What do people mean when they say someone is "family-oriented"? Does this mean "wants kids" or "love in-laws" or "likes their own family"?

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It is a politically correct code word to refer to a woman you can take home to your parents NOT a woman who drinks/smokes/hooks up/parties a lot. Another synonym is the “girl next door”. When applied to men, it usually means a man who earns a good living/has his shit together, is kind/nice/non-threatening, and who won’t desert/leave you once the talk about kids come up. In other words, the nice/trustworthy provider type, and not the edgy, fun, player type.

TLDR; for both genders, it’s typically someone who you’d like to be around your kids.

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You explained it so well

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Someone not from New York

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Lol +1000

All of the above, kids may be the exception, gotta ask

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Confusing

Simply means being close to family and prioritizing/ placing value on those relationships. It doesn’t imply the person wants kids.

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it means you have to like her family and she puts her family before you and expect you to be cool with that — avoid

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It means they are boring and Netflix is their dopamine hit.

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When I say it, I mean kids and prioritizing a good relationship with family/support system. There’s situations where people have a toxic family, just as long as they aren’t the problem. I don’t need them to love my parents but understand they are important to me.

I take it to mean that your social life with significantly revolve around their family activities/events/milestones. They probably live close to family or travel to see them often. Good to know if that is not something you want to participate in. I guess I’m considered family-oriented bc I have a lot of extended family in the area and they often invite me to events. I also have immediate family snd small nieces I prefer to see at least once every 2-3 weeks.

I consider myself family oriented in that I’m still very close to my parents and siblings, but I have no immediate desire to get married or start a family yet.

Loves their family, treats them right, and treats in-laws like their own family by association (because they love their spouse). They understand it's all interrelated.

Kids can be a different story because not everyone who wants them can afford the financial burden. But if they end up having kids, they'll treat them just as well.

Values family relationships. Tries to keep close ties with immediate and possibly extended family. Family oriented is a great way to be. Probably implies they have a good support system.

It has nothing to do with wanting kids or treating in-laws a certain way.

It means they eat children

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