Just lost a parent and grieving. My work is telling me to take as much time as needed. What is typical for people that were really close to their parent? I am in a fog and unmotivated to do anything. I still need to help with their affairs. First time dealing with death so close. I don’t want to go back too soon and I want to take care of myself.

How do firms calculate how much parental leave to provide, either paid or unpaid. Or do they just pick a number, like “yeah they can get to know their kid in a few weeks and I couldn’t possibly have that attorney out for 12 weeks?” I’m at a small firm, no FMLA or state requirement. We get four weeks paid and four weeks unpaid. Would like to push for more but not sure how to argue costs side of it.

Am I crazy or do women take pride in saying “my boyfriend/husband makes twice as much as me” or similar statements

Where are you in your own path to parenthood?

Anyone with anxious attachment tendencies? Going through a breakup and I keep thinking about how I pushed him away and then am down on myself, replaying memories in my mind. At the end of the day, I think we were a bad match from the beginning and misaligned, but so hard not to beat myself over my anxious attachment during my relationship

First time Dad and my 15 month old keeps running up the stairs at my in-laws place and they keep encouraging it. Stairs are almost 10 inches high with nothing underneath and I’m worried that he might slip and fall in between the stairs. My FIL is a bit of a know-it-all and keeps insisting it’s safe and I don’t agree. What do I do? Don’t want to fight the entire house full of people about this and kid enjoys it too much and cries a lot if I/we prevent him from climbing

Dating someone im crazy about. Only downside we have different priorities. She is party/friends focused while I would rather family time, time w her, or doing hobbies. Any tips? Should I give it time?

How much time your divorce procedure took?

New to Chicago - how do I find new friends here?

Desi folks! Why do you let your parents manage your profile on the websites? It’s so uncomfortable when you get a call at 4 am saying “beta, we like your profile.” 🤷🏽‍♂️

Only for men:

How do you deal with a best friend breakup?

I know friendship breakups between men are not talked about openly, but I had to.

Best friend was a Male too

We recently sleep trained our 7 month son. He went from waking up multiple times during night and taking only 30 minute naps 3 times during day (most cases nursed to sleep or rocked to sleep or took a drive) to sleeping 12 hours at night without interruption and two 2 hour naps and one 45 minutes nap during day. We both love that he is getting enough sleep and well rested on one hand. On the other hand, we are now wondering if he is sleeping way too much.. contd…

Anybody taken adhd meds while pregnant? Or quit because you were pregnant? How did work go?

FIRE newbie here. Is it possible to reach FIRE with a special needs kid? Has someone done it? Are there any alternatives to fund therapies beside insurance?

My relationship just ended yesterday because he wanted to “focus on myself and figure things out.” My relationship before that ended (~2 years ago) because he wanted to focus on himself. I can’t help but feel like it’s because something is wrong with me. What am I doing wrong?

I hope he’s in as much pain as I am. The way he ended it was so cold and selfish and unlike how he was any other time with me. It was like a personality switch. I’ve never been so wrong about someone. I’m not sure how to process or recover from that part of it.

How to politely tell my partner stop spending too much time on playing video games? It was my false at first. I introduced Zelda breathe of the wild to her and now, she is hooked. She even played game when we had the movie night. I chose the her movie style but she let me to watch it alone and silently turned on the game, and played it while pretended to watch the movie with me. That’s not fun at all. What should I do? Any advice please?

If LinkedIn and Reddit had a child, Fishbowl would be it. Or at least that’s my first impression…Hello All!

Ladies in the city - if you have baby hair/bangs etc how do you handle them during workouts? Is there a headband you recommend?

Hi fishes. I am social work professional with 6 YOE in international NGOs. I am looking for opportunities in CSR / INGO /Consulting firms / Impact organisations. Please share if there are any leads.
I have worked in Education, Skill development, Child protection, Health and Adolescent and youth empowerment domains.
Preferred location : Bangalore, Mumbai

Any tax saving ninja technique??

Can we extend the joining date in sap labs because relieving date and joining date is overlapping on 22nd August 2022

Hello,

Does DI only cater to Indian Clients? Or they have projects from other countries too?
Except the US ones
I know USI caters to US clients

Anyone have any interview experience/advice for the IBM associate technical consultant federal position…application developer and test specialist specifically.

If your an experienced staff or senior with hedge- fund experience and want to move to Dallas, DM me to discuss discretely. Honestly great team. Turnover has been low for last 18 months at 10%. Compared to 40-50% in other places. Crazy hours feb-apr, 40 apr-jul, 45 in Aug, maybe 50-60 that last week of aug/ early sept. <40 post 9/15. We have a need at the senior level to fill a gap. Seniors help is needed everywhere so if your interested, come cash in your chips!

HPE employees or ex employees please suggest on this company from JOb security and wlb perspective, waiting to hear your experience and comments and anything else

Republicans will be the first to lock their gated communities when climate change gets out of hand.

