Daily Reflection for January 13
IT DOESN'T HAPPEN OVERNIGHT
We are not cured of alcoholism. What we really have is a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition.
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 85

Cont.

I truly believe it's time that face masks becomes as commonplace here as they are in Hong Kong. NYC is trying but I'm still seeing many people not using them. Especially friends in Texas tell me no one is.

Serious question, why does going to the gym and doing an intense workout raise my lidio/drive and make me want to run home and and just go to town. 😩🥹

Anybody had experience with 10mg Doxepin for sleep issues.

Traveling from 🇩🇪 to 🇪🇸 next month. I couldn’t find information about the janssen vaccine, does this still count? Got the jannsen in 06/21 and Comirnaty in 12/21. Do I count as boostered, or do I need a take a pcr test prior?

Feeling very anxious. I have no idea why or about what. I just feel this lump in the pit of my stomach and a tightness in my chest and worry/fear on my mind. Like something very bad is about to happen

I know everyone will have different answers for this but how did you know it was time to get sober? I think it might be time for me to find a new job and pursue sobriety, but I don't feel like I'm a rock bottom which is the only time I've ever seen people really commit to it (my father). Apathy isn't the right word but I just kind of feel numb about everything and I think being sober would maybe help.

I’m trying to get my parents into adopting healthier eating habits but nothing is really sticking. Do you have any recommendations or like books I can give them to teach them what’s actually good to eat vs. falling for good marketing/ fads?

Who else is doing expenses on an amazing Saturday? I noticed a $50 dinner charge. Damn you Sheraton. I hardly ate anything that night.

How do you know when dependence turns into addiction? Where’s the line?

Does anyone else have a serious sweating problem in the mornings? I read somewhere that it can be due to increased cortisol levels upon waking but haven’t found much info about that or improving it

I started a new job a month ago and that just so happened to be when my birth control decided to screw with my emotions. I can barely hold it together already and I have the added stress of a new job and it being busy season. I don’t know what to do. I cry multiple times daily. I don’t know how to keep going.

Have any women on here had your eggs frozen? If so how old were you and how did you decide where to have it done?

Just restarted stimulants and already I'm dealing with twitches again. Does anyone else get these? No type of pain or anything just every once and a while my body will twitch strongly. Afterward I feel normal, but it's a bit annoying, and I can't control it at all which is a little disconcerting. Don't remember this from when I took stimulants as a kid, but it's been a while.

Anyway to slim down legs; just want to smooth out this massive imbalance that the body seems to favor to the downside

Is anybody using WACOM CINTIQ Pro 24"? I am contemplating getting one but wondering if I will be able to use a mouse/tablet along with it. I heavily use InDesign and wonder if I can use a mouse/tablet when I need to without unplugging it. Thanks in advance!

PwC 🐠 - health insurance coverage. What are the deductibles for the high-deductible plans? Still want to use the HSA. Thanks!

Having some severe Executive Dysfunction atm. I can't imagine that the patent attorney bowl here is short on the neurodivergent. Suggestions/tips/tricks/advice are all appreciated. I recently moved, bought my first home, got vaccinated, etc. - basically just a huge load of stressful events that are probably doing a number on my brain, but I also just can't seem to get on top of.

Please, if you're neurotypical, think thrice before posting - I'm not normal, and want help, not stress or dismiss

How important is seniors/managers setting an example? It seems these people believe they are entitled or privileged at Barclays and morale is suffering as a result.

How many hours will you bill this year? If you have ever been spoken to about needing to bring up your hours, how low were they?

I asked mindtree to revise my compensation by informing of the counter offer and surprising they provided me the CTC i requested without asking for proof of counter offer. Is this something skeptical ?

Hi everyone,
Does the gap of one month will affect job opportunities or interview calls for IT jobs especially in current market scene?

I was promoted to manager in July 2020 (3,5 yr of experience). Currently preparing for YE but honestly, I couldn’t care less - what motivates one to push for SM promotion? Not my case atm, but wanted to hear what motivates ppl to keep going as I don’t feel like it’s worth it.

