I am 23 and have just started a job at the company of my dreams, but I still feel like the new kid. Any tips on how to network and build solid relationships?

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A new hire on my team set up little coffee chats with some of us. He asked basic questions about our time and experience. Also asked for advice on how to be successful at the company. Just be careful, ask managers who would be good to chat with.

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The reason you feel like the new kid is because you are but there is nothing wrong with that. I would be proactive and ask if you can have weekly one-on-one meetings with your manager. If there are company events for your area make sure to go to them but keep in the back of your mind that these are work friends and not your buddies from high school and college. You don't want to do something to embarrass yourself.

There are a lot of Tik-Tok, Instagram videos, etc. lately that talk about younger employees pushing back on workload and staying late. Now don't get me wrong, work/life balance is 100% necessary but don't be afraid to go the extra mile. You are young enough to go in early and stay a little later. It won't go unnoticed and will pay dividends later. I made a point to do this myself when I was your age. I sat right outside my Managing Director's door. He was at least 5 levels above me and I was consistently the 1st person in the office each day and he knew who I was and would use me for special projects from time to time. It was that dedication that allowed me to keep a job during the financial crisis in 2008.

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Congratulations! It takes time to build relationships. Give yourself grace and the time you need to become proficient in your role and get to know your coworkers. Always be genuine and put out the energy you want to recieve.

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It just takes time

Age. You'll always be the kid, which isn't illegal (age discrimination) until you reach 40 or 50 years. Let them make the first move, or you'll be seen as a pest, or crossing boundaries and HR will get involved. Just do your job, get your paycheck, then leave. The people there aren't meant to be your friends, so don't go trying to find some there.

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