Are IQVIA and Foresight different companies? Or
are they the same?

Hi friends,
I have offer from #makeMyTrip and #clearTtrip(#flipkart)
clearTrip is paying 5% extra in comparison.
Can any you guys please suggest ??

@flipkart @makemyTrip

I have joined BNP in June Month. I heard the bonus will be given on prorated basis. How much bonus and hike % I can expect for my first appraisal

I’ve learned recently about some traumatic events that family members of mine have gone through but I had no idea had occurred. Besides my parents divorcing I really have not experienced that many hardships or trauma in my life. Sometimes it makes me worry if I’m due for something bad to happen, if the other shoe was going to drop at some point. I know hardships are a part of life and I feel like I have had far less than normal

Currently in Risk Assurance but have the opportunity to transfer into Deals & Strategy. Which one is better for a career long term?

I'm thankful for my guitar and the one slayer song I learned when I was in in 8th grade every time the person in the room next to me is being loud. Literally works every time.

I'll switch to a startup as the only data engineer and will closely work with all the Head ofs + the CTO.

Any advice/books/... on stakeholder management at that level? Especially when things fail/discussing budgets/new hires etc.

How to promote the automation culture and documentation culture? I find it hard to give boni for automations since
a) the amount of automations isn't the amount of saved time
b) the amount of saved time is hard to be tracked for a single automation

And how much everyone hates documentation is well known.

Does anyone know better metrics or good incentives?

Feeling very frustrated right now…company talks a big game about DEI internally, while requiring new hires to move to Texas/Arizona, while the company’s PAC donates to politicians pushing extremist, regressive, anti-woman and anti-LGBT laws

They want to encourage us to “bring our whole self to work” while putting us in situations where we can’t be our whole self.

Anyone else in a similar place, feeling discouraged? Any tips?

General question: Is there any room in corporate America for real, actionable DE&I discussions and initiatives? I've observed so many corporate versions become an advertising strategy (SM posts, diversity reports) without doing the actual work (increasing representation in senior leadership, salary analyses, having an effective reporting system for bias). Is this just how it is?

If I had a dollar for every time my boss screamed “UGH C’MON” at his computer... It’d be enough to buy myself the medical coverage my company doesn’t provide. 🙃

Anyone else feeling particularly out of whack the pst week or2 ? I feel out of touch and out of control; inspired but unmotivated, drinking and smoking a lot of pot ; anxious but not worried, insomnia

How do you deal with a boss that wants you to quit and is becoming increasingly more abusive. But you haven’t found a job yet and need this job financially.

Have been having really stressful and vivid dreams since quarantine started. A few dreams have even been insanely disturbing. I’m on Zoloft & Wellbutrin. Therapist thinks it’s not related to the meds. Anyone else experience this and got through it? CONT’D

Friendly reminder that depression is a protected disability. File paperwork with your company and they legally cannot destroy your health by overworking you.

My last therapist keeps coming up in my mind. I left her when I moved to a new area before COVID dug in and frankly it felt like leaving a girlfriend. She also disclosed in the final session that she was a member of AA and knew several of the people I occasionally discussed from the rooms. Her knowledge of the program certainly built trust with me early on, but it has been two years. I discussed it with my current therapist but she’s still in there. Any advice?

I haven’t been feeling confident in my work and it’s stressing me the fuck out. How do you deal with this?

Tips for recovering from a bad interview at an awesome company? 😣 I already got the news that they’re not moving forward, yet can’t stop obsessing over the mistakes that most likely cost me an offer.

Love how i think... 'oooh haven’t been anxious in a while ’ then before bed I start to get anxious... 😩

Does anyone have a good psychologist/counselor recommendation in NYC? One that accepts United and doesn’t charge $130 “for the first six sessions”? I just want someone I can pay $35 weekly.

Your secret weapon to deal with stress at the office?

Who is bipolar and/or has major depression and/or has anxiety and/or is/has anything else? Who has been in a mental hospital? Who has been to rehab? Who sees a therapist? Who sees a psychiatrist? ...

I take immense comfort in knowing that chances are, I cross paths with some of you daily. Does anyone else notice this? It’s fascinating.

Any recos for a therapist who:
- is in BK/manhattan
- takes Oxford Health
- is good for treating social anxiety
- is female (preferably but not a game changer)
?

Anybody on Trintellix? Thoughts ?

I’m sick of living in NYC but can’t go anywhere.

Anyone else dealing with anxiety around the uncertainty of continued remote work? We were so dysfunctional and unproductive in the office, the thought of going back is giving me nightmares.

I'm unemployed and my lease is up soon and I have no idea what to do. I don't live near family and my dog has behavioral issues and I've never been so stressed before in my life.

Maybe this sounds privileged.. or plain dumb... I just got back from a really fun vacation and I’m sad! Guess i got the “back to real life” blues. How do I get back to my happy self!??