I was just promoted to partner at Deloitte in canada and I don’t want to share the news with the rest of my family back in Africa. I heard so many stories about bad luck etc…but deep inside me I want to enjoy this moments with them to remember all the sacrifices we went through for me to be here. For those of you who are from the montherland, How do you deal with this ?

I love living in Miami, but have found it incredibly difficult to make friends. I had a thriving social life/ friend group in Chicago. Anyone else finding it hard to build friendships here?

I work with a classroom of Middle School ED students. One student, who I worked with the year before, has changed alot over the year. Last year (pre COVID), she had a good head on her shoulders and I thought I had good rapor with her. But over that period of isolation, she tried to commit suicide.

All year, she was much more withdrawn and ALWAYS on her phone! At the end of the I was 'beat up by her - she really knocked my glasses off.

How should I approach her in the upcoming year?

Has anyone dealt with coming to terms with an emotionally abusive relationship? I struggle to admit this (because more drastic examples come to mind), but my therapist mentioned that things like yelling/throwing things/blocking me from leaving the room are also abusive traits my ex demonstrated. It makes me feel alienated from myself — like “how could I have allowed myself to be treated like that?”. Also feeling ashamed to tell anyone

How does a person change their mindset to be more positive? I feel like I’m meant for my job, but blame all my life problems on it….having no energy, being single at the age of 30, etc. and it seems like a never ending loop. I look for new jobs, realize I have a good job then am ok for a bit then start it all over again. When I’m off of work I’m fine and realize I have it pretty good. Only real negative is I can’t vacation with my family in March due to my busy time.

My husband does not show affection openly and is quite lazy in bed, and I thought I could deal with it because I love him, but it’s really really beginning to annoy me. For example, he refuses to do any foreplay and basically asks that I get on top of him most of the time when we have have sex- if I push him to do anything else he basically just refuses to have sex at all as some sort of ‘protest’. I am finding myself fantasising about an affair more and more

I dint feel happy when my bf proposed me for marriage.. i am not able to understand why..he is very nice guy, we have been dating for almost 4 years but honestly, in these 4 years, i never had that butterflies feelings with him never ever. Its just that we are comfortable with each other as a person thats it and we started dating.
Whats wrong with me..i am also not sure if i want marry him..

Partners, how have you managed to balance the work, obviously substantial, and your family? I see many with stay-home SO, but wondering if it is possible to prioritize family if your SO has a demanding career

Have you ever been or currently in a relationship with someone of who’s political beliefs conflict with your own?

Not dealing with this currently have dealt with it in the past. My parents started out opposites but now believe similarly. I’m wondering if it is possible in this day and age.

We get it, ghosting happens. But has it ever happened to you repeatedly by the same person? Cashmere Agency in LA calls me relentlessly and then ghosts me just as relentlessly. Sales Force has done it two or three times as well. I can’t help but laugh and think about how it feels like getting a text from an ex—this didn’t work out before remember? It’s only been a month I’m still me.

Person that I liked (probably even loved) is married. I was too chicken to admit my attraction to this person and instead dated someone else. Pretty sure they liked me too and they are now married.

How have you combated your fear of rejection? I fixate on such small things as when my friends, for example, reject plans I have made. This definitely makes me more averse to putting myself out there and makes me ruminate on past perceived failures, which are clearly not good for personal growth

FML. I’ve been dating someone for 8 months and have been having doubts about the longevity of the relationship. This week he tells me he is thinking about leaving our city and working remotely. Even though I was already thinking about ending it, this hurts. I know I’m being childish - being rejected by someone who I was planning to reject! And I know he isn’t the right guy for me in the long term. So why does this hurt?! 😭😭😭

Real talk ... if someone is over 35 and hasn’t been married before, do you automatically assume there is something wrong with them?

I am overly stressed that my parents are visiting and staying with me for 5 weeks. Paid them for a cruise but still have 4 weeks. I am dreaded to live with them 4 weeks without social engagement cont'

People that have small children - how do you deal with your child’s stress and separation anxiety when you go to work? My 4-year old goes berserk almost every day at some point relating to me having to work. The worst part is that I’ve been working from home bc of Covid and I’m literally just walking upstairs after giving hugs and kisses and saying see you soon 800 times. My spouse is a stay at home parent, but that doesn’t seem to matter to my son. A piece of me dies everyday because of this.

Alright so I have been with my partner for several years and recently she said that she wants to get married. Im Happy with what we have now and don't feel the need to get married. Why do people get married? People all around us are getting married and engaged and I feel like that is weighing on her but when we drown all that out and it's just us we are happy!

How do I start the divorce process? Do I have to get a lawyer? Help...!

My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 8 months now. We talk every single day online and recently I went to visit her for around a month. It was great and it seemed like the relationship was stronger than ever. But one week back after visiting her, I felt a strange detachment from her and our conversation topic got repetitive and stale quick. Any advice?

