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Beyond making them aware of EAP services in the most generic way, just mind your business.
@Associate not sure what "support" there is to give...Unless he/she is not fully functioning as an adult, they can easily Google whatever support advice I'm about to give them
Could you explain more what you mean by “professional response”?
Some jurisdictions have employment laws that protect victims of domestic violence. For example: https://dhr.ny.gov/system/files/documents/2022/06/employment-domestic-violence-trifold.pdf
Law firms may have protocols in place in addition to those required by law to help victims, like barring the abuser from entering the office building and pushing off reviews. Here’s a recent convo about this: https://joinfishbowl.com/post_5j4wp2p3t9
What jurisdiction is the victim in?
Can you help by locating some highly regarded victims’ attorneys references for this person? There are immediate legal steps that can be taken (like a TRO and removal of the abuser from the home), but the victim must feel safe and empowered. The fact that they told you anything may indicate they’re ready to take action.
I suggest posting to the Women in Law bowl your question about how you, as a work colleague, can help. There have been some convos on this topic in the past few weeks. You can disclose the gender of the victim if you want, I don’t think the legal advice changes.
Let them know you are there for them and they should report to police.
I'd take them to coffee and have a heart-to-heart, especially if its a close colleague/friend. It's never okay but you can only help if they want it
The person isn’t going to report it or leave the situation until he/she is ready AND able.
As much as it might be troubling to know someone is going through this, and your initial thought might be to help get them out—this has to be something they do for themselves (not to be confused with doing it by themselves). Often time there is a lot of fear and shame the person is dealing with. And it can be further compounded if children are involved, if the person is not fully financially independent or is very interdependent upon the abuser. There’s a lot that goes on to just separating from someone amicably, imagine how much harder it is to leave when violence is involved.
So let the person know that you can be trusted. Which means you need to refrain from judgment (that means asking why they don’t just leave). If they’re venting let them vent, offer any help you can offer and ask what you can do to help. Maybe ask if they would like you to have the names/numbers of other people that person knows and trusts. Ask the person what the think their ultimate goal might be (is it to leave the relationship, get counseling, file charges). But be supportive of whatever they want to do even if you don’t agree, they’re going through enough they don’t need someone telling them they’re making a mistake by staying. the relationship, despite how true it may be.
Professional response is to moms your business. Human or friend response is to let them know they can tell you if they're ready and you'll be there for them, or, look up some local resources, print out that info and hand it to them discreetly.
Mind, obviously, not moms. Though I hope your mom is well.