Does having kids help or hinder a career? I feel like there’s some slack cut for poor performers because “they have kids to take care of” and there’s an “of course they are here, they don’t have kids” mindset that I’m fearful of. Perspective as a guy is it helps guys:

Can we show unequal rent split up between husband & wife for HRA?
Let's say we pay 20k in rent. I want to show that I pay 15k and wife can show 5k. Is this sort of break up possible without explicitly mentioning it in the rent agreement?

Would you recommend Sedona during Christmas or San Diego during Christmas with a 1.5 year old? Entertainment, safety, meaningful experience-focused.

Sedona will be much colder, possibly snowing/icy and will be hiking, hot tub, enjoying the scenery focused. San Diego will be beach, enjoying scenery focused. Both Airbnb options look beautiful. Will also have 60 year old grandparents joining

I work in Florida where the Parental Rights law concerning gender theory and sexuality in k-3 is currently being labeled the "Don't Say Gay Bill". I find it crazy that so many of my liberal coworkers, even in the social studies department haven't even read the bill and are just buying the low wholesale. I agree that we should leave those choices up to the parents. Do you guys have similar things happening where you're at?

Just moved to Chicago and looking to make new friends.

Age 26, if that matters

I feel old and tired with all the family responsibilities since I was a teenager. Often I feel exhausted emotionally and mentally and then I pick myself up to move forward as I don’t have an option to quit. Who can I blame? None. 😢

Does anyone have any tips for switching to family style eating for 3 thru 5 year olds? Anything that you've seen that works great rules or routine wise?

People who live with housemates / have a garden. Does it get noisy / do you find people in the garden earlier than (we) finish, that distract you from your work?

Also, living how is living next to a secondary school? Noise / traffic etc?

Thanks

I’m hoping to steer clear of any scams by posting & I know it’s been posted before but, again, scams. Anyway, I am looking for something that can be done remotely on nights and weekends after I get home from my daily in-office job. My sister passed away & I’m now helping raise her kids. With Christmas coming, I’m nervous and dreading the season not only to not have her but will I make it a happy one for the kids. I need extra income but need to be home with them in the evenings.

My aunt recently passed away, leaving behind 2 young girls (16 and 12 years old). I’m trying my best to be there for them and pray for them, and have been asking people to pray for them as well. Until I started question what is the point of asking people to pray for them? I know God hears my prayers, so why do we ask people to pray ?

SO said he couldn’t receive letters during Ranger School, but finding info online that I can send. Any insight? Maybe he doesn’t want the distraction?

Love is patient and kind.
Love is not jealous, it does not brag, and it is not proud. 
Love is not rude, it is not selfish, and it cannot be made angry easily.
Love does not remember wrongs done against it.  
Love is never happy when others do wrong, but it is always happy with the truth.  
Love never gives up on people. It never stops trusting, never loses hope, and never quits. 
Love will never end.
Humbled, convicted, but thankful. Our Father, Jesus and the Holy Spirit love us this way!

Just got divorced after being separated for a year. Any suggestions for places to go and meet new folks?

Has anyone ever been to the Alo Restaurant? I have never been there myself but I was wondering if this would be a good setting to propose?

In a serious relationship for the first time since starting with the firm. Advice on how to balance career and personal life? I promote to manager this fall and want to succeed in both realms

My bf has asked me to help him quit the ecigs and told me he’ll probably hide them from me but he wants me to take them. So I have for the past week. He really only keeps them in his pocket, 1 drawer

Stopped a fwb situation. But staying away is so hard. 😔

Looking for a husband 🤣

How do I deal with a parent who has become bitter and shrewd as they age? It’s exhausting and disheartening to be around because they used to be positive and happy. I’d like to help them be positive again but also want to give them space to feel how they feel. I just want them old version of my parent back 😞

Curious what % of partners/MDs have spouses who also work. And regardless of non/working spouse, what do you do to feel a work/family balance?

Hello, i m looking into a 7 night cruise but travelling with 1 year old for first time. I want to know if anyone has travelled with an infant before and what you fed them in cruise ? Mostly, i am also worrier about the following: 1. Finding organic milk, 2. Heating food 3. Is it possible to take a small blender and use within cruise ship?

How do you say pizzeria? Pitz-area or pitz-uh-rea. Also state where you’re from!

