During salary negotiations, the hiring manager asked me what my spouse makes. Isn't that incredibly inappropriate (or even illegal)? How do you respond to such an invasive question?

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Yikes… that would bother me.

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I would just say, "we have separate accounts so I'm not really sure" and then would change the subject. Bizarre question to ask though.

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“Who is your daddy, and what does he do?”

I would say how is that relevant here. Major red flag.

It’s inappropriate but not illegal.
I would probably just come back with a joke. What did you say?

I am all about setting expectations so if asked that question I would reply without hesitation, not rude but a firm I don’t believe that is an appropriate question. Add nothing more and await his or her next question. It could have been a test to see if you had the guts to speak up for yourself. In any case if they expected and answer then you don’t want to work for that person. If they were testing you and you caved they might be thinking one I can control this one or they didn’t have the backbone to stand up to me. To be honest I would think more of someone who stood their ground on this. If you’re asking this question you know it was wrong. The best case is they are a good company and he/she was a good manager looking to see if you would respectfully challenge their question.

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