Has anyone here faced discrimination when coming out of the closet or being outed at work? I’m bisexual and am in a straight marriage and recently my sexuality came up. I disclosed to one associate my year but didn’t outright identify as LGBTQ to the partners involved. They didn’t ask or seem hostile but it involves an opportunity where sexuality is relevant. I am generally closeted at work historically and being married to a woman with same sex relationships behind me it isn’t an issue usually.

Has anyone found dating having kids challenging?

Any single girl staying in Kolkata?

I’ve decided to leave a toxic work environment and have begun applying elsewhere. It’s now very difficult to motivate myself at work. Any advice for how to survive until I have an offer in hand?

Any people looking to date in Atlanta ? 40 F

How do you handle people’s kids showing up on video meetings? Screaming, kicking, hamming it up, (wasting time.) Everyone else is coo-ing…I’m not a kids person. Heard a technique which is to drop off the call bc you “assume the call is over” (which seems like a great way to get fired especially if it’s a way higher up’s kids - plus it feels rather passive aggressive.) Thoughts?

What’s the best way to meet other DL gay dudes who are not into the boystown scene?

Do you think it is time to find another job when your PIC is a micro manager, never trained you when you got hired, expects you to know things no one ever told you about in the first place, texts and calls you in the morning with questions you don’t have an answer to (I work evening shift so I’m mostly sleep when he reaches out), assumes the worst about everything, plots against you anyway, lies all the time, they don’t even do their job, they leave their trash behind etc. gives me anxiety.

I gained weight during my last relationship (probably around 30 lbs, and I’m 5’9”). Before my relationship, I felt like I could get any guy. But I’ve been single for 2 years now and it’s been so hard to date. I’m not sure if maybe I’ve lost confidence, but I legitimately don’t know how to get a guy to be interested. Any pointers?

Anyone else down to bang their boss? Any success/awkward stories about playing with a direct supervisor?

Do you guys give your boss's New Years' gifts? I'm thinking of doing one since I didn't give a holiday gift but thought it maybe weird

Good places for buying business casual clothing (men's)?

How can I get my *micro* manager off my back? I know I haven’t been doing the best work this quarter, but emailing me all damn day isn’t going to help me do better, I do know that.

I know this seems small, but my team ignored my birthday this week while celebrating two others. It’s not like they didn’t know - it’s my 2nd birthday celebrated with this team. Feels horrible.

Any single females want to grab drinks/dinner in the city?
28M for reference!

Firm: "Bring your authentic self to work!" Me: " I drink and say 'fuck' a lot."

Once when I was waiting tables, I had a guy pay me cash. The change was 45 cents, which I didn't give back to him because like who wants that. He then asked where the change was, and when I explained that I didn't give back the loose change, he made a big stink about how dollars and cents matter and didn't leave me a tip. He was a republican staffer on capitol hill.

How do you actually find a decent person to date when you’re working 80+ consulting hours? Like seriously...everyone I know who recently got engaged or married had been long term dating since high school or college. What has worked for people?

Hello! I've been struggling the last few weeks because someone on my team has been taking credit for my work. This coworker is really good with buzzwords and getting the attention of upper management. I'm feeling discouraged - what should I do?

Best part about being single: Not having to hold in my gas ! What is the best part of it for you??

I’m dealing with a difficult management situation and don’t know what to do, how would you report someone when nobody really cares what’s going on or is automatically going to side with the other person?

How do PE exits look like for emerging market funds in Middle East (e.g Abraaj group type firms)

I've worked in Higher Education for over 15 years. I recently have obtained my PMP. Any suggestions on how to move into techs PM roles

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Any fish in Boston ?

Do you feel like you can be your whole self at work? If not, what parts of yourself do you leave at home?

Currently a 2nd yr lit associate (big law) in NY considering a move to a TX big law firm for the financial opportunity. Would leave to hear thoughts on this type of move or from someone who’s done so!

Looking for a small pouch with strap/wristlet that I can keep in my work bag to help organize that bag but also can carry separately when I need to do things around the office and carry just my phone/small wallet/access card. Budget is approx 1K - any recs? Thanks!

Hi need suggestions, i just joined HCL technologies noida , as a tech lead, its been 2 months only , and my reporting is to group tech manager, and he's giving me hard time to settle in and understand the project. Feeling like being pressurized to do things fast.
What should i do, i am very confused, when i start liking the project he again made some sarcastic comments and pressures me , even i am utilizing my weekends to unterstand it faster.

