Why are some senior associates so rude and passive aggressive? Do they understand juniors will work harder for senior associates who are pleasant? It also makes this job even more difficult than it already is. Sigh.

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Sometimes seniors are very stressed—they have to manage up and down, getting pressure from partners to delegate but not always having the time to train and help that junior be able to effectively help them. I find it’s easier to navigate the workplace when you operate under the assumption that everyone is doing the best they can at that particular moment, whether it be the junior I am frustrated with or the senior who doesn’t seem to be invested in training. If we all show each other some grace, then hopefully these moments will be more rare.

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Most of the time, it is a reflection of how they were treated as juniors. Rites of passage if you will.

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Is it one particular person or does it seem to be your experience with several/most seniors? If the latter, you may want to take a step back to look at how you’re communicating as well. Are you asking a lot of questions about things you’re expected to know? Is there a lot of back and forth with repeated follow up questions rather than having one conversation? Are you making repeated mistakes/sloppy mistakes? These are just examples of some common issues that frustrate seniors, which may contribute to how they’re communicating with you.

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