What does it feel like to be a single parent serving in the military? My squadmate recently separated from his wife but he kept custody of their teenage child. He finds the time to connect with his daughter but I know that it's hard being apart for a long time. I suggested that he requests to be reassigned closer to home if possible but he also has a passion for his current job.

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Is there a way he can find the same type of work closer to his daughter? That's a tough situation...and sounds very typical of military life. I hope your squadmate finds a good balance :)

Who is watching the teenage daughter while he's away? Seems strange to me that he would have custody if he's often away from home. Hope the girl is okay with this arrangement!

I'm a single parent not by choice but because my wife died after giving birth to our daughter. It's tough to be away from her for months at a time but she's taking turns living with my parents and my older sister, who's also a parent of two. So at least I'm relieved to know that my daughter is being looked after by good people. Maybe your buddy also has reliable people looking after her child.

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