Is anyone familiar with the El Gouna part of Egypt (near Hurghada)? If so, recommendations and thoughts?

Why do you enjoy Boston (as opposed to other cities)?

Traveling to Italy for 1 week. Is it better to get the int'l data plan or get a SIM card when I get there?

Bose QuietComfort, Bose QuietComfort or Beats by Dr. Dre Studio? Finally going to invest in quality noise canceling headphones, but not sure which one to get.

In today's scenario what is the average pay for a senior software developer with yoe 6-8?? (Do not include companies like maang and similar companies). I want to know if I am in average salary slab or not. TIA.

So here in CA there is a lot of talk about certain jurisdictions doing virtual jury trials. As a firm we won’t agree to it and if push comes to shove we’ll take it up on. Writ. What is everyone else’s opinion?

Any one from tata technologies? How is work life balance and job security in ER&D...

Any recommendations on relocating to Hawaii? I am registered for the Hawaii bar but currently based out of Los Angeles and practicing in California as a licensed attorney.

Hi, anyone else end up in civil litigation and not really understand how you ended up here or why you actually kind of love it here? Even though you have to fight it back like a deeply established weed so you have some semblance of an individual life?

Anyone else feeling the whiplash of following supreme court drama and then going to work the next day pretending like half your rights aren't up for debate?

How does one find a therapist? Like what are the steps to finding a good therapist and does insurance cover anything? Everyone always encourages therapy, but never gives a run down on how to start.

Nothing like the named partner who you *know* is actively opposed to associate salary increases (despite living in a market where the COL has significantly risen and outpaced general inflation) telling you about how annoying it is to winterize her 4 mega luxury sailboats she has on her waterfront dock. 🙄

Any tips on leaving a firm “correctly”? Was about to go “of counsel” with my firm of 6 years, but then another firm whose partners I really respect (and personally like) offered me a partnership position. I predict my current bosses will *flip* (cut off file access immediately, try to beat me to calling my clients, etc.), so how do I set myself up for a successful transition?

What are things to be mindful of when becoming an equity partner?

I’ve been negotiating a settlement on behalf of a client. OP is a major corp. we’ve gone back and forth for months, almost a year. Finally came to a final agreement and we’re reviewing for final signature. Then client is reviewing and decides they want something else modified. It’s a point of contention. OP has said no. Should I communicate this to client before pushing back against OP’s rejection of the mod?

I am sure this is a question with an obvious answer, but does anyone else just feel absolutely trapped in a job they hate because of their student loans? I’m three years out of law school and I still have $160K in student debt despite making aggressive payments. I work in a larger firm (not big law per se, but 250+ attorneys and big for the market). I am pretty unhappy with my job the vast majority of the time, but I feel like I have no options. $160k at 6% and 7% interest cannot be ignored.

I’m a new third year associate working at a satellite office of a midsize firm. I feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day to truly get good at my job or the multiple areas of law I’m asked to practice. What are some things you’ve done to gain confidence in your practice area?

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Anyone able to provide info on market comp for biglaw 5th-year in the Midwest (non-Chicago)?

Anybody know if and how much I can contribute to my Roth IRA to reduce my 2020 tax liability? I’m trying to pay less taxes but Jesus this pandemic has been great for my law firm and salary.

Anyone working at Levy Ratner? How is the office culture and about how much do you get paid?

What to do when you’re feeling overwhelmed but still need to bill and meet deadlines?

Setting aside dry January (for those who partake), how many days per week do you consume alcohol? What day (before today) was the last day you consumed zero alcohol? For those working from home, what is the earliest you have started drinking on a work day? (Any difference on Fridays?)

Anyone else use their laptop in a deposition instead of a pad and pen?

I'm the only associate on a case with two partners. The elderly, managing partner thinks that a party has had three prior wrecks, I'm confident that the party only had one. He keeps telling witnesses/experts about his multiple prior wrecks, and I keep correcting him afterwards in private, but he keeps making the same mistake.

How should I handle this?

When will I find my passion? I’m a criminal prosecutor chasing PSLF (5 years left). I am just not that into it. My wife is a teacher and loves her job so much she could work 16 hour days. I am jealous. My passion is my family and my job is just a paycheck. How can I figure out what I really want to do? Do I want to get that obsessed with work? Help!