I have a fellow teacher that comes into my room during our common plan time and sits there and talks the entire time while I try to get my work done. I am too much of a softee and don't want to hurt his feelings, but this *&#* is getting old. Has anyone else had that problem, if so how do you remedy it?
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Don’t give social cues. Don’t give out signs. Be soft and direct. We’re educators. We’re all about productive communication. We’re busy adults. We can talk to each other supportively and clearly.

A) If you can work with noise going on, you can say, “Hey just so you know, mostly listening but I have to work while you’re talking. I’m sorry. I hate being rude. I am paying attention, but not 100% because I have to look at and read what I’m doing.”

B). If you need silence (like I do), you can say, “I’m so sorry. I would love to listen and chat right now, but I have so much to do - and if I’m distracted, I won’t get it done.”

If you feel bad or actually enjoy talking to this Chatty Cathy, just schedule another time you can walk a lap around the building or go get coffee together so they know you’re still their buddy, but need to focus on work at that prep time.

I finally learned: It’s okay to make someone feel a little uncomfortable if they made you feel a little uncomfortable first.  Sometimes it’s necessary and healthy for them. They’ll grow from it. And so will you. They’re stopping a colleague from working. They need to know. And you need to get your work done or it will start to ruin your days after school. You got this.

Please update us when you can!

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I just keep working. They get the hint. 😳

likesmart

I just keep working & say un-huh, yeah. If you are not engaged in the conversation, they will usually leave.

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I put ear plugs in and let my jersey come out. “WHAT DO YOU WANT? IM WORKING OVER HERE.”

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Jersey eh?
I think you mis-spelled that.
It's:. Ohva he-ah

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If they like you enough to want to chat you up that much, they like you well enough to respect being told "I don't have time today, I'm swamped with trying to get caught up."
If not, then buh bye anyway.
PS, I'm relieved your not a TXHS, me and my neighbors waste time like this too often.

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Lock your door

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That’s what I do. And put earbuds in.
“Sorry had work to do and didn’t hear you.”

Put a sign on your door, “Do not interrupt. “ Maybe a picture of the Grim Reaper to show the consequence.

likefunny

I have bright green, laminated signs that I made for my door. I have a hook where I hang them. My signs say “Please do not disturb: making videos,” “Please do not disturb: teaching in a Google Meet.” You could make another one that says, “Please do not disturb unless the building is on fire or you’re bleeding!”

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Plan to work w/ other teachers in another settings (in PLC, online mtg, online course) for a week so when the teacher arrives you are in route or not there. The message will be loud & clear w/ out saying anything.

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😂

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I have had problems with this in the past. It was another math teacher and a co-teacher. We were buddies or whatever but I couldn't understand how they had time to just shoot the breeze and I had a list of things I needed to do. Needless to say, I was taking a lot of things home to work on that year. 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ As the years went on, the math teacher took a job at the middle school and the co-teacher goes to her own room during planning. 😂😂😂

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Limit the conversation by letting him know at certain time (whether it’s after 5-10min chatting) this is what I expect to get done. Sorry, I need get back and finish my preparation! Short and sweet!
Have a note outside of your entrance door:”Not available”(from 11:30am-12:30pm)”
That’s not rude!

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I’ve never had a common prep with any of my work friends until this year. I don’t know what that’s like. We are now allowed to be back in the classroom but we aren’t supposed to be around others. After school is a different story. After working together for over 10 years we all know our limits.

I liked the list of options that High school teacher 4 gave.

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lol - constantly but then again I'm the Chair and it's part of my job

smart

We have a teacher where I work like that. I told the other teacher to say they have a meeting with a parent, principal, etc... and their room is not available for a conversation. They also say they have to prepare for the meeting and leave the room until the other teacher leaves. Works every time. We have a very small school 11 teachers and <70 students preK - 12.

HIDE and turn off the lights as you work! I've done this and then if he walks in just say that you are trying to keep a low profile because you are swamped, need to focus and will look forward to catching up later. Lol

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