!?

Just downloaded an App called MenoLife. It’s free (so far) and is filled with articles, recipes, trackers, etc. they also have products which I may look into. Anyone else try this brand?

Hi ladies, I'm in my mid 40s and I think I'm entering peri. I currently have a Mirena but I should replace it again soon, but one more will put me into my 50s(!!) and I was wondering if anyone here knows that they're in peri or menopause without having periods. Is there blood work or something to check? I definitely do not want to have another child accidentally. I've got 5 more years until my youngest is in college and don't want to start over again.

I keep forgetting to ask about this but I noticed ever since my hysterectomy years ago I have arthritis (I think) in my fingers. Basically I can’t open things that I easily could before like jars, caps, and even ziploc bags. Has anyone else experienced this? Basically your hands and fingers feeling weaker, numb, painful or just not working? Any way to combat this? TIA 🐟

Anyone else done menopause completely natural?

Question for the bowl: Do you work from home but your significant other does not?
Putting work aside I’m feeling burnt out being that I work from home and my “duties” seemed to increase. How are others managing this as far as cooking, cleaning, etc?