I find that when something is on my mind I fixate on that and it overtakes my entire life - in the current case it is someone I am seeing. Things are going well but I cannot get her out of my mind and can’t focus on any other conversation I am having. I want to change this. What should I do?

My relationship just ended yesterday because he wanted to “focus on myself and figure things out.” My relationship before that ended (~2 years ago) because he wanted to focus on himself. I can’t help but feel like it’s because something is wrong with me. What am I doing wrong?

Question: Girl friends parents finally came over for a ristha. Everything went great or so I thought but now she wants to time to think about moving forward. The pain point she brought up is that we are in different states and she is feeling pressed. Although in that time she has started communicating less and I literally had to beg her to get on face time. My gut says she wants to end it but unsure. Any advice ? It's been 2 weeks since this event

Confused if parents want schools to reopen or not? I read so many posts here about how difficult it is to work full time and manage kids’ at-home schooling (I can’t even imagine!) so would assume that means parents want to reopen, but at the same time keep seeing a ton of backlash from parents in states who are pushing to reopen due to safety reasons. What’s the general consensus?

Working Moms/Dads: Do in-house positions exist with flex time hours? I need to be able to leave work at 4pm to pick up my son from daycare, but i can get back online at home to resume any unfinished work at 8pm. Is this realistic to convey to any companies in an interview? Pandemic aside, is face time 9-7pm really important? Or should i just try to find a job with a salary that covers a nanny salary and accept that i will never see my son on weekdays (which would be sad for both of us)? TIA!

I went through my gf’s phone and found out she had a crush on my best friend when we first started dating (over a year ago). I suspected this at first but it hurts to have it confirmed and see her telling her friends about him. I’m not sure how I should feel since I went out of line to look through her phone.

So who here visited the Chicago Yacht Club at Open House Chicago and decided they wanted to grow up to be an old white guy? 🙋🏻

Does anyone here work for Axiom or know someone who does and, if so, how difficult is it to stay fully engaged?

Any book recommendations to gift my cousin sister? She studied (masters) psychology and is a trained classical dancer.

I spent an hour today sitting with one of my patients getting a chemo infusion. Lonely and weird time to not have his wife in there with him

Anyone raising desi kids in the US? What are are some of your fears?

Partners with kids and a working spouse, how do you manage? Is it realistic for both people in the relationship to work full time long term? How do you keep marriage going and career progressing?

Anyone here 40s never married, no kids?

Has science shaped the way you care for yourself and/or your family?

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

It’s week 5 for me of the breakup and even though I had a full and fun weekend with friends and people I love, I woke up today so so sad because I wanted to text my ex. I just feel overall so defeated and exhausted from sadness and unmotivated at work :(

Salam. 23M here - all my life I’ve had my back on our faith - never really prayed but had imaan (I guess). After bouts of depression from girl problems (🙄), issues within immediate family, being disappointed expectations I had for myself, etc. I’ve been working on bettering my situation over the years. Faith is the only area where I think I need more guidance. Having trouble relating to friends or family about this. Anyone else been thru something similar? How have you connected back to Islam?

I am a new joinee in JPMC. Can anyone please let me know what are the ratings system
Like
1 - Exceed Expectation
2 - Above Expectation
3 - Meeting Expectation

And also I have joined in Mid April. Am I eligible for Salary increment, Bonus and CEO Bonus? What is the minimum% hike we can expect.

Hi Fishes,

Anyone from Barclays/Accenture/NatWest Group looking for a job referral??

Thank you

Hello sharks...
Currently I have 10LPA. In two days I have a HR discussion with CGI. How should I negotiate to get maximum hike like 100%. Like how to bluff HR to get maximum LPA.

Hi friends, I got non billable project in CT they told that they took for temporary. Please let me know the disadvantages in non billable project.. help me to go ahead with this project or stay in talent pool itself

Do all FAANG companies offer a joining bonus?

Anyone in here doing pursuits? What is director level travel like?

CCTC: 17
YOE: 8.3

Got 2 offers:
Lucidworks - 33
Boeing - 35(Verbal offer after countered them with lucidworks offer).

Now with freshworks, last round is pending.
Let me know what would be better.

From interview perspective, I enjoyed lucidworks interview as the interviews taken by quality people compared to other two companies. But it is a startup.

