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Still adjusting ..working with 1yo and going through divorce and custody battles with multiple court hearings. It’s killing me

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Hang in there…I am sure good days are ahead

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2.5 years post divorce and custody battles, while the ex hasn’t gotten any easier to deal with, things have settled into a new normal where life is much better (having a court order on the parenting times, and the engagement points between ex and me was an adjustment, but once made it is better for all)… Took about a year post divorce for things to settle down, mostly driven by an ex who wanted to test the boundaries of the agreement. For the last 1.5 years enjoying the first peace of mind in over a decade

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They are all the same, I am glad you have made peace with it

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