This should be a fun game, what's the pettiest reason you'd reject someone?

Do you feel explicitly femme / butch / futch / stud ? I feel like I’m not femme or butch and I’d be more butch personality wise in a relationship but definitely more of a futch / soft butch physically? Getting a better handle on this might make me better able to find the right folks for me, dating wise... I know some people are super strict about their “type”

Poll on general attitudes towards open relationships? I’m in one and find that some folks are totally non-judgmental about it, while others are so vicious/rude about it. Curious about your opinions! I understand that every open relationship is different, and each couple defines their own arrangement/rules. For context, ours is a passive one that’s hardly acted on, but we both have Grindr and meet guys for fun on the very odd occasion (whether together or apart). If you’re in one, describe yours!

Is this still active? I’m a 25F in NoVA. Open to chatting!

Any divorcee or single mom 🐠 here? I am separated, and it’s just been hard dating the other cohort. Looking for someone who understands what I have been through. 35 M here

My natural instinct is to assume rejection if I have conflict with a partner or don’t think my feelings are reciprocated. I’ll try to bring it up with them, but I’ll say “if you want to end this feel free” so it doesn’t hurt me (and they can say what they really mean instead of sugarcoating). Someone told me today that they just assume I’m not interested because I always seem to “run” but I’m not sure how to bring up problems/feelings otherwise. How do you approach these hard questions?

Woman I went on one date with keeps me informed on what she's doing. I.e. Seeing her girlfriend or on her way to a birthday party. Not used to this level of transparency after just one date. We do have a second date planned. Thoughts?

Bi girl here doing online dating. I always get SO many matches with guys, but barely any with girls (I’m only looking for women too). Whys this happening - any thoughts?

I feel like being gay just adds another layer of difficulty while trying to date in consulting.

34M looking to move to an area with other singles in their 30s. Currently in the UES but looking to move out for a change in scene.

Grinder is so much more convenient for hookups. Anything similar for straight men?

29M single looking to meet some new people and grab some drinks !

Hooked up with a guy I really like in Montreal, too bad I live in the States :(

Hello! Doing research on a side hustle. How much would you pay for professional / dating profile photos? I.e. 1-2 hrs, 5 retouched & access to outtake jpgs?

29M Boston, athletic fit. Looking for something serious. DM me

Single 24 year old here. Recently joined Hinge. I am barely getting any activity. I'm a former OKCupid user and I always got something there. Do people not use Hinge or is there something wrong with me? I'm a fit average height guy and I am not ugly. Looking for LTR especially now in the time of Corona. Didn't bother with human interaction before tbh but this loneliness is creeping up. 😔

Felt particularly good about how I looked today. And when I saw that a certain someone wasn’t at the office, I felt disappointed. Didn’t realize I was attracted until then. How do I un-realize it? 🤦🏼‍♀️

Do men in their 30s actually want to settle down and get married? It seems like most are pretty happy with their single lifestyle. Asking as a 26F who is looking for commitment if I should even bother

Moving to Boston from NYC and work in Cambridge. I’ve been recommended Back Bay, South End, and Seaport. Where do you recommend? Where is best for dating life?

31/m/oh straight and looking for fun

What's your policy on 'cold-call' messages from hopefuls asking for tips, advice, help? 😇 or 😈

36 F Black NYC Divorced, 1 tween. anyone want to get to know one another better?

Have service related PTSD or anxiety effected your clearance level at all?

Do OPTUM gives reimbursement for broadband installation?

What’s the salary range for social strategists in Austin? ~3 years experience and thinking about making a move from NYC

I think I just screwed up on a call with a recruiter. He asked what my salary expectations were and I wasn’t thinking. I threw out a number that is about what I’m making now including my bonus.

What is the average salary of a Media Manager (or supervisor) in NYC?

Thoughts on $50k for a visual designer in NYC?

I am financially secure (husband now has a high earning job) and looking at what options for "moon shots" at chances of real wealth generation with my years in Big 4 (10+). Month to month cash flow isn't a concern anymore so i can focus on opportunities for bigger pay days. Ideas from the hive mind?

