Men over 30ish with kids: how often do you get rejected by women because you have kids, but they don’t?
Even if they don’t say it, include the times you’re almost certain that was why.

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Preference is always no kids, but I make exceptions depending on age of the kids, custody situation, and relationship with the mother.

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Makes sense! That’s also just as tricky to navigate.

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Futile exercise man. What's the point?

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Automatically filtered out the person who doesn’t like your kid.

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To me- single man with kids = irresponsible
Marriage isn’t for fun .. walk away from a marriage while have children together is a turn off for me

Unless their ex is clinically proven sick and the guy have to take care the kids.

If a guy walk out on a marriage and leave the children to the woman , thank you, next

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It’s always going to be a confluence of factors; for single moms I don’t reject them just because they have a kid, but if they are out of shape, don’t have time, and don’t have shared hobbies the kids make all that a “no go” vs “I’ll see where it goes”.

If you’re in shape, have a funny personality, are interesting, and still attractive…. The kids won’t be a make or break… if you have other flaws… they may be.

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Also whack that you equate out of shape and having kids as a flaw

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I was never rejected because of my kid. Have your parenting act together, have an amicable relationship with baby mamma if possible and don’t come across as looking for a new mother for your child(ren) so you can go be a man baby and most of the time that won’t be the deal breaker.

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Can’t relate but on the other side of the coin, as a single man without kids, getting with married women with kids comes much easier.

EY1 is on the money. Overriding my lifestyle for that is a ‘no’.

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I get rejected every night 😔😂

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