Private practice has exacerbated my ADHD in my personal life to an extent that I never could have predicted. Something about responsiveness being the bedrock of the career means I’m not able to be as proactive in my relationships (romantic, social, family) as before. Any tips on how to balance the demands of the job without losing the proactivity that I need to keep my personal relationships from suffering?

Hi Fishes,

Help me choose which will be good for work life balance.
I have 5.7 YoE with experience in Java Spring Boot and Microservices
I got offers from Cognizant, Citicorp Services and Opus Consulting Solutions (All From Pune location). All almost similar in terms of pay.

Please suggest.

Most annoying thing a nearby coworker does? I'll lead it off with something I do: sniffle all morning due to allergies.

What is avg. salary paid to a lead (manager level- 7+YOE) at Bain? Also how’s the WLB?

Regarding these interviews: I’ve smoked pot exactly once, about 15 years ago. Do no other drugs. If I disclose that when I ask, is that a problem?

I want to know whether the Medical Policy of 3 Lac which is given by the company by default in which along with me my immediate dependents like my spouse and children are covered or not?

Is there a Gym facility in DTTI office in mumbai?

How is Salesforce project in Coforge? WLB etc..

I’ve been in a relationship now for two years. We are living together. We talk about the future etc. I could easily see myself marrying her. However, I have an issue… cont

Family luddites ask about my work and immediately behave annoyed when I start to answer.

I have a looming sense of self hatred. I take medication I workout and do all the things to feel good, but it’s just stuck there. Constantly thinking I’m trash, in a bad person, etc. Feeling guilty for things idek if I should feel guilty about. This is a privileged problem and I know it’s minuscule to compared to the actual struggles of so many people in the US and abroad. Just wondering if anyone has felt this as well and if so, how do you get rid of that self hatred?

I am soon going to join PWC SDC. Can current employees comment on WLB and job security?

What are your favorite apps that encourage healthy lifestyle in your patients that might need changes in that area?

Advice and/or consolation anyone? My wife and I (both above average health 30year olds) were trying for 11 months before getting pregnant and then had a week 5 early miscarriage a few months back. If the stress and surprise of just how difficult it apparently is to get pregnant wasn’t enough, the miscarriage put us over. We got back to it and have been trying for the last 2 months again, still no luck. We’re freaking out… all we want is a family. Any similar stories? Advice? 😢

Hi fishes, How Risk Mitigation team is in Citi?? I will be working on Global CRM financial application. How is the work here? Is there WLB ?

Looking to hear from people married 10 years +, what advice would you give yourself in your earlier years of marriage?

My gf and me call each other everytime we have free time. However lately she seems disinterested in phone time. She never initiates calls anymore and she tells me she wants to hang up in the middle of the day and not right before bedtime. We live a 4 hour drive apart. And I told her this is like living together from a distance, because I put her on the house speakers. What can I do to keep her engaged?

I was today years old when I found out I 100% have high functioning anxiety

I’m one of the only attorneys in my Texas firm that had electricity, internet, and water this week. I was warm and comfortable but still could not get any work done because things going on in the outside world are distracting. When I try to work, I feel like I can barely hold a thought in my mind before I get the “wait, what am I doing again?” feeling. I just want to know, I’m not the only one that struggled this week to do any work, right?

A few weeks ago I sent my resume in for a PCA posting. I’m qualified for the position yet never heard anything back. Not even a confirmation that my application was received. Is there anyway to reach out about it or should I just forget it and move on?

Is there a Gym facility in DTTI office in mumbai?

No one talks about anomaly, how are they? Also interested in how the design team is there too.

Can we claim internet installation charges as well?

Thoughts on UBER stock price? Likely to remain flat or possible dip with uncertain market?

Should I lower my contributions to my 401k and save up for a down payment faster? I want to start having multiple streams of income. Planning on getting a multi-family apartment but not living there since I want to buy a semi-cheaper house so it won’t be in a great area (Chicago). Has anybody done it and regretted buying a house as an investment?

For a 2-year associate now tasked with senior-like roles such as reviewing and training, does anyone have advice on how to review individual hnw tax returns?

How on earth are you guys getting into these AMD calls for 5/1? The theta is scaring the devil out of me. I almost went with the peer pressure yesterday and then backed out (I am bullish in AMD)

Any insight on Sidley Century City?

Who’s around tonight for a fun time? M searching for F

Should litigation come out of legal or the businesses budget? My understanding is business? Any thoughts here or advice…

Do you guys have any tips or when to purchase ticket to south east asia? All tickets I see is hovering around $2000 roundtrip.

Looking for a referral! First switch from TCS

Yoe: 3.9

Skillset: python, shell scripting, linux, hadoop ecosystem (hive, yarn, HDFS, solr/kafka, scala, map/reduce, Cloudera manager, oozie) datadog, cymatics, nomad, consul, teamcity, jenkins, Git, ansible, Docker. Rest API's

I think with with skillset, i might fall into DevOps category. But still any challenging role is accepted😎

Layoffs at Omnicom shops today?

