New Dad here. 8 weeks in and I don’t feel the imagined bell and whistles of fatherhood. Is this normal?

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The first few months is a very mom focused experience. As your child start to hit developmental milestones, develop hints personality or when they laugh with you you may start to hear the bells and whistles.

And worse case if not your role becomes more important as time goes on. So stay involved and you may get the bells ringing from the pride of knowing you did a good job.


Thanks D1. I think I over-hyped myself in the months prior. He returned a smile yesterday and it was a wonderful experience.

It might come with time. Give it till your baby is crawling, toddling and walking - your heart will grow full. If it doesn't, don't know what else to say.

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