💡 Did you know: a pro se litigant has a fool for a client.

How many days will it take from BGV to complete the process? 2 weeks or 1 month?

Recently started my own firm and interested in others thoughts. Are there resources out there for practical advice or is it only something that comes with experience? For example, I can take let's say a 601A client and use the resources available to me to learn how to do it. But if a client asks me is it better to marry my fiance in her home country, bring her here on a K-1 or have her visit on a B-2, that's not learned from a book or webinar. How does one learn how to evaluate new cases?

Any new joiners attending first impression call tomorrow.

DM me for referral to Mitre. Great pay and benefits and really smart coworkers. Engineering background preferred

I interviewed at KPMG on 11/14 and got a verbal offer the next day but since then waiting to hear from them. Been following up continuously but the partners are not replying it seems. In the meanwhile i have an offer from BT offering 90k for 4 yrs of experience which seems to be fair. I am just unsure whether to accept the offer as I was waiting for kpmg reply as I want B4 on my resume which apparently is a big deal. Is BT also good on resume for future employers ??

Brushing your teeth in the office: yay or nay?

Anyone here left ACN for KPMG? What group did you move from and to what group within KPMG?

How does your firm measure utilization? I work for a small boutique that defines it as utilization = number of billable hours/2,080 and full bonus payout occurs at 80% plus.

Hi, every new joinee in JPMC gets allowance to buy laptops? Or is it specific LOBs?

How do you know when dependence turns into addiction? Where’s the line?

I started working for a bank and am going through the background check. They found an arrest which was dismissed and the file was sealed a few days after the check. They’re requesting the police report on top of the court order to seal. The police report is BAD. During the arrest (DUI) they wrote the report to make me seem like a complete lunatic. Embellished on several elements of the case. I am worried that giving them this report will cause me to be let go.

For everyone in recovery, please reach out and stay in touch with your people. Isolation is a killer.

Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

My SO is an alcohol abuser but has said he knows it’s a problem and would like to cut back or quit. Any suggestions or advice in how to help and cope with this. He becomes a different person when he drinks. I want to support him but don’t know how or where to start.

Problem gambler here having to deal with multiple payday loans. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle? Been in a situation with pay day loans in the past? Any guidance would be great.

Any interest in doing a daily reflections thread? In the spirit of rotation one of us would be responsible for posting the link and kicking off the share for a month at a time??

Has anyone ever messed up at a company party because of alcohol?

Covid has been hard. March 2029- December 2020 I drank a lot to cope without realizing it. January- March I didn't realize I was depressed. March I came to terms with increase and ongoing suicidal ideation and needed help.

I went into a intensive outpatient program (IOP) which has been super helpful.

During the beginning of covid I drank every day and in a great deal. January it was a "dry" month which was hard the first week but overall great.

March 2021 realized I'm clinically depressed.

Just taking the opportunity to get current. Sober 3 years and 10 months. This past couple weeks have been stressful and my mind slipped into fantasizing about my drug of choice. Last week I flipped out at some of my wife's family. I did an amends and I think time will heal this one. It's all up to HP. Although I have neglected my morning practice this week, I'm practicing self compassion with positive self talk.

Any recommendations for group therapists in NYC??

Curious to hear the story of anyone that has overcome or going through cocaine addiction. Given that people in this bowl make enough money to support such an expensive habit. Take me through your story - how bad did it get in terms of daily consumption and total money spent? Please share if comfortable.

Anyone have a friend or family member suffer from liver damage / failure? Not sure how or what to do to help someone with the problem.

I messed ups no need help. Idk where to turn.

Pause. Breathe. Proceed.
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Hey all, just claiming my seat on a Saturday night. Was just struggling and another comment helped me get back to a healthy space. If anyone is struggling tonight, know there’s one fellow here thinking of you

I buy things I don’t need and don’t know how to fix it. I always blamed it on “drunk buying” but I’ve been sober for 355 days and it persists. I know I buy things in an effort to fill a void and try to feel something so I buy “things” but it doesn’t help and I know it. Any thoughts or suggestions?

Looking for motivation to get me to my first Alcohol rehab appointment.