Ugh I was invited to a happy hour and then I was told it was cancelled but I heard people talking about how they're going. Now I'm feeling really insecure :/

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Honestly people are so clicky it's sad and maybe it was cancelled and last minute people decided to go. I wouldn't worry about it at all! Please don't!

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It's hard not to but you're right. Hate these stupid cliques. It feels like high school.

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No I get it I understand for sure. I guess if I were in your place I wouldn't take it personally. Maybe it really was a last minute thing or maybe whoever is paying for the drinks couldn't pay for everyone idk. But if you are nice to people then you have nothing to worry about. The only time I would be concerned is if people aren't inviting me because I'm being mean or something. If it really is bothering you is there any way you can casually ask if that went or maybe say hey did you guys end up going and if they say yes say ahh man I was down to go but thought it was cancelled. But you know I learned to not rely on co workers or even friends because they are out for their own and will always let you down. I remember once I was so upset about something with a teammate of mine and cried but after that I told myself I would never let anything with friends bother me again and since then I've really stuck to it. If a friend cancels it's whatever.. if I don't get invited meh.. so I just don't have expectations for friends if that makes sense. It might sound sad but you won't get let down. Now I do have expectations for my family members and significant other because they are important to me.

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CohnReznick thank you so much for that! Your response honestly made me feel so much better. You're right, I shouldn't worry about something so dumb. Just need to focus on myself

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Yep people are clicky even at my firm sometimes but it's all good I just move on with my business.

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happy hours are lame, I hate having t

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Moss it's not about happy hour really, I just wanted to go and meet more people in the office. I don't want to be completely isolated from them outside of work

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OP closer to Jr High sometimes.

OP - I am glad I could somewhat help!! People are just crappy sometime. I'm sorry that happened though! Also did you ever figure out what had happened or did U just let it go?

CohnReznick I think they wanted to keep it to a limited group of people because half the people who were originally invited weren't there. Oh well, I got over it. More important things to worry about now, like trying to pass the CPA exam!

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