Dropped off my kids to school this morning and just felt unsettled. It’s so hard to concentrate on work today.

Is there such a thing as bike etiquette when locking your bike??

For example when there is a bike already locked to the post and you want to lock your bike but it's a tight squeeze because their wheel is in the way? Do you find another post?

Hi, offer coming through from AWS - is there scope for negotiation with them, or is the offer just the offer?

Looking for recs for an outdoor party spot this summer. 20ish people on a Sunday afternoon, chill vibe, not too loud, somewhere people can easily come and go. Best I’ve got so far is Kaiser Tiger or metropolitan tap room. Any others? Thanks!

Guys..how is nps thing works at Bosch..in offer letter it was given as 50k as nps and that also excluding the CTC..any hint will help

Thoughts on Lockheed? Dropped lower than it's been in a while. Think it's a good time to buy?

My play for next week:
Sell the SPY 200 puts since the market would plummet. Look for opportunities to buy back, probably when the stim bill passes. Would love to hear your thoughts on it

Hi Fishes,
Good Day to all,
Can anyone please refer me or guide me for a QA role preferably automation role ?
Exp.- 1.5 years
Skillset- Selenium, Java, OOPS, Automation & Manual Testing
Thanks & regards

The new benchmark for software enterprise AE offers seems like $330-340 OTE. does this match what others are seeing?

I had completed 1st year in cognizant here is the situation can anyone please clarify the doubt ..my probation rating is 2 and not good comments and my role is PAT until today my colleagues role changed PAT to PA but my role is not changed why?is it behind the reason about review?

Experience/success/insights with an “endometrial scratch” before first FET?

We are trying to change plan. What you’ll think about Aetna EPO, heard it pays 100% for IVF? Currently on BCBS not much benefits if we would want to skip IUI and jump to IVF. Any suggestions here would be helpful. Thank you.

Looking for a new roommate for a very affordable and spacious Capitol Hill apartment in a great location (right by Lincoln Park). 2bd + 1br. $1000 for the larger bedroom (2 closets!). Basement apartment but very well lit in common area. Hoping for someone chill and friendly, since we'll likely be seeing a lot of each other this year! Flexible move in anytime in October. Prefer female roommate (I'm female as well) since the bathroom is shared. Please message for more information if interested.

Hi All,

I am looking to join NTT DATA IPS next week as a software developer, can anyone please help me to understand how's the WLB and culture of the company. And also about the projects which they will assign.

Your response will really help me a lot in making a right decision.

Yoe - 4.5yrs

Hi Everyone, seeking everyone’s help here in a job hunt. I am marketing professionals with 8 years of experience in marketing campaigns management, growth marketing, project marketing, marketing partnerships and sponsorships. Please suggest if anyone can refer me or looking out for a professional with matching skills. Thank you.

How did everyone do in their exams?

Would you ever mentor a junior accountant at your firm? Do they reach out to you? I really would like to help more younger people get into the industry.

Work-Life Balance Thread 🌱

What are ways that you separate work and personal life? Tips, practices, resources?

Drop them in the comments below, help another user!

New in my market and just got review feedback that said “this region (the South) is more passive aggressive, we don’t do well with people (I.e. you, from up north) who shoot straight. You’ll also do..

I feel like the stereotype about being an introvert and an accountant don't apply to black ppl. Everyone I met that's an accountant is LOUD, okay lol

Does anyone else still stay in the hood because it’s cheaper and they’re not really scared or all the crimes and gangs because they grew up with it?

Self-Promotion Alert: In association with my upcoming personal finance blog, I have a draft of a blog post about paying off my car that I would love to get some feedback on

DM me if you’re interested

Anyone else going to be in Dallas for National Training with BDO? (10/21 - 10/24)

Curious how everyone is doing with their coworkers these days amidst the current political climate. I know our field tends to lean conservative so just curious how you're dealing.

If you could restart your career, would you still choose accounting? I have a lot of friends who work in finance, real estate, etc. and make the same or more, and didn’t have to take the CPA. However, I love the stability to being an accountant.

Come on peeps, let's show the world accountants aren't boring..... or are they?

Does any one feel way behind the curve and wish they had mentors in accounting to speak to on a family level that you can trust and know they really want you to succeed?

Anyone work for GoDaddy and would like to recommend me for an accounting or analyst role?

What do you want out of your accounting career? Obviously money is a huge motivator, but is there anything else you want accomplish, build, complete?

Any thoughts to the group on the states opening up?

AZ here - I think it's too soon

Promotions finally announced to all staff and bonuses in the this pay period. How's it looking for the rest of y'all! Generally happy or more ready to bounce?

Guys, I am following this guy name Chakabars on IG, any of you do? He basically talks about racism, being black, health etc... Yesterday, I saw a post where he mentioned that COVID 19 couldn’t touch>