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Fire up those apps and go and meet a ton of people! You’ll have some good dates, some bad dates, folks ghosting you but you’ll feel much more comfortable when it comes to dating and will get to see what is out there
Stop thinking of yourself as a minority. Confidence is universally attractive.
Create a project plan. Identify key milestones, dependencies and risks. What is your critical path?
Well since I don’t have a D, I’m a taker of the D 🤪
I’m older than you and single. And I’ve been doing this consulting gig a while. Prioritize your personal life and relationships over work, otherwise you may get to, or surpass my level on the ladder and wonder was the sacrifice worth it? The only thing that matters in life is having fun and doing it with friends or a loved one. When you prioritize your happiness, all the other work elements will fall into place. It took me a while but finding a partner in crime versus a partner role is what I’m prioritizing now.
Huron to make a humorous point about a morbid circumstance. I like it!
What do you mean by the minority comment?
AlixPartners 1, I’m also a minority (south Asian) and I think the minority comment is BS. Sure you may get less hits on Tinder/Grindr than the average white male, that doesn’t mean you should use it as a cop out or reason for why you aren’t dating as much. When I was a single guy, I would constantly be dating more ladies than my roommate who was a tall white banker although he had less time and energy to date, but that’s besides the point.
OP is definitely using the relative lack of interest and likes as an excuse. Maybe don’t rely on the apps and hit the bars more. Maybe join some nice organizations where you can meet likeminded people. Maybe hit the gym and get yourself in shape to boost your confidence. I was a skinny guy even during those dating years and I did just fine. All it took was building a social circle and putting myself out there.
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Don't worry OP. If it makes you feel any better, many more our there like you. I'm no different. Consulting lifestyle doesn't help with social life unless you're in a big city and travel less E.g. NYC
I am a minority but I don't struggle with dating. Just be the version of you you'd want to date if you were the opposite sex. That requires self awareness and deliberate effort to improve.
Up again given the lifestyle and work commitments?
There is a singles bowl. Go get it tiger
In your same shoes, except just began consulting. As a post earlier said, start aggressively prioritizing it. Give yourself 30-ish days to prep for this, hit the gym, spruce up your dating wardrobe, get a haircut, find a cologne/perfume (whatever you need to feel confident/your best), start finding non-work related things to do... and just go for it. A director of mine told me years ago I could get married whenever I wanted to, just need to make time for it. That’s the answer, make it a priority, give it 100% your effort and it will happen. Minority thing isn’t an issue... millions of people who look like you have figured it out. You can do it, too :)