Friends, I was offer an opportunity to move to a warmer state to work at an agency I like. My kid who is 13 is (understandably ) hating me. How can I deal with this in a supportive and compassionate way. I hate to do this to him, but I think this could be a good opportunity for the family and the beginning of a new chapter that I’ve wanted for long time. Any help, or advice is appreciated.

Happy wife happy life is a really toxic saying. I’m just shocked how this has become the standard saying for men in relationships. I have friends of mine saying this all the time, and I have just thought it’s so cringe and always want to say my thoughts on it but always decide to hold back. However, imagine the saying reversed - happy husband happy life - that would lead to all kinds of uproar. To me happy wife happy life means I need to sacrifice my wants and needs to make my wife happy.

So I just moved states. I’m staying with a parent for a while in a pretty large house and my cat keeps hiding for hours on end (I think to snooze). Any thoughts? She’s spent time with me and I walked around with her while she explores. And she’s ventured solo. Seemed she’s warming up well. Except this again. I admit it’s giving me horrible anxiety that she won’t respond at all until I locate her because even I’m learning where things are and want her to be safe. This is the third time 😭

How common are leaves of absence in PA? I’ve never seen someone out of work longer than a couple weeks other than for parent leave, but people on fishbowl talk about it as something you can reasonably ask for.

How do you manage a long distance relationship? I got engaged 3 months ago and my fiancé and I live in different cities. I just can’t stop thinking about her and feel horrible there on.

For anyone in this bowl. How crucial is it for you to have a formal dining room separated from the kitchen? My son and daughter-in-law are buying a house for their future family and I'm trying to convince them a formal dining room looks better and makes things less chaotic in the kitchen, especially with kids. Am I out of touch? Or is it still important?

A friend of mine was arrested last night over a DUI charge and his family is worried sick. How can I help comfort them...

Does anyone manage without having a nanny? Kids age 0-10

I am devastated. Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years we were taking about getting married and having kids. Then I discovered he was also in another relationship - 2 years in.
He promised her all the same sweet stuff. I'm trying not to be too hard on myself but I'm not sure I can recover from this.

It's an exhausting time to be working in this industry, to say the least. How do you prevent taking your work home with you?

How have you combated your fear of rejection? I fixate on such small things as when my friends, for example, reject plans I have made. This definitely makes me more averse to putting myself out there and makes me ruminate on past perceived failures, which are clearly not good for personal growth

Moving to Chicago on Thursday! How do I like...make friends

Been with my GF since college and we recently hit the 4 year mark. 1-2 years into our relationship I found out she had instances of micro-cheating (flirting with guys, talking to ex’s etc - but nothing physical) and we addressed it. To her credit and my knowledge, she’s been apologetic and great at respecting boundaries since, but I still feel the pain from her actions years ago (and have talked to her about it). Feeling lost about whether to just leave or to try and work things out

I think I might get a divorce

So… 3.5 year relationship came crashing in Jan due to covid depression, work burn out, lockdown etc. We have stayed in contact and recently he has come around to apologizing and considering getting back together. However he also revealed he started seeing someone casually 4 weeks ago and technically is cheating on her by meeting me for coffee and to discuss this. I’m upset that he’s dating others but shouldn’t be right? I mean, I did the same. Still hurts though. And I told him to sort that out

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

My Dad and brother didn’t even text me happy birthday 😔

What are some of the nice things that your SO do for you?

My husband told me today that he cant handle another busy season - i.e me working all the time and he taking care of our two year old girl after his work. Cant say I blame him - but I feel drained

I have been looking at the curriculums for Harvard Business School's Master of Business Administration and Harvard Extension School's Master's in Management. They both have the same requirements, generally speaking, including a field immersion course that serves as a capstone in the Master's in Management, which is fairly new. If I am not able to gain admission to Harvard Business School, but wanted a similar educational experience to become a consultant, should I attend Harvard Extension?

Wanting to make the leap out of Big 4 as a senior 3 and am not really sure what type of compensation to expect to see. Any ideas on what’s being offered out in the market ?

What tools do you use to conduct vendor research and select a vendor? Any helpful tools to standardize the process and keep everything organized and make it into a nice report?

Is anyone nervous about the whole Russia situation and how that may affect the market if an actual invasion takes place? Do you think it makes sense to take out investments just until things settle down, or even assuming the fed will increase interest rates? Thoughts?

Rolling off surge work and onto my first client project. Anything I need to be aware of for folks that recently have done it?

Mid year promotions, I found out you need to make your own case for it rather than the firm coming to you. If you think you’re ready make sure you speak up!

How does a sole engineer at a company go about getting management to actually care how production machines run? I’m the only mechanical engineer at my company dealing with a half dozen cranky production managers who think that I can “work my magic” on a machine. It’s not magic, just ignorance about the machine actually works. How to I get a manager to stop caring about the end product long enough for me to actually teach them about their own machine?