Btw, I have been interviewed for 6 rounds in Citrix and waiting to hear from them.

Good morning, I work for Solugenix placing top notch candidates at companies throughout the US. I just started at Solugenix so anyone who needs any assistance either finding a job or looking for candidates please let me know. Thanks and have a great day.

What's the review process for firms. I have people getting rejected but I haven't heard anything. Is it interviews, offers, rejections? Or is it review/ interview and rejections then offers.

Hey so like - newfound reason for my procrastination since I got on Ritalin - a tendency towards "putting things off so I can enjoy the hyperfocus later". When I just started taking the meds I was super effective for a few weeks but now my brain seems to be figuring out ways around the drugs 🤦🏻‍♀️ any ideas on how to not fall back into procrastination behaviours?

Did any of you tried the free website creation from @thefreewebsiteguys ?

Hi ZSers,
Anyone looking for a male flatmate or looking for a flat? I have to move in before 18th of July. Any leads would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance!

ZS ka phone tut jaye to ZS wale paise lete hai ?

Is Havas Health and You different from Havas Life? What are the main differences, culturally and business-wide?

I have an offer for Consultant Specialist GCB5. Not sure what the role is..is it a team lead role or is it a junior role? I have 10 yoe .. is it apt? Pls help Thanks

If someone is getting promoted in @cognizant. They are sending a token of appreciation via delivery to home address. So what are we receiving in it. Just curiosity...

Can anyone share the mapping of Deloitte levels to Proserve levels? I am a Senior Manager at Deloitte and recruiter just called me for a senior advisory consultant role but that feels like 2 levels back at least from a Deloitte perspective.

I get so anxious when I have to give my availability for an interview before I start a new freelance job.

Anybody on Trintellix? Thoughts ?

Can we talk about CBD oil? Who’s using it? Any bad effects short or long term? How can I get started? How much/how often? Does it really make a difference to stress levels?

If I had a dollar for every time my boss screamed “UGH C’MON” at his computer... It’d be enough to buy myself the medical coverage my company doesn’t provide. 🙃

Really appreciate this bowl - and this barely matters - but the cover image is quite off putting.

I'm pretty sure I've been suffering from ADHD my entire life. As a POC, admitting anything that remotely sounds like a mental disease wasn't an option. Now that I'm a growntheir 35 year old man...

Ever had one of those days where everything is just making you cringe so bad, to the point all you want to do is sit on the ground and cry?

Today is one of those days, and even when I know things will get better or "this too shall pass", I am sad, I can't enjoy whatever good there is...I feel powerless.

Any advice on dealing with an eating disorder in the workplace? Mine is taking over and my work is crumbling. I often can’t focus or remember anything from meetings or conversations because I havent..

Feeling down and very tired...doing a second launch in a row in pharma. Not bad not great . Not something I’m passionate about..this week worked till 3 am 2 days in a row.. yet can’t sleep feel ...

Love how i think... 'oooh haven’t been anxious in a while ’ then before bed I start to get anxious... 😩

I know this seems small, but my team ignored my birthday this week while celebrating two others. It’s not like they didn’t know - it’s my 2nd birthday celebrated with this team. Feels horrible.

I’m riddled with anxiety and emotionally convinced that something bad is going to happen today. It feels like instinct mixed with dread. Does anyone else get this? How do you move past it?

Having one of the worst weeks of my life but my bosses would flip if I used a personal day. Meanwhile in the office I’m getting bitchy emails and attitude per usual. How does one deal / stay sane?

Weekends are really tough when you're unemployed and job searching.

I’m in my late 20s and struggling to find inspiration of what I want to do with my career/ life. Anyone have any good book or movie recommendations that inspired them during a similar time?

I take immense comfort in knowing that chances are, I cross paths with some of you daily. Does anyone else notice this? It’s fascinating.

How do you do weekly therapy while working full time? I'm looking to start and have a potential reoccurring evening appointment, but it would still require me to leave the office by 5 once a week.

Who is bipolar and/or has major depression and/or has anxiety and/or is/has anything else? Who has been in a mental hospital? Who has been to rehab? Who sees a therapist? Who sees a psychiatrist? ...

I’ve gotten to the final stage in interview process at 5 places now to be told no. First and second interviews at a bunch of other places too. Starting to really feel drained. So much work for nothing