Might be a long shot but anyone interested in joining a lease for a duplex in the RiNo area? Intended roommate backed out at the last minute. Room is master bed/bath in a 2 bed 2.5 bath duplex, 2 cats, rent (inc utilities) is $1,250.

Hello IBMers,
IBM has offered me X amount ctc and i accepted it on portal....now got to know that market valuation for 10.3 yoe is greater than offered ctc....can i ask HR to increase the ctc and change the band...will they consider it?...not holding any counter offer as of now

Anyone have recommendations for ADHD coaches, preferably focused on managing it in a senior-level role? Also preferably if focused on the female ADHD experience. Open to remote coaching with folks in other locations but I'm based in NYC.

Day 1 CPT or H4 EAD?

I am a nuclear physicist and every time I am asked what I do and I answer the question, the next comment always comes in a mocking tone: "so you make bombs? Nuclear is not only about making bombs, a nuclear reactor is a bomb indeed, but not only can it be used to explode. It can also be used to generate clean energy for example.

Do any of the top consulting firms have analytics roles (preferably not super technical) that don’t require weekly travel?

Looking for a great realtor with knowledge of East Austin. Any recs?

I been thinking about buying a 3bed and 3bath house or a condo. I haven’t had much luck in finding one so I started thinking about 4 bed and 3bath. I am single and I don’t have any plans to marry or have a partner staying with me. Is there anyone who’s single living in a 3 or 4 bed house by yourself ? Please share your experiences from all aspects. The only thing that makes me think weird is, it’s too much space for one person ☹️

Hi all! I’ve been dating my bf for about 4 months now and there are some things he says/is into that make me believe he is either Bisexual or has gender dysphoria. I could really use someone’s advice who has a similar experience like this. Is anyone willing to chat? I just want to be supportive and helpful.

Do you find that what you find attractive physically has dramatically changed over the years? Everything from body type to facial features I swoon over is so totally different

I went to a masseur in LV last week and this massage turned sensual. He texts me today saying he’s HIV + undetectable and he tested positive for gonorrhea yesterday. This was my first such massage experience and I feel my world has fallen apart. Our genitals touched and kisses. I did my tests this morning and waiting for results. 😌😌 why didn’t he share this before booking an appt! 😭

The new junior on my team is from the South and refers to me as “Sir” and it’s making me feel all kinds of ways. How to proceed from here?

I know this isn’t a marriage therapy bowl, but my husband has a really terrible tendency of saying things like “you’re being really mean” and completely shutting down during a disagreement when i objectively am not being mean, just truthful or vocal about how i feel about something. It’s a really convenient argument for him because it enables him to either be the victim and me the villian, or forces me to concede my stance and not reach a true resolution. Any tips on dealing with the irrational?

Hi all—trying to understand a little bit more here. Someone recently suggested everyone on my team add pronouns to their display name. I argued against making it mandatory since it forces people to either lie or come out. But I’m also wondering from the standpoint of someone who isn’t cis, what’s the right approach here?

Who has watched It’s A Sin?

NYC 🐠 Anyone try the dating app MOTTO? Any good?

Rant. This guy I have been talking to started making me feel bad about who I am and my roots. About how not American I am. He started calling me odd. I blocked him but now I feel inadequate.

There’s now a lawsuit in Texas challenging PREP. How much longer do y’all plan to live in the US? This is actually how I predicted this would unfold. That folks with moral objections would file a lawsuit like this, and then get it up to The Church for review, and then overturn Lawrence v Texas. This is just happening a lot faster than I thought.

Hey. Is anyone here from Capgemini? Looking forward to interact.

Any Atlanta fishes know if Angeria/BenDeLaCreme are doing additional appearances today? Missed the City Winery brunch!

Do you all still go to Barry’s boot camp? I am dying for an actual workout but don’t want to be one of those vanity gays going out in a pandemic.

Seattle vs San Diego?

Anyone at the Q center today/this week?