I can’t believe companies pay millions for me to Google for content.

Can someone confirm if the vive event on October 19 is going to happen in IT Park Taramani office.

Can one of you awesome people please scan my resume for a ZS Associates referral?

I heard Deloitte won't apply Green Card till 2 years after joining. I'm 3 years from H1b max out. 2 years is too late for me. Any possibility to get an earlier start during offer negotiation?

I am hoping to get some guidance and direction on RFE I received regarding my I-485 adjustment of status. My birth certificate has a late registration date and the USCIS is asking for a secondary evidence documentation to show name and proof of birth. One of the documents is an affidavit- my mother lives in India. My question is a) can I not provide school and university certificates and avoid affidavit and b) if affidavit is required will they accept foreign affidavits? Thank you

How do you all make the decision of when to keep hodling or when to sell (or other strategies)? I’m definitely a believer of the bubble, but also think more money can be made...

My current package is 10.6 with 7.5 years of experience, got an offer of 17.8 ( 14 fixed , 3.8 variable ).Should I look for other offer ?

Hi Fishes ,

What is Max yearly hike for best and worse perfomer in HCL ?

Any firms cut salaries, bonuses, or staff lately? I feel like it’s coming..

What are some creative ways that I can reward my team? They've been working really hard lately and I want to show my appreciation

Hi Everyone, Could someone please suggest the best institute for DevOps Online Training course?

Have been having really stressful and vivid dreams since quarantine started. A few dreams have even been insanely disturbing. I’m on Zoloft & Wellbutrin. Therapist thinks it’s not related to the meds. Anyone else experience this and got through it? CONT’D

My last therapist keeps coming up in my mind. I left her when I moved to a new area before COVID dug in and frankly it felt like leaving a girlfriend. She also disclosed in the final session that she was a member of AA and knew several of the people I occasionally discussed from the rooms. Her knowledge of the program certainly built trust with me early on, but it has been two years. I discussed it with my current therapist but she’s still in there. Any advice?

I want to advance in my career, but I have no energy to do anything when I get home, even if it's an early day.

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I burned out months ago and now I’m just in a rut. How do I fix this?

Has anyone else noticed they’re stressed without “feeling” stressed? I don’t feel as stressed as when I was in college. However, I’m still on the job hunt and I think stress is manifesting itself without me realizing it. My skin is showing really bad acne, I feel unmotivated even to fill out job applications; I’m having trouble falling asleep at night and even though I sleep past noon sometimes I still feel tired during the day... Is it stress or burnout?

How can I live with my decisions and stop changing my mind about things?

How do you deal with a boss that wants you to quit and is becoming increasingly more abusive. But you haven’t found a job yet and need this job financially.

Can anyone recommend a bilingual (English/Spanish) therapist in NYC? Manhattan or Brooklyn preferably

Any recos for a therapist who:
- is in BK/manhattan
- takes Oxford Health
- is good for treating social anxiety
- is female (preferably but not a game changer)
?

Ever had one of those days where everything is just making you cringe so bad, to the point all you want to do is sit on the ground and cry?

Today is one of those days, and even when I know things will get better or "this too shall pass", I am sad, I can't enjoy whatever good there is...I feel powerless.

Its my birthday. And nobody knows at my work I feel a bit awkward also first birthday I have to be all alone :/ . New city any ideas to celebrate myself ?:D

K so. My bf just told me he is an atheist. I knew he wasn’t super religious, but our talks before made me think he atleast believed in some sort of afterlife. I know everyone has their own opinion..

I started a new job recently and then had my PTSD seriously triggered, plus a panic attack. Felt so on edge and low on emotional resources for over a week that I wasn’t myself and apparently really rubbed a few people the wrong way so I was called in for a talking to 😣. I let people know there were some personal things going on, but didn’t mention the PTSD—very unsure if that’s something to share, or if I’d be judged for it or... I don’t even know. Has anyone else dealt with PTSD and had it impact them at work, and how did you handle it?

Anybody on Trintellix? Thoughts ?

I live alone and work for myself. Having horrible productivity issues right now. Its a cycle of procrastination and shame. Horrible mindset to have while trying to “create”. Working out hasn’t helped

Now entering my third week of no booze, after getting horribly and embarrassingly wasted at my work summer party. I won't lie, even though I find myself wanting a drink often, it feels really good.

I’m sick of living in NYC but can’t go anywhere.

Love how i think... 'oooh haven’t been anxious in a while ’ then before bed I start to get anxious... 😩

My job just announced mental health benefits to help end the stigma: 25 therapy sessions for employee+family a year at no cost. 🍾🍾🍾

Any advice on dealing with an eating disorder in the workplace? Mine is taking over and my work is crumbling. I often can’t focus or remember anything from meetings or conversations because I havent..