Why do we feel guilty for refusing to assist family members when they ask for money? I’ve gotten better at immediately declining, but I still feel like I should help.

SIL and BIL told us excitedly last weekend that she was pregnant (had literally just found out, so barely four weeks). This week she tells us she’s not pregnant anymore :(. They did not seem super torn up about it and were very practical about it. We said how sorry we were, etc etc. should I do anything else? Should I not mention it again unless they do?

This bowl has been quiet and I see partners commenting on odd posts around fishbowl so I figure you need more fodder: partners, did any of you have parents that travelled as much as you do?

I gained weight during my last relationship (probably around 30 lbs, and I’m 5’9”). Before my relationship, I felt like I could get any guy. But I’ve been single for 2 years now and it’s been so hard to date. I’m not sure if maybe I’ve lost confidence, but I legitimately don’t know how to get a guy to be interested. Any pointers?

Folks,
Have been married for 15 years and have a kid of 11 years. My spouse is falsely accusing me of domestic abuse and trying to get separated. We have had incompatibility even before marriage on various issues but it was an arranged marriage, we tried to work it out and stay together. Her side is asking her to move on. She has taken my kids passport and kept it with her. What are the options I have to defend myself?

I just had to send my husband away in an ambulance. I’m not allowed to go with him or even go to the hospital. I don’t know what to do. I can’t even be there for my husband.

Very sad today. Just very sad. Feel like nothing works. Relationship doesn’t work. Dating is so hard. Work is so boring. I hate being alone. Am I a loser?

Coming from a family of immigrants and being one yourself, does anyone ever feel a sense of guilt with your success/salary versus your family members? If so, how have you dealt with this? Any suggestions on how to deal with it internally and emotionally?

What resources would you recommend to find a full time nanny in Houston? Any specific websites, services, groups or places that have worked for you in the past?

I married my gf 2 years back after a long relationship, and having disagreement from both of our parents, finally they agreed even though she is from another part of the country and from a different cast.

forward to now....
I'm just following all their rituals and ceremonies as per their customs why ???
Because they say the do like this or that, when it comes my side of things then they say oh we don't follow like that.

It's painful you know , seeing my.parents and my self helpless in that

My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 8 months now. We talk every single day online and recently I went to visit her for around a month. It was great and it seemed like the relationship was stronger than ever. But one week back after visiting her, I felt a strange detachment from her and our conversation topic got repetitive and stale quick. Any advice?

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

Do you tell your boss you’re going through a breakup? I’m phoning it in and obviously going to be camera off for awhile.

It's an exhausting time to be working in this industry, to say the least. How do you prevent taking your work home with you?

Is it ok to look for one night stands while on road and not feel guilty.. does it mean I dont love my girlfriend?

If you had two kids would you let them both learn the same 2nd language that neither you or your spouse know?

Data Scientist at HP vs Data Science Analysis Manager at Cisco (IC), which one is a better position in terms of role and future prospects in Data Science. Years of experience is 6

What do you all normally do in your downtime at work? I used to be in a high stress, high tempo office but moved to a better paying role with much less responsibility. I’m still adjusting to have all this free time on my hands and need something to keep me busy throughout the day.

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Hi trying to get my security + certification any advice on studying and where I should I get my learning materials from I have access to the degreed platform

I have been given with a case study to solve. Its a secondary research based case study.
I have to share an output in a ppt.
Are there any hacks to solve it?

Hi fishes,


Can anyone let me know which is the best company to work for in the Automotive embedded domain out of these:

1. Einfochip
2. BHTC
3. Lear corporation
4. Embitel technologies
5. Hinduja tech

Having 5.7 YOE and what salary to expect

Hi All,

I have joined UST a Month ago and still waiting for a team alignment. Could some one tell me the alignment process.

Thoughts on long-term (5-30 years) fate of the market for consulting in London? I’m considering a move from outside UK but some have argued that London market is “just a fight over the increasingly diminishing pie”, despite the temporary uptick in consulting work now to deal with corona& Brexit. Perhaps I should hit Asia or US.

How does a sole engineer at a company go about getting management to actually care how production machines run? I’m the only mechanical engineer at my company dealing with a half dozen cranky production managers who think that I can “work my magic” on a machine. It’s not magic, just ignorance about the machine actually works. How to I get a manager to stop caring about the end product long enough for me to actually teach them about their own machine?

