Angry and I want divorce so badly but I can’t do it. I feel a lot of guilt and I still love her so much. Unfortunately, I see many things changed in her behaviors and she becomes more aggressive and what I feel is manipulative. I never thought I would see this.

Despite all, she’s a huge for me she’s weak and divorce will make her life miserable. I can’t do it

No kids

Does anyone here work for Axiom or know someone who does and, if so, how difficult is it to stay fully engaged?

Any book recommendations to gift my cousin sister? She studied (masters) psychology and is a trained classical dancer.

Hyd folks - Heard first hand horror stories of friends struggling to get care at hospitals for family members with COVID. Even with all the money and influence. Stay safe!

Filing for marriage gc, does the sponsoring spouse require a copy of birth certificate or is passport fine?

Random Thought: I love my therapist and I just realized the things I talk to her about I wish I could talk to my parents about. Which made me realize, is that why people have such close relationships with their parents and why they call them all the time? Are people actually getting counseling from their parents?

Are there any well-off suburbs around Chicago where there's a significant amount of black or mixed race people? Significant meaning 40-50%+. I've seen a lot of nice black suburbs in southern and eastern cities but less in the midwest. In an interracial relationship and want to get an idea if there are any suburbs where our kids would feel represented or if we'll need to move down south for that.

What does your spouse think of your job? Do they understand what you do?

Asking for a friend - anyone staying in a marriage just for the kid(s)?

It's not like the marriage is terrible or unhealthy, but they would take an out if not for having had the kids.

Anyone else experience this? I'm wondering how common this is.

How do people decide or take this big decision of spending the rest of life with someone by just meeting them few times in arrange marriage setup. Where parents are involved and which makes things so complicated as more people of other generation have different thinking and mindset. People spend years in relationship the. Breakup then get over it and then again go in another relationship for years and finally marry someone who they barely know. (Cont. In comment)

I think it’s over with my SO of 3 years. He tells me he loves me and wants to work things through but has lied to me several times in the past - some which were the same mistake three times. He knows he needs professional help (he’s also on antidepressants and has PTSD) but I don’t know how I can trust him again. Feeling completely broken - cannot believe the situation we’re in. I’m so sad my heart is breaking and I don’t know what to do

Anyone here ever been scared by some major differences in materialism with your partner? I’ve been considered “boujee” by some friends but my girlfriend of just over a year is on a whole other level. Lately because of many of her friends getting engaged / married, rings have been mentioned and she’s said pretty much she wouldnt be happy with under 25k.

I come from a very middle class upbringing, and so does she, although she’s influenced by friends dating professional athletes and stuff

What games, toys, or science kits would you recommend for a kid who’s showing an interest in the sciences?

it’s been 3 years in this city and I really need to hang out with someone other than my boyfriend. But I’m terrible at “networking"

Real talk ... if someone is over 35 and hasn’t been married before, do you automatically assume there is something wrong with them?

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

I know the general answer to this, but I want to know others response.
If by your 30’s you’re mostly established in life, why is it then harder to establish a long lasting relationship with someone ?

I’ve been working to an unhealthy degree lately. And I’ve been making the excuse that I have a lot of work right now, but I’m starting to wonder if I’m addicted to it. Part of it is anxiety and perfectionism. But my behavior is now actively harmful to myself and starting to harm my marriage.

How do I stop? I’m not talking work-life balance. I mean, how do I say, “I don’t care that the client wants this tomorrow and I’m not close to done, I’m going to sleep tonight”?

Anyone has an alternative to an Au Pair. Wife and I were looking forward to host an au pair but can’t go through the official program since we are not permanent residents yet. Anyone has an alternative besides traditional daycare? Maybe a friend of a friend? I am in NJ. Any ideas welcomed and needed!

I used to be so devoted to my academics that I kind of forgot to make some close friends. How do you reignite your social life after college?

Hi, I'm a Designer and with 3 yoe. Mostly freelance with portfolio ranging from UX/UI to Web Development to Branding and Strategy. Looking for a Product Design role starting July. Any leads?

Applying for jobs for the first time, suggestions are very much welcome :)

Hi, anyone who attended interviews for Scaled abuse analyst at Google/Youtube in recent times?

🐠 what are your thoughts on diamond tipped bow ties compared to the classic squared off look? Have some black tie weddings coming up and need a new bow tie

Software Sales: How long did it take back then to close your first deal?

How do you deal with the following - 1) lack of general organization in life, note taking, keeping track of your relationships and 2) attention to detail. These 2 things have been bothering me a lot. We all are smart as hell but silly mistakes such as spelling mistakes, broader checks to be done on the deck is killing me. Also I feel the lack of organization in personal life blows into professional as well. If you are a consultant how do u deal with it ?

