For those diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, what are some things you did / focused on in the first weeks/months following your formal diagnosis? I was diagnosed this month at the age of 33 and I’m finding myself in a “okay, now what?” mood. All the content I’m consuming is becoming overwhelming (books, podcasts, social media, etc).

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It is a lot! It took me a good 6 months of reflection, research, and about a month of therapy, to help get comfortable with myself.

The most important things I learned on my journey are (1) it’s not my fault. I don’t take longer on things bc I’m stupid or don’t care, it’s bc my brain works differently and thats okay, in fact, sometimes it’s a strength. In other words, self compassion; and (2) stress and junk food exacerbate ADHD symptoms, so I absolutely must sleep, take my vitamins/supplements, eat healthy and exercise. There’s a very interesting science behind the way stress depletes certain chemicals necessary for executive functioning. Knowing that helped me better understand the importance of self care, and identify what self care should look like.

Recognizing these 2 things have been the most helpful to me. Good luck and I hope you find clarity and a system that enables you to maximize your potential with your symptoms - I think that is the “now what” - find your system

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Giving myself grace.

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The first is to give yourself some grace.

It wasn’t you being lazy or dumb. You struggled to win races because your proverbial Mario Kart track had 10x the bananas as everyone else.

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Absolutely! Acknowledgment is the first step. You are not neurotypical. So what works for NT’s won’t necessarily work for you, no matter how bad you want it. But that’s ok. Because the goal isn’t to do the task a way a NT would, it’s to get the task done.

For work product, I do not use the actual deadline. That is useless to me. I break tasks into sub components and set mini deadlines for each of those. I then budget my working hours against everything on my to do list and adjust as needed.

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I wouldn’t get too into the books and podcasts and stuff. You’ll convince yourself you have symptoms you don’t have

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I cried a lot? Do it if you wanna.

Not to add to the content but if you want adhd adjacent but mostly a humor memoir, Emily Farris's new book sort of about her late diagnosis is great. Free audiobook on Spotify.

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I sought out and joined ADHD group therapy

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Thanks everyone for the thoughtful replies. Sorry I’m late responding. These messages have been helpful as I’ve been adjusting and accepting my diagnosis. So happy to have found this group! 🤍

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