Hi folks,
I am working as a Business Analyst with 3.5 YOE and in total 4.9 YOE. I am getting 6.7CTC which felt totally low. If I switch then how much I can expect as a market standard currently. Thanks

Anyone working in family offices? Boutique investment firms

Does anyone really, really love their job? Or do you just do it to pay bills and get to the weekend? I'm curious how many people actually truly love what they do

CFGI offers anyone recently? Consultant level NYC what did you get offered

I have 5 days outside of Paris , where in France would you go if you were to travel by train, what about if you drove?

NDAs - signed my first one as a part of a severance agreement. thinking about leaving an honest review for this company, but unsure about the liabilities that come with this. (NDA mentioned no defamation) leaning on the side of letting it go, but this employer sucked BAD and i want others to know. ik its hard to give a straight answer bc it depends on the agreement, but wheres the line between bad mouthing vs your honest experience?

I slept with a guy this weekend and went home without saying goodbye (aka waking him up to say goodbye). When I got a taxi, I sent him a text saying I was leaving because I was late for work (which was true). I didnt want to wake him up, but he considered this rude and unpolite from me. For me rudness was if I woke him up just to say goodbye 🤷🏻‍♂️

What if I accept the offer of TCS and not joined?will TCS black list me or could consider the next time?

What should I do if I get to know that somebody has resigned and senior management has agreed to give him/her higher CTC?

What are the tips and tricks to waking up earlier (besides going to bed earlier)? I can’t wake up for my life of me and have been waking up minutes before my first call.

I’m a newly barred attorney in Atlanta, Ga and I need two things: (1) a mentor who has time to be a mentor; and (2) a job opportunity. I am open to being a staff attorney or junior associate. CAN YALL HELP ME PLEASE?!?

Has anyone found success developing business or building their book? Specifically businesses (not individuals)? Looking for new ideas to get clients in the door.

Starting at a new firm, What can I do to leave a good first impression?

Anybody having to participate in/listen to discussions at work regarding the recent events at the Capitol where your views are in contrast to others in the discussion? If so, how have you handled this?

I saw that Orrick had an Attorney's of Color retreat in New York. Does anyone work there who can speak on how it was? If not, is there a retreat/coalition/group for Attorney's of Color at your firm?

Anyone feel like your job sees you as "one of the good ones?" It hasn't explicitly been said, but I'm one of the only Black attorneys at the firm and I think my white colleagues and partners see me as an example of how Black folks "should be" cause I mind my business. Basically I feel like a token, and I don't know how to shift that idea while staying professional.

What are some good websites to use for searching and applying for job postings? I am looking to lateral and have been using LinkedIn and Indeed so far. Any other ideas?

How do I professionally decline a second interview? I know for sure I don’t want to work at the firm.

Ketanji did not come to play! Came out of the gate ready to fight and turn these racist arguments on their heads. The way she was dropping 14th Amendment bombs on that man made me so happy. And this is only her first day. I just hope they protect her well.

Any one here based out in the Middle East? If so, what's your experience. Would you recommend it. I am 32F - African Descent planning to relocate to the UAE.

I feel like I'm going through really bad imposter syndrome, How do you manage it ?

Does anyone know what the dress code is for the upcoming CAALA Trial Skills seminar? Do people usually wear suits or is it business casual? Thank you!

Okay so I’m a newly licensed attorney in a very conservative part of TX. I just got my first job offer and I was worried at first thinking that I was in “Trump” territory, but I tested the waters in my interview and spoke about police injustices and how prosecutor’s job is not only to protect victims, but also defendants from police injustices. I have to let them know by tomorrow, but thoughts on if this is a good career move for someone who wants to work in transactional work-RE or Bankruptcy?

I really feel like I should be excused from this "diversity and inclusiveness" training stuff lmao. It's about implicit bias and I'm sorry it's just not believable coming from an old white man's mouth when there are maybe 4 non-white associates. We're having these meetings 3 times this week. 🤦🏽‍♀️

I’m a woman of color and my legal assistant is a white man…this feels…good?

Does anyone feel like it’s difficult to gain acceptance and find allies when you’re a POC? I have attended happy hours, social events, and lunches, but I am not getting the same amount of traction as the other new lawyers who are white. Don’t know whether I should keep trying or just give up. Also don’t know whether it’s my personality or people at the firm. 😢

Have you ever joined a firm purely based on how many POC would be in your practice area?