Hi 🐟! A mix of a bad project with lack of boundaries in the WFH setting has pushed me too far. Axiety, difficulty sleeping; skipping meals; etc. Anyone has tips on how to establish boundaries as a junior in these difficult times?

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I suggest therapy—having a trained professional to talk to is a good place to start to unpack what’s going on. Check out the psychology today directory of therapists in your area who take your insurance.

In the meantime (between now and building relationship with a therapist you like) here are a couple of things you can try:
1. Celebrate all wins no matter how small. If getting out of bed or taking a shower is what you managed to do today, that is GOOD. Tomorrow you can try building on that momentum by going for a walk or calling a friend or family member. You don’t have to do everything at once.
2. Recognize and record the voice of your inner critic. Chances are the forces keeping you in bed are patterns of negative self-thought. If you can pin them down and recognize them as small pieces of data in the grand scheme of everything you have to offer, that will help you learn to face them each day.
3. Plan to do something you enjoy every day! If you’v always enjoyed doing puzzles or playing video games, tap into those good feelings by doing those things and try to pin down what about the activities you choose gives you those good feelings.

Fr tho. Think about getting a therapist who can guide you through this moment. And remember life is a marathon, not a sprint. There are rough patches but there are ALSO good times.

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