I think I need a new sponsor. This is upsetting to me as I like my sponsor and they've worked well with me. However, I have crippling anxiety and depression — I have made more than 2 dozen attempts at my life and finally found depression and anxiety meds that work for me. My sponsor keeps trying to pressure me to stop taking my meds and telling me I'll start drinking/using again if I keep taking the meds prescribed to me by my doctor. Big Book very clearly says taking meds is fine. I need advice

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A sponsor’s role is to guide the sponsee through the first 164 (and the Doctor’s Opinion as a bonus), and to show how each step is to be taken.

Outside that very basic function, things can very quickly be steeped in opinion and misguided attempts to help. Trust your gut and don’t hesitate to find someone who doesn’t contradict your primary physician.

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You're in charge of your sobriety. If you've done your research, talked to your doctor, and you don't think your sponsor's advice will keep you sober then it's ok to find a different. Sponsors aren't forever, but it's nice when the relationship lasts. It doesnt always Last. Different sponsors for different phases.

Fwiw I just changed mine 2 weeks ago. Not med related but just needed the change and to work with someone else who has what I want next.

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Yes, new sponsor. I've been clinically diagnosed with depression and anxiety since 2000, taking Paxil. I'm almost 2 yrs sober, life got very difficult for me in my first year of sobriety - marriage falling apart, elderly parent with dementia, laid off from my job. Went to a new psych, went to 40 mg of Paxil a day and 30 mg of busperine a day, it helped a lot. Dual diagnosis is an established thing - addiction and underlying mental health issues. Your sponsor is not correct, it is perfectly fine to be sober, work your program and take medications. Good luck to you and dont let your current sponsor make you feel weak or ashamed.

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I agree, you need a new sponsor. The right meds at the right dose will not cause you to relapse. Your current sponsor is uneducated about meds and giving you terrible advice.

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I’m so sorry to hear this about your sponsor. I have heard stories of others in AA whom have committed suicide from quitting antidepressants due to uneducated people in the program saying they weren’t really sober because they were taking a “mind-altering” substance. I learned early on in recovery that if I’m not a licensed doctor, then I have no right to give medical advice to anyone in or outside of recovery. I see a doctor and I’m prescribed antidepressant medication and take it as it’s prescribed. I have been sober the entire time. I wish you well and hope you find a sponsor to work with that understands your situation.

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Yup. New sponsor. Some people are uneducated and/or ignorant about psychiatric medication. Best find someone who can support your recovery more fully.

Yes I want to revise my statement I left out some very important context and I want to apologize.

I do have very bad anxiety but benzos were a problem for me and one of my DOC aside from alcohol as well.

More importantly Ive been prescribed adderall, ritalin or something else on and off since 4th grade. I didnt even think about this when posting because it’s never been a debated thing for me.

I do not like to go up. I like to go down. My prescriptions will last me sometimes 3 months because I will take only half sometimes or skip certain days to give myself a break.

So I dont think there’s one answer that will fit every situation. I personally will not take a benzo but I can easily take something else that’s a problem for a large number of people.

I think if your being honest with your sponsor, yourself, and with God your fine. And there’s nothing wrong with getting a new sponsor.

Hey OP - how are you doing?

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