What are the top three challenges military families face?

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Time apart, mental health, and moving all the damn time

I’ve been married for 4 years now and at the very beginning I made a deal with my wife. The second she was tired of the military, I would look at ways out (palace chase/palace front etc...). I’ve got two kids and just recently retrained into a job that will have me TDY/Deployed 6 months+ out of the year. We’ve had our rough spots but have learned that communication really will make or break your relationship.

Bottom line run out of work before you run out of family.

I was a dependent before joining the Air Force. It can be really tough as a mom with a new baby when the father is gone a lot. Plus there are other things that vary, like this one time his leadership called him into work on the day I gave birth just to lead PT. The military goes above and beyond to stress families out. We have had so many problems and it wasn't because we didn't love each other but we were both irritable all the time from all the added stress.

I think the military does a fine job at convincing people that you need the military more than it needs you, but I think that is not true for most people. People have successful lives outside of the military all the time.

I don't believe there is ever an equal balance, you can give more to your family, and the military will use it against you. Or you can give more to the military, and you lose out on family time. There can never be balance because the military will always want more.

I had to make a deal with my wife from the start because I knew I wasn't going to stay at the base that we meet at for my full 20. She came from a small one street light town that you know both first and last names with all relatives and back stories.It really is about communication and doing all you can to take care of your family. DON'T FORGET THAY THEY WILL BE THE ONLY PEOPLE TO BE WOTH YOU IN THE END! Do all you can to balance work and your family.

Don’t fall into the culture of staying out drinking with your work buddies when you should be home with your family, don’t go out partying and getting into trouble when you’re TDY, communication is key, make the most of the time you are home, and make your family feel like your teammates instead of just being along for the ride. 15 years together, 12 years of marriage, and 11 years in service.

Health and well-Being most probably. Military families often experience a high level of stress due to the demands of military life, which can lead to health problems and mental health issues. Additionally, access to quality healthcare can be limited for military families.

Military families often face difficulties when it comes to education. With frequent moves, it can be hard for children to keep up with their studies or transition into new schools. Additionally, long deployments can take a toll on the student’s academic performance.

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