Advice needed: started a new job a few months ago. Team ok, but going very badly with new boss: very aggressive and don’t know how to deal with it. Should I quit before I’m fired?

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If the new boss is unpopular, you may outlast him or her. If not, it won’t hurt to start looking around. Sorry you’re going through this.

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I would move on. It’s not worth it to your mental health. Bad bosses are worthless, unfortunately there are so many of them. I’ve quit several jobs due to absolutely woeful and incompetent bosses. I’ve never regretted it either.

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Don’t worry I’m not going to fire you...

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I’ve noticed in places with huge turnaround and unpopular managers who hang around are the reason why people leave. It’s likely higher-ups will make no changes.

You say your team is OK, but how do you like the work there? If you have a great idea that’s soon to be produced, I’d say stick around long enough to put the finished work in your book. But if you are unhappy there and can’t resolve differences with this boss, I’d certainly start working on an escape route.

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What’s the rep of your agency? Good? Award winning? Might want to stick it out for at least one good project if so

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A few questions: Did this new boss hire you? Did you and he discuss expectations during the hiring process? Have you and he had any discussions about how things are going? Do you have a clear understanding about the areas of conflict/lack of alignment?

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Sorry. None of that sounds good. If the place (or the man) has a reputation for being nasty, that’s a bad sign. If the environment is perpetually toxic, you can stay and be unhappy or... leave (like the 35% you mentioned). However, there is one long shot you can try if you feel you’ve got nothing much to lose. If you can find out (through direct conversation) why he acts the way he does—and solve his biggest frustrations—you could become his most valuable employee. (Remember the story of Androcles removing the thorn from the lion’s paw?)

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I’m in this situation now. Boss is terrible and incompetent. He has no idea how unpopular he is. Time to move on,

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I don't believe in letting toxic bosses push employees out. If you think they will fire you, they're building a case, so you should start building your own case. Outline incidents, suggest viable solutions and present them to HR. Make sure they acknowledge your claims and hold your boss accountable. Also, once you're done with your case, present it to an employment lawyer so you're getting legal advice and know what works in your favor.

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Generally speaking, negativity and attitude isn't isolated. If he's doing this to you, he's doing it to other people. I'd speak up about it to his boss or HR and ask your colleagues if he's also negativity impacting them.

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If you're in NYC, record that conversation on your phone. It's a one party consent state and you're one party. You can have your conversation with him, have an open mind, but if you're saying he is aggressive normally, how is he going to react during a private 1:1? It will always be the superiors word against yours. If you feel like termination is on the say, he's probably already started building a case, which will work in his favor. Protect your sanity and your income.

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Make sure to get everything in writing with HR or recorded somewhere, because if the worse happens it is your word against theirs. Been screwed over by really awful bosses this way in the past.

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I can't find the source to share, but it is a pretty well qualified research point that that most employee quality of job life experiences are based on how their boss performs, how they treat their direct reports. If you don't see some lateral move for yourself into another area - for a different manager - and it seems like your current boss/mgr/supervisor is pretty well entrenched and isn't going anywhere, seriously consider looking elsewhere.

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Have the critical conversation with him first. Then decide what tondo. Speak with HR too

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Yeah well the last convo had with him, where I voiced concerns about the viability of a project (team and I had concerns it was outwith our area or expertise and timeline terribly tight) ended up with him shouting at me to fuck off and saying “it’s just not working out with you” and storming out the office. Small agency, 35% turnover in the 5 months I’ve been there. Has reputation for being nasty. I appreciate I should be asking for clarification etc, but we have no formal meetings, and seems to be perpetually on the edge of fury. (Young account people crying in meetings etc.) not a big network agency tho, so no hr function as such. HR person. But boss is the boss

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Should have stressed boss is the old boss, but MY new boss because I’m new. But he’s not hugely popular. Big staff turnover that I wasn’t aware of before I joined.

Don't leave without another job or wait for the severance package

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