My h1b got picked up in lottery this year but case hasn’t been processed yet. Meanwhile I also applied for H4ead extension. What happens to it when H1b gets approved?

Thoughts on Residuals clauses in NDAs? (Ex.: X will be free to use and disclose for any purpose the residuals resulting from access to or work with Company’s Confidentjal Info.” Refers to ideas, concepts, techniques retained in the memory of people unaided by CI. Do you strike?

Any referrals available for QA Manager? Have around 15 yoe and looking for a job change.

Do you keep interviewing after offer signed and background check cleared?

Has anyone here transitioned from small/midsize firm to Big Law? How was the transition and impact on WLB

Doing those mid year peer/self review kills all time that would be better spent pretending to help my clients

Wild to think some people don’t use excel as part of their everyday work life.

Any books/self help materials for someone who is constantly worrying (and waste a lot of unnecessary time)? E.g. No matter if i pass or fail an interview, there is always something to worry about. The worrying/anxiety multiplies when I proceeded further in the interview stages. Now that I signed the offer and is pending background checks, my anxiety is off the roof as it itches closer to my starting date.

I started an antidepressant treatment for my generalized anxiety disorder and it’s been life changing! It’s only been a week and I already feel so much better, any other fish in the same bowl? 😏

I am planning to shift to UK as dependent visa on my husband's visa. UK allows dependent to work. I wanted to know the pay range they offer to 10 YOE for MSBI + Power Bi skills. Please input some ideas if any

Which European city has high salaries? Just moved to Geneva to work at an intl org. Coming from advertising in NYC. The job is nothing like what was advertised and turning out to be a waste of time vs

Hi All,

What is the wlb in Areteans for a pega developer.

Cockapoo vs cavapoo? Easier dog to own

Looking for a dark walnut wood desk top. Ikea karlby is no longer being manufactured. Willing to spend up to ~350ish... any leads would be greatly appreciated. Also, post your current desk set up for some ideas 😬 thanks!

Dear Clients,

Stop read-receipting me.

Sincerely,
Annoyed

Saw a post about not responding and made me think why do you (guy/girl) ghost. Has it happened to you or have you done it before & why?

Any cat owners experience hot spots? My cat has been getting them 2-3 times a year for 2 years now and I'm worried there's an underlying cause

What internet speed do u pay for to be confident you can work at home properly?

Don't mean to be rude. Plz tell me if this is rude. But whats your religion? Assuming it's ok to ask since we're all anon. I'm a non-practicing but was born in a Muslim country. Agnostic maybe?🤷🏻‍♂️

Anyway to slim down legs; just want to smooth out this massive imbalance that the body seems to favor to the downside

These paychecks aren't cutting it. Side hustle ideas?

Graduated college 6 months ago and just been working since. I’ve been living in my city for almost 20 years now and want a different change of scenery. Any advice from people who moved west coast to East coast. I’ve been interested working in Chicago or New York

What’s the scoop at BDO’s national training in Dallas? Anyone have anything juicy they’d like to share?

Reasons to stay in NYC? Kinda feel really sad living here.

Do you get your mom's flowers for Valentine's day? My mom is single, so I thought it might be a nice gesture

Any off beat documentaries to recommend? Just watched the Barkley Marathons.

In unit Air conditioner recommendations?
Living in Florida and building ac is down for next 6 months...
Thanks

I had a sex dream about my senior, but I have a boyfriend. Am I terrible? Has this happen to anyone else?

What % of your free time do you spend at home compared to outside the house? (exclude time spent at work or sleeping)

My gpa fell to a 3.0. I was working multiple jobs in college and had one really bad semester due to a traumatic event I went through. What are the chances the firm revokes my offer during a pandemic?

Advice on dating someone long distance? Kinda big price tag just to see each other.

Ugh I wanted to take my son to see a UFC match in person. Just so happens there is one in November at Madison Square Garden - great right! I knew the tickets would be expensive, was willing to pay $400 to $500 a ticket as long as they were decent. The cheapest ticket in the whole arena, basically top row so you can’t see crap, is $506 before you start with the fees!!! Am I wrong or is that just bananas???? Oh well, pay per view it is, maybe have some friends over. Just complaining… happy Friday!