Any tips on how to give a subtle message to guys hitting on me at work that I am just not into "that"? 🤦‍♀️

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I'd throw in a (true or not) reference to your GIRLfriend or ex GIRLfriend, casually in the next convo

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Men are gross though so this usually encourages them. I usually go with “Thanks, but I’m not into dudes.” It’s not subtle but, again, men are idiots

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Thanks for the responses! TBH I feel pretty uncomfortable vocalizing my orientation in a professional setting...I guess you can call it a mix of shyness and fear of backlash/discrimination.

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I totally understand. Hopefully you work at a firm where they’re open and inclusive. Maybe reference your participation in Pride activities this month or if you have a queer engagement group in your firm, your work in that?

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