Earlier this year I set some goals with my manager to help me get promoted to VP by 2025. Role is pretty demanding so plenty of elbow grease is required. A few weeks ago my partner & I found out that we are pregnant & the baby is due in Oct. I’m 100% going to be there and support both baby & my partner & plan on taking paternity leave. Though a part of me feels like this may hurt my chances of promo. Any Dads who have been in this situation before? How did you stay on track for promo?

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If you’re thinking of not taking the leave to try harder for promo, post your address so we can all come to your house to slap it you.

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Abeg Nigerian Aunty is that you?

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If you’re aiming for a 2025 promotion you should already have shown your competency for a VP role before October. If you’re at an org that doesn’t respect a paternity leave then that’s not a place I’d want to be a new parent and executive.

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Wow. This is exactly the logic women go through when deciding on having children. In any case it’s sad.

If you’ve shown you’re competent the leave shouldn’t matter. If it does you’re with a sh1tty org.

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Thank you for your kind and productive comment.

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It depends in so many ways.

My spouse and I staggered our leaves so as to draw out the time we wouldn’t have to pay for full childcare. Part of that was also that it’s easier for my work to take the leave at one time of year vs another too.

Most important to any of this is a discussion with your spouse. For us, 2 weeks of PTO for me at birth followed by a few weeks of grandma staying with us and me getting right back to work was enough. She was full time parent, then went back to work and I became full time parent.

If one of us was pushing hard for an EOY promotion and baby due in Oct, I’d probably consider something similar to complete the push and then fully focus on the baby.

Every relationship and every person is different.

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I took paternity leave as a senior associate when we had our first child in 2018 and still made partner in 2020.

You adjust and make it work. A firm that wants to keep you for the long term will adjust and grow with you too.

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2020 was a different world though. I made manager the same year just before my third maternity leave in 4 years.

Supporting your partner through pregnancy and labor is your number one priority right now. After the baby is born your number one priority is being a good parent.

After that, worry about promotions. And congrats!

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Exactly! Everyone is replaceable in a business but you can't replace your family. Who is going to be with you at the end of your life?

Don't worry..it does not matter.. give ur best with whatever time u get after managing and supporting ur spouse..I have been there and if u are in a good company and supporting lead u ll get through.. but in any case prioritize personal stuff and not promotion..once there are any complications in pregnancy u cannot do anything afterwards but promotion can happen anytime so prioritize health of ur spouse and baby..

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Congratulations and all the best. It's nice to see men prioritising spouse and baby over promotion..wish you get that promotion next year. God bless. Before going on my maternity leave, I worked really hard but when I came back from my leave I was not given a hike nor I was given a promotion. In fact, someone who was my peer was promoted in my absence (which is fine) and he was made my manager. I still never said anything considering my maternity leave absence. However, when the new manager started behaving rudely I had to take a stand. After a few days, the new manager could not handle pressure and left the company. I was again told I will be promoted to replace him but I had made my plans to quit. They were under the impression that I'd be happy about promotion but it was all over for me. I am in a different company now and doing much better. Just want to say God is watching and you will get that promotion sooner or later. So just chill and enjoy your time.

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By October you should meet all your goals for the year, so maternity leave shouldn't be a problem. As a wife and mother, I have had to stay in positions longer to wait after maternity leave or for my children to get older. I don't regret any of it. My children are my motivation, I fail in life if I don't get to spend time or care for my children.

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This is an incredibly helpful comment. I really appreciate this

I got promoted to partner on paternity leave! Life is too short to miss these events!

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