Angry and I want divorce so badly but I can’t do it. I feel a lot of guilt and I still love her so much. Unfortunately, I see many things changed in her behaviors and she becomes more aggressive and what I feel is manipulative. I never thought I would see this.

Despite all, she’s a huge for me she’s weak and divorce will make her life miserable. I can’t do it

No kids

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I am sorry. You gotta do what’s best for you. If you have no kids, this is the best time to divorce if things are not working out.

Things to ask:
1. Do you love her, or are you afraid of not having her in your life?
When we love someone we fight for them, we try to find a solution. Have you tried couples therapy?
2. What are you so afraid of? This might be beneficial to discuss with a therapist

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