Any tips for dating sober? Finding that everyone wants to do drinks as a first date

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It’s tough. I often manage to avoid it by suggesting coffee or lunch as a first date.

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It’s definitely tricky. I mention that I don’t drink upfront. I just went on a date to get pizza, and the guy I was with got a drink while I had a mocktail. I’m fine with that, but I know not all sober people are.

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Lunch or coffee are the best. I also mention I don’t drink early on. For some people it’s a deal breaker, for the right person for you, it’s not. Good to get it out of the way.

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I grab coffee or tea or light snacks. Tacos are always good.

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CD1 nailed it. People respect you more when you have strong boundaries — in dating, and in life. That’s why I establish it early. If don’t like it? Their loss. It’s worked pretty well for me.

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