Looking for referrals for production support and developer roles
Skillset: Linux/Unix, shell scripting,
Oracle DB, SQL,
Development: C, C++, COBOL, Java
Anywhereworks

Any any insight on Greenberg Traurig?

Do you guys think the Bay is a good city to retire in? I want to buy my parents a house closer to me but not sure if I want to move them here but it's either that or I leave

Best elder law treatise or practice guide for Florida?

Referrals for chubb Newco Tata Consultancy Apple

Does Platinum Corporate Amex worth the $550 fee in terms of points? Let's say I travel up to 50% of the year. And EY doesn't pay for the membership fee anymore, right?

Anyone looking for a Head of Analytics, please let me know.

Any info on WLB at NielsenIQ.. and pay ballpark figure for 7.5 YOE?

This is twice now in back to back weeks my boss has asked me where the disconnect was in our communications because I didn’t deliver on what “was asked”, even though I know damn well what was asked and what was done were the same thing. I’m not sure if he’s changing the meaning or isn’t communicating what he’s envisioning or what but it’s embarrassing to be called out like that, and to have people think you’re the dumb 23 year old.

I have 5 years of work experience with equal experience in Data Engineering and DevOps. Now I am thinking to focus on a particular area. Can someone suggest me which one will have more scope in future. I am equally interested in both.

Hi all, looking for recommendations for a divorce lawyer in Houston area. Any recommendations would be helpful.

Thank you for creating this bowl

What is the best advice wrt financial settlement ? I was told to simply get a move on and not fight over 5/10k but get on with life ASAP. Do u relate ?

Any tips for someone entering the process? How do I pick a lawyer? Do I try to agree with spouse on terms before finding lawyer? Have material assets accumulated during marriage.

Are there any mothers here who voluntarily gave primary custody to the kids father? I love my children fiercely but tbh I don’t think I’m cut out to be a single parent. Family and friends tell me I’m a great mom but at the end of the day having them on my own is exhausting and I end up just either letting them do whatever they want Bc I don’t feel strong enough to set a limit about it, or yelling at them. They’re 4 and 7 for reference. Please constructive responses only. Thank you!

Could someone suggest a really good attorney for a contested divorce case in SF Bay Area ? Thanks

How do I know if I am ready for a divorce?

Folks,
Have been married for 15 years and have a kid of 11 years. My spouse is falsely accusing me of domestic abuse and trying to get separated. We have had incompatibility even before marriage on various issues but it was an arranged marriage, we tried to work it out and stay together. Her side is asking her to move on. She has taken my kids passport and kept it with her. What are the options I have to defend myself?

Anyone knows how alimony works ? In terms of salary ? How much more than your partner do you need to make, to be granted alimony… I’m asking because I have seen cases where one person sacrifices themselves studying and working hard, while the other person is basically doing the bare min, and they can get alimony if they separate ? In some cases, for life.

Thinking about divorce. Wife had an affair 3 years ago that I haven’t been able to move past. Been married 11 years and have two kids though. Restarting individual and couples therapy before I pull the trigger. Anyone else been in a similar situation? Should I blow up the family if I can’t get beyond this?

Sister going through divorce with verbally abusive spouse, just received temporary judgement for custody of two year old and was awarded joint custody (she was anticipating she’d get sole custody). It’s tearing her apart and I can’t help/live in another state. Anyone have a good recommendation for family lawyers or counselors in/around Phoenix? Any good support groups that could help?

Has anyone here completed their divorce without lawyers? It’s amicable between both of us and we are agreeing of the separation of assets. Do I still need to get a lawyer or can I do this on my own?

Stupid question but getting a divorce now and having a hard time figuring out what to do with sentimental things such as wedding pictures, travel pics, ornaments we bought together, etc. What did you do? Relationship was over 12 years and don’t know what to do. Should I jus pretend that those 12 years never happened or she was not there?

Divorce is amicable and based on growing apart rather than bc of cheating or fighting or anything else..

Anyone co-parenting in different states? Looking for insight on visitation, general feelings, and how the child/children are doing. Thank you!

If I don’t have kids but I’m divorced. Can I still be part of this bowl?

any recommendations for divorce attorney in Chicago/ Naperville/western suburbs?

My husband repeatedly claims domestic abuse falsely, and it’s getting too much. Now that I have kids he has started saying this to them and they say it back to me. I think he does this because he wants custody of kids or an upper hand when it comes to finances if we end up divorcing. Any ideas on how to handle this

Divorce lawyers in Boston / Worcester?

How’s everyone doing? Any struggle this week?

Sadly this is where I ended up (going through divorce with 6mo infant). Abusive spouse wants shared custody when he doesn’t know a thing about taking care of an infant.. any advice would help re custody or divorce as well. We are not in speaking terms