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Ooh this is a good question. I’d say it’s not unreasonable to ask SOs to fly in later, but only if the destination is easy to get to from the airport (not like a two hour journey into some remote area). But I also wouldn’t get upset if some crashing happens by the SOs. I can see a situation where an SO wants to come early, promises they’ll stay out of the way and do their own thing, but ends up hanging around for some of the events. I would anticipate that and try not to let it get to you. At the end of the day you can’t really dictate that someone’s significant other DOESN’T fly in earlier, just that they’re not invited to the bachelor / ette events.
Yeah, I think the thing to do is not try to control when they come in, just set expectations around not doing activities with them / planning things if they’re there early. Also, I would still try to be flexible and if there are some that end up coming down and want to stay in the different accommodation with you guys, just go with it. You’ll have a lot more fun if you don’t let it ruin your plans.
It’s rude and uneconomical.
If you prefer not to include SOs during the Bach/Bachelorette events that’s fine - just then let them know what other amenities and activities they can do during those few days.
Maybe include SOs for breakfast during those days or something then everyone does their own thing afterwards.
I second this idea. At least they are not totally excluded. A simple breakfast will do.
Wait. We are in the same position. I told my fiancé their significant others are not invited to my bach and that is just that. I wasn’t invited to theirs. I realize I’m mean 🤷🏾♀️
I don't think so. I'd say you're just being practical. Haha
I would consider everyone's financials including the SO's, if they have to get a separate flight, is it going to cost more for them to fly than their partner who was invited to come a few days earlier (assuming the people in the party are coming on a Thursday and their SO's come on a friday or saturday, thats a huge flight price difference). Will the early invited people have to pay for their own accommodations (hotel?) or is it covered by you. It may be easier for some people to split the accommodations with their partners rather than pay it for just themselves. I had a friend request that I come a few days early and my hotel room would have cost $600 that I couldn't split with anyone. It was really annoying and I was pinching pennies at the time.
I would say be flexible with their SOs, I know it's your day but stressing out your guests to spend extra and do extra causes unwanted animosity and they are likely privately discussing the burden of it.
How much do the flights cost already? Also if you have all the SOs join it would bring down the split cost of the house…probably something that would make your guests happy since they’ve already invested a lot of money
Hmm. Are they all good with the expenses? I think you also need to consider if they can afford to pay extra money.
How about a simple wine party for them? I mean they've spent a lot of money already. Might as well do something that will make it memorable.
Are they gonna shoulder the plane tickets? How about the hotel expenses?
I think that will cost them more. And I think it's not a good idea to let other SOs travel alone.
Hi there! If you're the one paying for the plane ticket as well as the hotel expenses, then that's okay. You can discuss this with your fiance again.