Went to team event. Had a good time, left. Got to hotel & saw text saying I should Uber to xyz place to go out. Politely declined, and was still hounded about it. It really made me feel shitty. (cont)

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I wouldn't worry too much about it. He was probably drinking, and has forgotten about it by now.

I think being upfront and honest with people will help them understand, and they will not bother you as much about it. My wife has made it clear to everyone that she is an introvert, and when she has had enough she says "I am all out of nice; see you all later". At that point, everyone understands.

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I’d reiterate that you were very tired/didn’t feel well/had a facetime date with a significant other (or some other obligation). Or for next time “I was in the shower/gym and missed your texts, by the time I saw them it was really late”. This is like college drinking pressure in many ways and should be handled accordingly.

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How do y’all handle things like this? I felt like I fulfilled my social obligations. I even said I was in bed (which I was) and dude still thought I should get up and get dressed to go back out for several hours. I’m also only a few weeks in to consulting, obviously he is more senior

There will always be that person that is like "drink more", "common, afterparty"... I think sometimes I can make an effort and go out more but if I am really not feeling it then I don't do it cause I will be annoyed the whole time. If the pajamas are on, they aren't coming off til the next day :)

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