Why do people judge women for not wanting to have children? Men can have both .. work and kids. But for women it’s like two full time jobs. I didn’t stop a colleague the first time he asked me about children and now that’s the subject of discussion every couple of days.

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Backlash is equal on both sides. If a man or woman says they don’t want to marry or have kids, they are straight up taken to be infertile or impotent. Ya fir inka kahin aur kuch chal raha hai.
We live in a society that has a blueprint laid out for a “normal” life. If you dare do something different, you are abnormal, sick or characterless.

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It's same for men as well. For me personally, I don't want kids as well. But people judge me so much when I mention it including my family.

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And then the same people with pass another judgement of being irresponsible parent .. lots of DINKs are going this way in india

I haven't faced this yet but to be honest no one around me (only talking about colleagues here) even initiated a discussion on this.

However, I do understand your point. I also don't want to have kids and it's not because I want to be a career woman or anything else, it's just that I am not interested in it.

People do say that with time our thinking or desires change but I am 30yrs old now and I still don't want to have one. Luckily my husband is very supportive and respects my point of view or desires and as we have a similar thought process so it's working out for me.

I have still kept an open mind about it but I don't think anything will change.

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Ask your colleague to mind their business, you want or don't want kids is totally on the couple.

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Ask them to be keep their gyan to themselves and learn to respect individual choices .

People mostly don't understand that everyones has different responsibilities, different roles and they just look the world as :
When you are started doing jobs, society will start poking, oh started doing job now get a wife and settle.. if you dont they'll judge. One you marry, after sometime only societal pressure would be there to do a kid, but why? Did man and woman get married to just deliver the baby? There wont be any responsibilities after the baby is there?
Will mother have no responsibility to towards work after a baby? Will father be able to go WFO in that state, or whatever is the scenario are they ready financially to have a kid or mentally to have a kid? Do they really want a kid?
There are different2 things but society just follows Marriage-> Child
Life has many more things to it

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