I've been working at my current job for about a year now and I'm finally beginning to understand how the company works.

It's not easy, though. It's a small company, which means there are only a few of us in each department. There is no dedicated training team, so we all have to learn new things on the fly through trial-and-error or by asking our coworkers for help. The management team seems to be pretty hands off when it comes to project management and project direction, so it's up to us engineers to figure out how we want to spend our time and who we want to work with.

I forgot to send supplemental interrogatories my boss asked me to send. I am so dead. The discovery deadline is over.

Has anyone figured out OneNote? I’m trying to get organized...again.

How do you manage keeping track of and responding to teams chats and emails in a timely manner? I have a hard time addressing chats when I am focused on something else, because I know it will completely derail me. But then I forgot to circle back to the chat when I’m done and I’ve recently been told that my response time is unacceptable and needs to improve, but I’m truly unsure how to improve.

I started Adderall and have been drinking a ton of water, over 120oz a day. My throat feels thick, not like an alrgic reaction almost like a strep throat feeling and my ears are popping. This started when I started my douse, anyone experience this or am I just sick

New midlevel associate at a big law firm and still ramping up. I’m having a lot of trouble tackling small or discrete tasks that are either administrative in nature or otherwise because I don’t have a full plate and something to focus on. I feel bad stopping in the middle of the day and doing something else (e.g. watching tv)since I’m already not billing many hours, but my brain feels all over the place and think that may be the only solution. Anyone have exp. with this or advice?

I’m switching to Strattera (from Adderal XR) after some stories shared in this bowl, and some family members who have been really happy with it.

On my first full dose today and man the nausea is real. Understanding now why my doctor told me to split the dose into different parts of the day. Should have listened. 😅

Everything always takes me so long to do :/

One of my frustrations with myself (writing it out here so I can work on it) is that I will print out something that I need, such as a traffic collision report. I will read it without actually reading it. This results in spending time without actually retaining info. Does this happen to anyone else? I’ve found that I can actually focus when I truly force myself, but often this happens after I’ve discovered an error or an important piece of information that I should have noticed earlier.

Can anyone offer advice for helping with adderall side effects? I was diagnosed a few months ago and I am new to medication. I have been taking 20 mg xr in the morning but have a terrible crash around 2/3pm each day where I just get very very tired. Doctor recommended 10mg ir mid day to combat but I still experience pretty severe fatigue as a side effect. Just wondering if anyone has found any natural strategies to cope or mitigate. Thanks!

Does anyone have tips/methods for staying on top of all the little things? I’m in litigation and it’s a constant struggle to make sure I have accurate and up to date ‘bring ups’ and that I float anf rename all my emails and get all my time in and update my partner etc. like I can maybe get 1 or 2 but I’m never on top of everything and it’s so hard!

My partner now accepts and understands I am just going to have some organised chaos but also I want to make this little shit work for me!

Has anyone used an ADHD /executive functioning coach? I’ve been on meds since I was 13, but am struggling more than I think I should be with basic things. Some of my poor habits have definitely caught up with me. Any recommendations would be much appreciated.

There’s been some posts on the best planning tools (e.g. planners, calendars, etc.), but my question is how do ppl make sure they use them? I get them and am excited about the possibility of them helping for about a week then I just stop using it. Even if I find it helpful I just never stay consistent with it. Does this happen to others? Any tricks or suggestions to stay consistent using planners, to do lists, calendars, etc.

I had one of those VERY nonproductive days today. I think I accomplished maybe an hour of billable work, even though I had a bunch of stuff to do. I just came off a 300 hour month, and unexpectedly got a continuance on a deadline on Wednesday, and it’s like all of my motivation leeched out of me at once.

My firm recently switched to a time keeping system that monitors everything you do on your computer. I have ADHD and often google random things (I.e. scores of games; actors in movies/shows; news articles; etc.) has anyone had a problem with AI monitoring and/or management getting on you?

Recently stopped taking Concerta (after taking it for almost 2 years at varying doses) because it started having some negative effects on my heart rate. I'm getting started on Straterra and a little nervous because I've heard so many bad stories about it. I was super tired the first day I took it and so started taking it in the evenings. Anyone have any good Straterra experiences?

Anyone know of any body doubling apps? On my worst days, I wish I had someone to do this with.

Wondering if I should look into anxiety meds (or if I’m just a baby and need to get used to this life).

Have you tried any? Did it help? Affect your productivity? Which ones? tya!

How do you deal with making mistakes at work? I’ve been doing good work lately but there’s one partner who thinks I’m mistake prone and I just made a mistake on something he asked me to do, but I corrected it quickly. However, there is public record of my mistake.

What’s the best advice/strategy you’ve adopted for lawyering with ADHD?