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Does your organization have a good work-life balance, especially for IDs? Or do you know any such organisation? Currently I am working for more than 12 hours a day. I am a mother of one year old, hence, want to switch to the organization, which has less work pressure.
Wil be grateful to you for the suggestions. Accenture Cognizant MindTickle Encora IBM Infosys
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My sister is unreasonable just like this. Our last “fight” was about similar travel logistics. I just keep my distance now.
I think this is a shared experience. My sister never wants to emphasize with me, only cares about herself and what she needs from me, never the other way around.
Definitely cautious about traveling with them after one trip lol
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I guess I’m the only one here that thinks “dude it’s your family, you put them up and tell your tenants too bad, put some headphones in.”
How does a random tenant take precedence over family? Don’t you want to get to know your niece/nephew?
I thought exactly the same. Not to mention your sister is postpartum and likely wanted some sisterly love.
Continued: Now she’s mad at me and says, “you can forget about seeing us” like I had no idea you were even coming until just this morning and I only have 3 rooms! 2 of which are occupied by tenants. Somebody would sleep in the living room. The newborn will wake up my tenants.
My sister is now mad at me and so is her husband probably. I feel she is being very unfair with me.
I’m not sure how to proceed here.
Good riddance?
Did she just assume you would house them? Did you suggest a hotel?
She can get a hotel and the baby can wake up the hotel guests in neighboring rooms.
Your sister is wrong, but you could just book her a hotel nearby to keep the peace
“I’d love to see you and meet the baby. Let me find you an Airbnb nearby that will be more comfortable for you. Or I’m happy to come visit you if that’s easier.”
I don’t think you’re wrong at all. However consider that maybe she’s feeling post partum blues and wants to reconnect with family during a difficult time. Maybe don’t harp on not letting her into your space and what the tenants need and just offer some other options.
Right. Reading OPs post made me sad for the sister because it felt like OP was only concerned about my tenant. My house. Strangers don’t want a baby to wake them up. I didn’t read any considerations about sisters potential struggles and baby’s struggles to fly out to Florida. Just like you want your sister to think of you and your current situation. Why not think of your sister and her situation as well?
Why don’t you visit her instead
Yeah it does not seem like you love your sibling unconditionally and that’s sad. But not every sibling bond is strong I guess, I would personally never prioritize random strangers over my sibling who is postpartum and who I probably haven’t seen in a while who is traveling with a newborn just to come see me. There is a better way to react other than immediately pointing out how it inconveniences you… probably said this to her before you even said you’d be excited for them to visit 😭
But I’m also coming from a pov of having an unconditionally loving relationship w my sibling, so I get it if you guys are not that close and don’t have a loving relationship since I know that may be the case for some people. If that’s the case then you want to establish your boundaries and just suggest they get a hotel themselves if they want to visit lol
Yeah, my sister left me stranded at the airport onetime and made me get a car renal to get to her place. She was off that day and went back to bed. That’s the kind of sister I have lol. I do love her but man she’s tough to get along with sometimes lol
Anyway, it worked out. I told her to just tell me in advance next time because if disrupts fhings for me.