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I hear you. I think it's good that you can catch how your brain plays these tricks on you. It's up to you to see the logical holes in it and switch the perspective. Did the older AAs have more years to enjoy fully? Or did they spend more years indulging in self-destructive behaviors that caused damage to themselves and the people close to them? Are you really unfortunate for drawing the line at 24? Or are you fortunate that you had the self-awareness and willingness to take positive action before things snowballed out of control?
Shift your perspective and you'll change your reality
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I got sober at 25. My sponsor got sober at 26. Her kid got sober at 18. I feel bad for the kids struggling with their emotions around having their 21st birthday while sober that's tough and helps knock me out of my self pity for getting sober young. Does your area have young people's meetings? That might help you feel better about getting sober young and connect with other people your age and younger who are sober 🙂
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57 yr old here. 19 months sober. Started drinking at 13, drank and partied heavily from 15 onward. I wish I would have gotten sober much, much earlier. Outwardly my drinking may have looked like fun/social/happy go lucky whatever. It was not. I was so miserable, full of fear, so unable to be truly happy. I set my career back, I have a second marriage that is ending, my youngest son who is 21 now - I barely have any memories of him from his birth to about age 3 or 4. If you are young and able to get/remain sober, you are the lucky ones. Ppl like me have a past full of carnage, regret, bad relationships, etc. Don't look at your situation and form resentments about it - it's a gift, stay the course, those 12 promises are worth far, far more than a bunch of parties or happy hours. I know.
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In my area (Chicago) the AA crowd is very well represented, like more than half, by people in their 20s and 30s. It's not just a program for old people. I'm 35 and would love to go back in time to 21 to find AA. Sure there was some "fun" but I did alot of damage to myself and others along the way. I go to meetings with some old guys too, I've never heard anyone say "I'm glad I waited so long to find AA" - you are stopping in time before you wreck your life, relationships, or career. But only you can decide if you're done. If you think you can manage it, go back out. AA will be here when you're ready. My suggestion is 3 meetings a week is pretty light for early sobriety, but I'm not your sponsor. Also, are you leaning into making friends in the program to do fun sober stuff?
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Google YPAA for your area. It stands for “Young People in AA” and they have specific meetings and conferences and events. I’ve heard of 14 year-olds at YPAA events. It’s never too early to get sober; I certainly wish I had gotten sober earlier (34 for me), but I also know it happens when it happens, if it happens at all. Congrats on 105 days!!!
First, congrats on 104 days. In my experience when I was new (and now in working with newcomers) this is that period where some days you just have to get by on trust that it will work and keep doing the work. We are people who generally are uncomfortable and have used substances to run from that discomfort. Now the substances are gone the discomfort is in full view. The program is designed to give you the tools to help deal with the uncomfortableness. You may not have those tools developed yet. Work the steps. Fellowship (find more young people meetings as someone else suggested, or just keep trying new meetings, you’ll find ones with a vibe that you like) and service all help. I remember days in my first 100 days I was going to three meetings a day and some days my plan was to”just get to the pillow” I.e. just get to bedtime. Facts: a few days I went to bed at 6pm. Pajamas on, lights out, bedtime. Just because I was so antsy I decided it was what I needed to do to stay sober that day. I have a little over six years now. Keep it up, do the work, you can do this! I got sober at 40 and went out for five years — I’ll never know how much better my life could’ve been had I stayed in. I’m just grateful every day that I’m here now. If you’re in SF Bay Area there’s hundreds of meetings. Hit me up.
I got sober at 32. I think about all the times I missed out on things because I was drunk or hungover. Or how much further I could be in my career had I taken the steps to get sober sooner. The better relationships I could have built or saved. Others mentioned it here but you need to change how you are framing everything in your mind.
Your definition of “fun” will and should change as you do.